New year, same old whatever this is

Back to the 6:45am Monday session with Coach 😍 (Last week we worked out at 7:30am which felt a bit holiday-ish still)

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All of this.

If I made it to the end of Drag Race and Ru asked, what do you say to five-year-old T, it would be something like, don’t worry so much about the bullies you encounter at 14-15 (and 40.) There will be something called the internet and in your 50s you’ll be posting your tits and ass on there.

I do feel like a bit of an asshole posting all that. I guess I would love to hear, how do you deal compassionately and appropriately with strangers online, when they share about what they’re dealing with?

It’s been less than a month and I’m ready to delete scruff. Don’t get me wrong: I’ve connected with some amazing folks, including some of you, and have had sexy chats which I’ve enjoyed. But the negatives outweigh the positives for me. So, while I’m at the beach, some thoughts.

Wet run and wetter swim to start off the year moist.

Thank you for supporting all of us at IML @guavajagular.bsky.social, and all the other memories, including bringing your hankie design for @sydneyleathermen.bsky.social to life! Here’s to making more fun memories together in 2026 🖤💙❤️🤍

You definitely made my year richer and more fun, @leathersamfinland.bsky.social - thank you 🖤💙❤️🤍

Last workout of the year done, followed by a cool down swim. 2025 wasn’t the kindest but on the whole I have a ton to be grateful for. Have a fantastic end to your year, beautiful folks of Bluesky 😘😘😘

Underworld at Carriageworks: amazing energy and a flashback (personally speaking) to a simpler time.

[potential Amandaland spoiler but it’s been days so 🤷] Best line in the Christmas special predictably goes to Joanna Lumley as Felicity: she slept with Jagger a couple of times back in the day, “but not in a way that you'd get pregnant” 🤣😈🍑

An elderly family friend complemented me for wearing the cross for Christmas on Boxing Day. Never mind that it’s the promo shirt for Inquisition, Australia’s longest running fetish dance party. (And thank the gay pagan gods that she didn’t clock my socks with pig and slut on them.)

We didn’t make it here last year. Great to be back 😍

I don’t really get into the whole Xmas thing: our two Xmas decorations, a pickled cucumber bauble and bronze statue of circuit party gay Santa, are up year round. BUT: my Xmas kink is queer people singing explicitly Christian Xmas songs. Including this. youtu.be/-KMzgKyk51A?...

Merry Christmas to all you lovelies ❤️

We miss you two, too 😭😭😭

Sydney... I miss you so much 😭😭😭 @alex-1984.bsky.social giving me love, bringing me back to reality and putting my feet on the ground a few times. @timo-of-finland.bsky.social gave us so much love and support.

Might redecorate the living room with @polyamorous.bsky.social

@polyamorous.bsky.social and I helping @alex-1984.bsky.social with his incline chest press set during our training session with Coach Jura.

😈😍

Perfect morning at Bondi Beach with @polyamorous.bsky.social and @alex-1984.bsky.social ❤️❤️❤️

A few days ago I downloaded Scruff again. In early 2024 I lasted perhaps two weeks on there before deleting it. Anyhow, hey, hi and hru to all the hey’s and hi’s and hru’s. And because the stupid app rejected it for ‘sexual content’, here’s one of my favourite photos of me, by Thomas Evans.

@sydneyleathermen.bsky.social was amazing with these ones @timo-of-finland.bsky.social and @alex-1984.bsky.social

Sydney is getting warmer with @alex-1984.bsky.social and @timo-of-finland.bsky.social

Got two swims in on the first full day with @polyamorous.bsky.social & @alex-1984.bsky.social. I can very slowly feel the release of the death grip that stress has had on my body. It will take a while but it will happen. More of the same today 😍

Second video of two I took at Sydney Aquarium: shark with prolapse.

First of two videos I took at Sydney Aquarium: sea apple getting douched

The boys (rhetorically): Should we go to Madame Tussauds? Me: We have Madame Tussauds at home. Madame Tussauds at home: Boomer Banks ❤️

Go and check out @timo-of-finland.bsky.social and our honest conversion ❤️

The episode is now out. Thank you from the bottom of my heart @realclearfetish.bsky.social for having me, and for creating this podcast 🖤💙❤️🤍

Today marks 24 years since the day @bruiserjones.bsky.social and I met at a mutual friend’s place, and 14 years since we said I do at New York City Hall. Thank you for giving me a life beyond my wildest dreams, my love ❤️❤️❤️

Overworked and underfucked as well but @bruiserjones.bsky.social and I can’t wait to have you here, @polyamorous.bsky.social and @alex-1984.bsky.social ❤️

Little teaser for this week’s episode on Saturday, talking to Timo about fashion, leather and also heels… 👠 @timo-of-finland.bsky.social #RealClearFetishTalksRealClearPlay

In this week’s mini challenge, get into ten-minute quick drag and hide your mother’s body. www.theguardian.com/world/2025/n...

It was a real pleasure and a privilege to speak with you, @realclearfetish.bsky.social; thank you. Our episode goes live this Sunday, already a special day for me, now even more so 🖤💙❤️🤍

Reminder that we’re just putting the cum back where it belongs. www.newscientist.com/article/2473...

The longest day of the academic year done.

All the king’s horses and all the king’s men couldn’t put Humpday together again. But we still be post.

WFH but first, this

UNITY • Final One of 2025 Free. Inclusive. Community-driven. SLM x WAQK x DOB Sydney x SYDPAH Dance, connect, socialise with your community. All Fetish and Kinks Welcome. Friday 5 Dec | DJ George Roussos 8–11pm Everyone welcome.

Tits out for a new week.

PFTE2026 entries close on Nov 22. This will be my fifth time participating. Feels good to be stitching again, it’s been a while. postcards.visualaids.org

In the decade I lived in NYC I went to Staten Island five times, each time for the NYC Marathon start, and so my only experience of Staten Island has been running away from it with a horde of people. Oh well.

Aerodynamic head so I can leave meetings faster.

On Thursday I volunteered for the Bobby Goldsmith Foundation’s HalloQueen trivia night. Thank you everyone who attended and helped the BGF exceed their fundraising target for the event! My special thanks to Sydney drag icons Portia Turbo and Joyce Maynge. I fucken love you both ❤️❤️❤️

I may be gay-biased but Sébastien Delage should be a global superstar.

I really don’t like children and prefer them to exist in a different part of the country to me, but this is fucking cruel.

Thanks all for the messages and comments the other day. I’ve never met many of you yet it meant a ton. Thanks also to the local friends checking in. On Thursday the second round of redundancies were announced, even more brutal than the first round. We’re losing some amazing folks.