Ever notice how your crisis is someone else’s ‘whatever’? ​ That’s usually because your values don’t line up. But here’s the thing—sometimes the value you’re protecting so fiercely wasn’t something you even consciously chose.

Enjoy 😊

Why share my story? Who cares what I have to say? ​ The person who feels desperately alone right now. The one aching to believe they’re not broken. ​ Then they read your words and see themselves in your story. ​ They feel understood.

Looking at the wallpaper on my phone. Noticing bits of color I’d never seen before. Why that shade? Why in that way? Turns out, stains on the glass can be deceiving.

Speaking of Anxiety, Temple Grandin had a brain scan and learned her amygdala is 3x the size of a typical one which explained why her fear/anxiety was off the charts.

I'm working on 4 Consulting Projects right now related to improving the lives of people with AuDHD/ND - very exciting. I love this direction.

Yep, that's about it 👍

I Do My Best Thinking Out Loud - Why Is That? open.substack.com/pub/brianrki...

Having enough curiosity to overcome inflexibility is how you realize the edge of your comfort zone was never the edge of your life.

It's so hard to maintain our focus when listening to someone - even if we're enjoying the conversation. That's ADHD for ya. I often ask others to cut to the chase because my brain doesn't have the energy to hang in there for the whole story or explaination.

I can tell when I’ve hit my saturation point, because I’ll be in the middle of something and suddenly become foggy. Not gradually, in an instant. - know what I mean…

Lily is so good for my soul! She can't wait to kiss me in the morning, and when its time for work she snuggles against me as close as she can and falls back to sleep.

So I drank some caffeine to help me through the afternoon. I clearly got the CIA grade that ain't designed to quit.

If your fiction writing leaves you feeling naked, then I wrote this for you... open.substack.com/pub/brianrki...

I'm thrilled to share that Chapter 2 of Agatha's Garden is available for your reading pleasure: open.substack.com/pub/brianrki...

A short story about overthinking, perfectionism, and the quiet power of “good enough” open.substack.com/pub/brianrki...

I’m thinking about the ‘pursuit’ of happiness ideal. I wonder if emphasizing happiness in the pursuit — the being it, rather than the having it — is where our interpretation missed an important opportunity.

Alright! I’m finally starting a food journal. One too many intestinal disagreements—and now a side of foot pain keeping me wide awake. A teachable moment.

Expecting someone with ADHD to think before they act is like trying to walk a kangaroo after it downed a six-pack of Red Bull 🤭

I can often attribute upticks in depression and anxiety to comparing myself to others and wanting to impress specific people.

When you think about it, the vast majority of what we "know" is based on second-hand information.

In answer to a question from the audience at SxSW last week. Full episode: open.spotify.com/episode/20Kb...

Breaking News: A judge ordered the rehiring of thousands of probationary workers across six federal agencies, saying their firings were based on a “sham.” Follow live updates. nyti.ms/422hhPg

Using AI to help write feels a bit like an artist reaching for paint and a canvas. Sure, the paint alone doesn’t make the masterpiece—it’s how you blend the colors, choose the strokes, and bring your own vision to life. AI just gives you new shades to play with.

I’ve finished my workday. I didn’t finish everything I wanted to, and I’m okay with that.

I find it particularly frustrating how many of my colleagues blow it when assessing adults for ADHD. ​ I've started writing something to (hopefully) address this clearly, because too many adults—especially women—are 1/2

Autistic Burnout vs. Typical Burnout: A Side-by-Side Comparison

Autism and Identity: Challenging the Dogma of Identity First - Brian R. King, MSW - brianraymondking.com/2025/03/11/a...

Yep, that's accurate.

Understanding written directions better is one of the best uses of AI. Between dyslexia and processing issues it can be daunting to translate what's written into execution. 1/2

Today's Evangelical Movement reminds me of the religious zealotry that led to the Salem Witch Trials.

"People are entitled to their own opinion" is a form of cultural gaslighting and is perpetuated by those who don't want their assumptions, conclusions, and biases challenged. One result is a society ruled by bad ideas that aren't thought through or based upon facts at all.

Women with ADHD-diagnosed partners report lower quality of life and higher depression www.psypost.org/women-with-a...

Says it all...

Feeling tired and feeling fatigued are NOT the same thing. This mix-up is why so many of us with chronic illness get dismissed—or worse, shamed—for needing more rest. ​ So, I made a chart to hopefully help clear things up.

I wasn’t checked out—I was shut down. Because honestly? I’d rather be anywhere else than there. Teachers thought I just wasn’t paying attention. What was really happening? I was drowning in social anxiety, sensory overload, and directions that didn’t stick long enough to make sense. #adhd

We need to allow ourselves to grieve when decreased function occurs because it shrinks our world. But making peace with this new reality—as best we can—goes a long way in helping us enjoy what we still have.

Being rude doesn’t make you powerful. It just makes you loud. Real strength is knowing you could tear someone down but choosing not to.

To feel more confident in relationships: focus on your strengths, what you know and do well that you bring to a relationship. Instead of hoping things don't go wrong, "I hope I don't look dumb", "I hope they like me."

Then the village elected its idiot to make the most consequential decisions. When the inevitable happened, they dared not intervene—lest they hurt his feelings. Because his tantrums—well, they were as tantrumy as ever.

When these forces combine, they form the ultimate boss battle known as Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA).

I facilitated a one-hour call for Neurodivergent professionals yesterday and saw this today.

"No." It’s a full sentence, I promise. Stop apologizing for protecting your peace. If someone gets mad at you for setting a boundary, guess what – they were benefiting from you having none, you know this. Own your "no" and watch your self-respect (and free time) skyrocket. #Boundaries