on days when i am frustrated about the short amount of daylight where i live, spoiled and comparably warm in california, i like to look at my weather app and be reminded that my ancestral village is currently in the part of the year where they won’t have sun for about two months 😅

me, a curmudgeon who grew up with a wood stove and still keeps the house probably too cold out of habit, reading fic: “it’s winter!! and they’re just naked all the time!!! aren’t they COLD??? how high up have they turned the heat?? who is paying this gas bill????”

v mixed feelings re: jin talking about getting old, tbh. otoh, he is 9 yrs younger than me, so i feel very “you *child*, you are not *old*, stop saying that”, but otoh, part of me just wants to lean back and nod in knowing sympathy and mutter “welcome to the leading edge of middle age” 🤣🤣🤣

we are, as of tomorrow, within the 5 darkest weeks of the year. which means, five weeks and a day from now it will be lighter than it was today. we can do it. we can do it.

::screams in middle management::

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8:30 company meeting corporate buzzword bingo: “monetize”; “systematize”; “productize”; “surfaced”; “discovery process”; and “onboarded”

co-signing “how many languages do you speak?” 🫠 several of them are dead languages, so how are we defining “speak”? and to what fluency level? and what if i can translate a literary text but not order lunch? the answer is somewhere between 1-15, and i could make an argument for any number in there.

it makes me so happy when the first of the month is on a monday. just gives me that blissful illusion of everything lining up and proceeding in an orderly fashion, all my ducks in a neat little row, etc 😂

Fucking this.

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bout to get a whooooole lotta practice on satin stitch 😅

ok, the bag challenge thing reminded me that i needed to change purses anyway, so here’s what’s in mine. now - i recognize that not everyone wants to carry this much shit (and i do have a more minimal grab-and-go version, tbf), and that’s fine! but for emergency purposes, *everyone* should have…

lol i carry way too much stuff to do this bag challenge i’d need like four pics 😂

oh i do love this one though

today we cleaned a bunch of crap out of the front room, got a christmas tree, put christmas decorations up, took down all the fall decorations, did a full second thanksgiving dinner (including whole turkey) and cleaned up after the whole thing. and now, i am fuckin’ bushed, lol.

whomst among us

words that have been said in my house today without my permission: “that’s william shatner’s crotch torch” 😑

so my MIL, who i adore, is a hoarder, and is downsizing, and so sent mr zjo a bunch of boxes of Stuff, including this one we just opened, which includes an emergency camping kit that *very much* contains some extremely flammable fire starters etc 😅😅😅😅 glad it made it safely i guess?

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i forgot to unplug one of the things i usually unplug before i leave the house and now anxiety brain is convinced the house is going to burn down. i am posting this here because saying it out loud helps to rationalize how silly it sounds, and to acknowledge that probably it will be fine. 😫😫😫😫

small victory, because i’ve been feeling especially bad about my appearance lately, but a year ago i would not have been able to wear these pants anywhere, let alone to thanksgiving dinner. still a long way to go, but even small progress counts.

true love is my partner pausing his video game to gently prop me back upright so i don’t get a crick in my neck when i fall asleep on the couch after dinner

if i lose my entire mind and decide to try couch-to-5k again in dec, would anyone care to join me?

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trying really hard not to just melt into vacation anxiety/pms and rot into the couch today. i only have so many days off work, i don’t want to waste any of them. if i can just focus enough to do one thing at a time, it’ll be ok.

ok. it is 8:47. i am allowed to dick around on the internet until nine. and then i need to Do Things.

there’s a post that goes around tumblr every year about now that’s like, “we used to be a real country, we used to have sales of 70% off that started at 4 am and people broke bones for them. fuck your 30%” and istg it has changed how i respond to every BF offer in my inbox. they are ALL 30% or less.

The "Danger Zone" for food (bacteria grow like crazy) is between 40F and 140F, so keep hot foods hot and cold foods cold (more info below). Hot foods 2 hrs max before you need to refrigerate, cold foods can do 4 hrs FANCY SOFT CHEESES GET 2 HRS MAX (Yes, I have made that mistake myself on xmas 🤢)

It's flu SZN, people

OCD brain is just real gd stupid sometimes istg 😑

this one is SO good tho

meet-ugly

does the bcd app load like, v e r y s l o w l y for anyone else? like i feel like it’s always laggy, but today is real bad

preach it

i sure do talk a good talk about appearance being irrelevant and everyone being lovable and beautiful right up until i see a candid photo of myself 😅🙃🤣

When you're cryin' all night For the love that you need Baby, save up your tears ...'Cause you'll be cryin' over me

billy ray was the preacher’s son and when his daddy would visit he’d come along when they gathered round and started talkin’ that’s when billy would take me walkin’ out through the backyard we’d go walkin’ then he’d look into my eyes lord knows to my surprise

it was the only thing hiring when i finished grad school in the great recession.

i’m sorry, what is this weverse notification about a streaming party *tomorrow*?

we shall not let the perfect be the enemy of the good. 🙂‍↔️

i got this ring last spring (from littlerooms.com, if anyone’s curious), well before i knew about BTS, but now it feels like a very serendipitous purchase 🫶💜

good/fun clients make my job so much better. if i have to do an 8am call, at least it can be with people i genuinely enjoy 😁

love to be a part of a community where a bunch of old cis folks show up to participate in a transgender day of remembrance service. community support is real and important actually.

come on. get up. i know it’s cold and dark, but you can’t just sit out here in the car on your phone. you need to go set up for the thing and then lead it, and then you can go home and have dinner and go to bed. but first you have to do the thing you said you’d do. on the count of three, let’s go.