My DID story now has a new section with notes made after final fusion… didmentor.eu/joel/#addendum "Dissociation, especially when dealing with parts, can be an experience surprisingly similar to dreaming" didmentor.eu/joel/#like-a... #did #didsystem #osdd #dissociation #fusion #trauma #amwriting

About BPD and OSDD… DBT is the go-to therapy for pwBPD, but for people with high level dissociation like OSDD, I don't think it's the best approach. In that case, dealing with the underlying trauma seems more effective… @pluralpridehub.bsky.social #BPD #borderline #DBT #OSDD #dissociation #trauma

More people should be aware of this…

Updated my website: "Are you struggling with trauma, dissociation, and maybe even (partial) DID? I can offer guidance and support … via chat/email and (video) call. My hourly rate is normally €60 but can be adjusted according to your financial capacity - just ask." didmentor.eu #did #osdd #trauma

This is how my middle alter Julia (on the right) and her 'sister' (a similarly aged alter of my wife, inspired by a young Viking character) liked to see themselves. For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual... #DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma

This picture shows the strange, distorted view my animal alter Beast (cat) has of my wife. For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual... #DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma

This picture shows the strange, distorted view my animal alter Beast (cat) has of my wife. For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual... #DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma

This reply thread from last week about online mis/disinformation and social pressure around DID is important enough to post here too. I consider this a serious issue and have always warned for it! *Please* be careful whom you allow to influence you, and inform yourself using trustworthy sources…

About why you can still be triggered after the traumatizing circumstances are (long) gone… #trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #OSDD #DID

It's hard to believe, but there are actually people out there who believe that a politely disagreeing Bluesky message can be compared to OEA/RAMCOA 🤣 Well, here is my response. Enjoy the thread 🙃 #OEA #RAMCOA #narcissism

So #OSDD wifey and #DID me decided to count the relationships between our parts. Just the true romantic ones, and ones perceived as family such as parent-child bonds. And only between original parts, not fused ones. We counted 24 such relationships between us… Yes, our relationship is complex 🙄😂

Alter Nicky's account of the organized and extreme abuse she suffered: didmentor.eu/clients/ The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable. #trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #grooming #trafficking #OEA #RAMCOA

Alter Nicky's account of the organized and extreme abuse she suffered: didmentor.eu/clients/ The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable. #trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #grooming #trafficking #OEA #RAMCOA

Maybe people don't have to be cowards… Maybe some of them agree? 😁 Anyway, I think kink can be healthy too. Like, responsible BDSM practices can be a great way to overcome (sexual) trauma… and I suspect traumatized people naturally flock to BDSM for that.

"This and other remarkable differences between our senses, motor skills, and even involuntary muscle control, quickly led to the observation that it was as if the two alters had different 'sets of wiring' in our body" #DID #OSDD #didsystem #plural #alters #headmate www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...

This is how I perceived my inner world after final fusion: a tiny close-knit family consisting of the former fronting alters Reinoud, Julia, and Beast (the cat, always close to Julia). Their separate thoughts and feelings were still recognizable, but they were present within a single identity - me…

Well, I guess I've become a singlet now 😢. My 'sides', the previous parts after fusion, used to still have a separate presence (and gender) inside me, but now all their features seem to be mine. Recognizable - I know which side things come from - but they're mine… Fusion is such a weird process!

Umm, I think I do not identify as nonbinary anymore for some reason… Which is funny because I'm also not really cis or anything like that. I'm just *me*, OK? 😂

Beautiful words…

Great little thread on grief after trauma…

About differences in body/skin experience between my DID alters: My dissociation was naturally largely determined by my trauma and the pressure I felt as a child, which caused it to be very much about the physical body. … www.linkedin.com/feed/update/... #DID #OSDD #didsystem #plural #trauma

The news makes me doubt mankind sometimes… but then comments like this make up for it 😁

Just had a drink and a good talk with my wife's fronting ISH about our relationship, troubled by her host's BPD. It was a great convo! I love ISHs, so friendly and reasonable. And persecutors are great, even if they don't believe it… And caretakers are wonderful… And… Love all(ters), and I mean it ❤️

Yesterday was an incredible alter-day here 😱 My wife's ISH, necessary for her functional.mult., fronted for the first time! Awesome! I love ISHs, like hers, always friendly, helpful and rational 😎 And I finally found out where my caretaker Lydia came from… Many tears from my Julia side followed… 😢

Yup. But it's so hard to start being kind to yourself when your own parents taught you that you weren't worth love…

This made me cry. It's exactly the kind of encouragement I needed as a child, but instead I was constantly shamed - and worse, way way worse… Lots of love for that wonderful coach dad from my Julia side 💜 #parenting #childhood #trauma #CPTSD

Yet, some boundaries are just too unreasonable or unrealistic to expect from anyone. In that case, the moment you're triggered may well be the right time to judge your own reaction - and try to regulate your own emotions. Like with #DBT, if you suffer from #BPD. And yes, I know how hard this is… 🫂

So happy my story is received well 😊 Just pushed an update to the story website with a new title, and taking the suggestions by @didwewrite.bsky.social and @noitesys.bsky.social at heart, see didmentor.eu/joel/

So, I consider changing the title of my story to "An ordinary DID story". Because my trauma is mostly just from a narcissistic mother who was oblivious to the emotional needs of her child. And it led to just 5 alters. There is nothing special or extreme about my DID - so rather ordinary. [thread]

Triggered and now mourning the loss of my childhood pet cat Mimi, which led to the creation of Beast/Cat… Not intended to hijack your grief, @dravens222.bsky.social, just triggered and want to share my own 🫂. I loved Mimi so much 💜 This is from the last part of my DID story, integration… [thread]

TW: pet loss So that thread was triggering… If anyone is interested in the story of losing my kitten, and gaining my Beast/Cat alter, see these 2 sections in my story: didmentor.eu/joel/#mimi didmentor.eu/joel/#number... See my pinned post for alter intros Note that all this stuff may trigger!

When so many important true words are spoken, I have no option but to go on a reposting spree… So here's another one:

It's always weird to me when people won't accept someone else's lived experience… I mean, at the very least it's *their* truth, which is often what counts - and this is especially true when it comes to traumatic experiences!

Oh yes… Tell me about it 🙄

How about this? 🧘🏼‍♂️ #did #osdd #plural #trauma

#did #osdd #didsystem #plural More about (my) final fusion… In the end, after final fusion had settled, dissociative barriers between alters were gone - but that doesn't mean the alters were gone! In a way they are still right there, …

#trauma #plural #osdd #did #bpd As it turns out, all my major friendships and relationships so far have been with severely traumatized or even plural people. I had no idea before, and this realization came as quite a shock, but I do recognize it when it happens now. …

She is talking about the rather disturbing lack of education on trauma and dissociation. Check her bio… Quoted for truth. #trauma #dissociation #ptsd #cptsd #bpd #osdd #did #plural

Says "Trauma therapist, Past President of ISSTD (International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation), ISSTD Lifetime Achievement Award." It's a real problem. #did #osdd #cptsd #trauma

Too true 😂

From my story didmentor.eu/joel/ "Hello reader, I am Joel, and this is the story of how I came to be. You may want to read it to gain an understanding of DID, or just to learn more about me. For most of my life, I didn't exist as a whole. There were just parts of me, …" #did #didsystem #osdd #cdd

Sometimes a cat can give you the love you really need... I sure needed it as a child. Forever grateful. (Another one in a series of posts appreciating loving cats 🥰. Picture not mine, feel free to claim) #cats #love #caturday

… and if your therapist doesn't go out of their way to avoid making you feel that way… how about finding another therapist.

I guess quite a few of us can relate all too well to this beautifully written and touching piece about grief...

Wikipedia: "At age five, she was molested by a family friend; as a teenager she endured years of sexual harassment from her peers. She would eventually turn to alcohol, drugs and promiscuous sex to try to numb the pain. Blige dropped out of high school" She has become stronger now 💪 #trauma #cptsd

Picture isn't mine - but so true... #trauma #ptsd #cptsd #bpd #osdd #did