This is how my middle alter Julia (on the right) and her 'sister' (a similarly aged alter of my wife, inspired by a young Viking character) liked to see themselves. For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual... #DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma

This picture shows the strange, distorted view my animal alter Beast (cat) has of my wife. For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual... #DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma

This picture shows the strange, distorted view my animal alter Beast (cat) has of my wife. For a little visual story about my alters, see didmentor.eu/joel/#visual... #DID #OSDD #didsystem #alters #plural #trauma

Regretfully, I felt the need to increase my rates somewhat (you know, inflation and stuff)… To make up for this and make it easy to get started with me, introduction/assessment *and* the first hour of (online!) support are free now - without any obligations. #DID #OSDD #trauma #therapy #didsystem

Because of yet another awful interaction with them - bringing back the following DNI: 🚫 narcissists, especially: 🚫 those using or faking illness (of themselves or others) just to supply their pathetic ego with attention - not caring in the slightest how much damage they cause others by doing that…

This reply thread from last week about online mis/disinformation and social pressure around DID is important enough to post here too. I consider this a serious issue and have always warned for it! *Please* be careful whom you allow to influence you, and inform yourself using trustworthy sources…

About why you can still be triggered after the traumatizing circumstances are (long) gone… #trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #OSDD #DID

It's hard to believe, but there are actually people out there who believe that a politely disagreeing Bluesky message can be compared to OEA/RAMCOA 🤣 Well, here is my response. Enjoy the thread 🙃 #OEA #RAMCOA #narcissism

So #OSDD wifey and #DID me decided to count the relationships between our parts. Just the true romantic ones, and ones perceived as family such as parent-child bonds. And only between original parts, not fused ones. We counted 24 such relationships between us… Yes, our relationship is complex 🙄😂

Alter Nicky's account of the organized and extreme abuse she suffered: didmentor.eu/clients/ The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable. #trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #grooming #trafficking #OEA #RAMCOA

Alter Nicky's account of the organized and extreme abuse she suffered: didmentor.eu/clients/ The scale of organization/network seems to be small in her case, but the amount of damage she suffered and the level of conditioning are remarkable. #trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #grooming #trafficking #OEA #RAMCOA

⭐️Project Plureal: "When selected you will receive extensive free (online) guidance and support from two experts; we only ask you to allow publication of (not too personal) parts of your interaction with us." #OSDD #DID #didsystem #dissociativeidentitydisorder #plural #trauma didmentor.eu/plureal/

I had no idea really how much my Beast/cat part had been integrated or fused, because not much communication is possible with it (it's nonverbal). Beast is basically just feelings and behavior of an affectionate cat, which surfaces sometimes.

Apologies everyone, for my lack of interaction here… Been rather occupied 🙄

Maybe people don't have to be cowards… Maybe some of them agree? 😁 Anyway, I think kink can be healthy too. Like, responsible BDSM practices can be a great way to overcome (sexual) trauma… and I suspect traumatized people naturally flock to BDSM for that.

"This and other remarkable differences between our senses, motor skills, and even involuntary muscle control, quickly led to the observation that it was as if the two alters had different 'sets of wiring' in our body" #DID #OSDD #didsystem #plural #alters #headmate www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...

It seems rather suspicious how my mother would always aggressively try to fix anything related to my outward appearance through medical means, like unnecessary surgeries for appearing just a bit sickly, and heavy physical therapy for just a minor posture issue. www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...

This is how I perceived my inner world after final fusion: a tiny close-knit family consisting of the former fronting alters Reinoud, Julia, and Beast (the cat, always close to Julia). Their separate thoughts and feelings were still recognizable, but they were present within a single identity - me…

Project Plureal, a chance at free support: "As part of an exciting new coaching/publishing project we are looking for interesting and engaging 'systems' who are able to express themselves clearly" #OSDD #DID #didsystem #dissociativeidentitydisorder #plural #trauma www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...

Well, I guess I've become a singlet now 😢. My 'sides', the previous parts after fusion, used to still have a separate presence (and gender) inside me, but now all their features seem to be mine. Recognizable - I know which side things come from - but they're mine… Fusion is such a weird process!

Umm, I think I do not identify as nonbinary anymore for some reason… Which is funny because I'm also not really cis or anything like that. I'm just *me*, OK? 😂

Beautiful words…

Another day of hard work 😎, this time including a walk to the river flowing around the village here, in beautiful Galicia, Spain

Great little thread on grief after trauma…

Project PLUREAL: the Reality of Plurality Are you navigating life with OSDD/DID and wish for more specialized support than therapy has been able to offer? Preferably at no cost to you? Then consider the following - you won't even need insurance for this: didmentor.eu/plureal/ #DID #OSDD #plural

It was hard work today, discovering a nice route to walk with clients for the resilience coaching we offer now 😂 This is in Galicia, Spain, right from our front door 😎

About differences in body/skin experience between my DID alters: My dissociation was naturally largely determined by my trauma and the pressure I felt as a child, which caused it to be very much about the physical body. … www.linkedin.com/feed/update/... #DID #OSDD #didsystem #plural #trauma

The news makes me doubt mankind sometimes… but then comments like this make up for it 😁

⭐️Project Plureal: "When selected you will receive extensive free (online) guidance and support from two experts; we only ask you to allow publication of (not too personal) parts of your interaction with us." #OSDD #DID #didsystem #dissociativeidentitydisorder #plural #trauma didmentor.eu/plureal/

Yes, it's weird, but somehow I independently invented pretty much all of #DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) while dealing with the #BPD of my wife Marije. Both of us were flabbergasted when we discovered the original DBT books... …

Project Plureal, a chance at free support: "As part of an exciting new coaching/publishing project we are looking for interesting and engaging 'systems' who are able to express themselves clearly" #OSDD #DID #didsystem #dissociativeidentitydisorder #plural #trauma www.linkedin.com/feed/update/...

Project PLUREAL: the Reality of Plurality Are you navigating life with OSDD/DID and wish for more specialized support than therapy has been able to offer? Preferably at no cost to you? Then consider the following - you won't even need insurance for this: didmentor.eu/plureal/ #DID #OSDD #plural

So, here's the reason I haven't been very social in the past few days - my partner in crime and I are now also set up for #resilience #counseling and #coaching at our beautiful place in Spain! 😎 This is in addition to the usual #trauma and #grief stuff we do ❤️‍🩹 counseling.confrontaal.nl/resilience/

Also DNI: 🚫 narcissists, especially: 🚫 those faking illness (of themselves or others) just to supply their pathetic ego with attention 🙄 - yet don't care in the slightest how much damage they cause others by doing that 🤮

DNI: 🚫 'othering' people, especially: 🚫 GERT (gender-exclusionary radical trans) Yes, made-up acronym, but you may know the type - it's disturbingly common… Bigots dismissing any other than their own (trans) gender: the other binary gender, cis 🙄, and even their close cousin, non-binary! Just: 🤮

Just had a drink and a good talk with my wife's fronting ISH about our relationship, troubled by her host's BPD. It was a great convo! I love ISHs, so friendly and reasonable. And persecutors are great, even if they don't believe it… And caretakers are wonderful… And… Love all(ters), and I mean it ❤️

Yesterday was an incredible alter-day here 😱 My wife's ISH, necessary for her functional.mult., fronted for the first time! Awesome! I love ISHs, like hers, always friendly, helpful and rational 😎 And I finally found out where my caretaker Lydia came from… Many tears from my Julia side followed… 😢

Yup. But it's so hard to start being kind to yourself when your own parents taught you that you weren't worth love…

This made me cry. It's exactly the kind of encouragement I needed as a child, but instead I was constantly shamed - and worse, way way worse… Lots of love for that wonderful coach dad from my Julia side 💜 #parenting #childhood #trauma #CPTSD

Yet, some boundaries are just too unreasonable or unrealistic to expect from anyone. In that case, the moment you're triggered may well be the right time to judge your own reaction - and try to regulate your own emotions. Like with #DBT, if you suffer from #BPD. And yes, I know how hard this is… 🫂

So happy my story is received well 😊 Just pushed an update to the story website with a new title, and taking the suggestions by @didwewrite.bsky.social and @noitesys.bsky.social at heart, see didmentor.eu/joel/

Yay! 50 followers 😁 @esperdreamz.bsky.social is nr 50 and wins… an online hug, like this one: 🫂 Will he accept his prize…?

Sorry, reposting the Dr. again, he puts things so well… And I like his use of the #plural 'ourselves' 😁

Yes, I'm an older guy, but sometimes I just feel like this, OK? For real. Like when I'm triggered. Even though I'm supposedly healed. The memories are all still there, and they hurt. Boy, was I triggered yesterday. Twice. Take care, all of you. #did #didsystem #osdd #plural #trauma #cptsd

So, I consider changing the title of my story to "An ordinary DID story". Because my trauma is mostly just from a narcissistic mother who was oblivious to the emotional needs of her child. And it led to just 5 alters. There is nothing special or extreme about my DID - so rather ordinary. [thread]

Triggered and now mourning the loss of my childhood pet cat Mimi, which led to the creation of Beast/Cat… Not intended to hijack your grief, @dravens222.bsky.social, just triggered and want to share my own 🫂. I loved Mimi so much 💜 This is from the last part of my DID story, integration… [thread]

TW: pet loss So that thread was triggering… If anyone is interested in the story of losing my kitten, and gaining my Beast/Cat alter, see these 2 sections in my story: didmentor.eu/joel/#mimi didmentor.eu/joel/#number... See my pinned post for alter intros Note that all this stuff may trigger!

When so many important true words are spoken, I have no option but to go on a reposting spree… So here's another one:

It's always weird to me when people won't accept someone else's lived experience… I mean, at the very least it's *their* truth, which is often what counts - and this is especially true when it comes to traumatic experiences!