New on the advice column: there are ways to navigate a changing landscape with a close friend when romance enters the picture.

A thing that always cracks me up on the gay apps: guys who have screen names like "BIGDADDY202" or something and they're like 21. Mama, help me.

Since it's the 5th, it's a great day to launch the first set of High Five interviews!

Aspec invisibility isn’t the only obstacle in figuring ourselves out and embracing who we are.

Attack on Titan (2013) * joke made by @neilmakesthings.bsky.social

Happy Halloween! This year I’m the legend, the icon Chuck Tingle. LOVE IS REAL

Being ace and acting as though allonormativity is right is shooting yourself in the foot. Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?

Colder weather is here, and my seasonal depression is around the corner, so chances are slim I'm gonna put up with your internet bullshit. lol

Started THE CHAIR COMPANY, and it's so good and weird.

"If there’s one mental shift I think you’d get a ton from, it’s shifting from thinking about the current position you’re in as combative to thinking about it as collaborative."

I do writing coaching on campus, and this week I had an asych feedback on an assignment where a required element was to use AI to get feedback on your paper. gross.

This fine event is happening tonight! www.eventbrite.com/e/clintonvil...

There's a brand new fiction podcast exploring asexuality from creator Zanah Thirus that you DO NOT want to miss. It's called VELVET, and we talk about it here.

It's Ace Week! I did this great One on One with fellow ace content creator Patrick Bex (@fluentlyaspec.bsky.social) about aspec masculinity.

Republicans may not love democracy, but BOY do they love abuse.

For any Ohio folks: I'm doing my first Ohio event next Wednesday! Info: www.eventbrite.com/e/clintonvil...

We were discussing nontraditional students and the newer names they're using for them, and my husband called us "the dialup-aspora"

One of my professors called me out on how much of a slut I am for the em dash. Sorry not sorry.

"[W]e, in the Now, are builders. We are making the space the world denied us for centuries. We are naming what it means to be who we are. That process is messy. That process is long.

While you're out & about running errands, keep in mind what these folks had to say about FIEND @titanbooks.bsky.social @putnambooks.bsky.social

There's still time to sign up for this month's digital workshop, which is tomorrow at noon. Register here: www.crowdcast.io/c/digitalpeace

Never understimate the capacity for ordinary people to participate in atrocities. I hope that pastor is ok

No matter what happens at SCOTUS, conversion therapy for asexual and aromantic people will still be perfectly legal and culturally accepted. And that has to change,

This was really fun. A conversation about amatopunk, radical relationship structures and queer joy. And make sure you follow Arielle!

Next Sunday, a new digital workshop focused on preserving your peace in digital spaces. We'll go beyond the dating apps, as well. www.crowdcast.io/c/digitalpeace

Getting people to fully accept and affirm your happily single life can be a challenge.

BREAKING Dr. Jane Goodall has died. She was 91. It is impossible to sum up the impact she has had on our world and on science in a social media post. She lived a long and incredible life but I am devastated. Full Story: bit.ly/4pPcNFH

I binged SOMEBODY SOMEWHERE after Jeff Hiller won the Emmy. I couldn't have built a more aspec-affirming world if I tried.

We have to live in a fascist country AND endure "Wicked: For Good" discourse?

The Fall of the House of Usher has come up quite a bit in discussion of FIEND so I'm grateful to @screamkings.bsky.social for the chance to talk about it

Being proud of your aspec identity can take a number of different forms.

As the world (or at least the US) goes to shit, contemplate what it would be like to have a 1,000-year old demon to take care of things for you www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/734363...

If asexuality is left out of our conceptions of queerness and sexuality, the picture is dangerously incomplete.

I binged SOMEBODY SOMEWHERE, and I cannot recommend this more. It's gorgeously written and acted.

I found a slime tutorial of the Bway A STRANGE LOOP today, and decided to watch it. And I'm now kind of sobbing. My god, what a gorgeous piece of musical theatre.

"When I brush up against something that flips the “on” switch on my shame or frustration or feeling of being the “other,” I balance that negative input with some positive output."

The Right actually believes deeply in oppression. They just want it to be *theirs.* They see oppression as a narrative that gives them meaning and nobility -- while having all the power and experiencing nothing of actual oppression.

I hate this so much. To frame having an affair with an employee when you're the acting HR person of the company as "a consensual thing with a coworker" is the WORST, and he's using his grossy revised narrative to squeeze some money out of it. This dude's the worst.

Recognizing and resisting the crushing norms around sex don’t just liberate asexual people. They liberate everyone. Spotting and rejecting the restrictive norms around romance don’t just liberate aromantic people. They liberate everyone.

Any book recommendations about the Gilded Age (the historical time period, not the show)?

I understand some of you don't have TikTok, but if you do, know that the explanation below is the best I've seen of what lay behind the Kirk assassination. Robinson is an alt-right nihilist, but in a way that's hard for many to understand. I think Aidan says what I want to say better than I could.

The reason affluent media people are such suckers for “civility” is that the actual content of most politics has no real stakes for them personally. If you want to find these people’s true political feelings, mess with their money.

It’s not “cancel culture” if YOU ARE STILL RUNNING YOUR MOUTH ON THE INTERNET.

Tyler Robinson will be out of the news by Monday. Right wing which dominates media and politics and power is already gaslighting their audience and still blaming "the left." You can't shame shameless people who are committed to an extremist authoritarian project.

Someone told me today they find me “standoffish and not fun.” 1) nobody is more critical of me than me and 2) I’m very selective about who I keep community with. The world is mean and awful. I allocate a part of myself to serve others. The rest is for real stuff. Sorry if that’s not fun to you.

The Discourse + the discourse about how people should properly engage in The Discourse = no one communicating anything of value to anyone

You can express your frustrations with allonormativity without sex negativity. Your issue is with allonormativity, not with allos.

When one partner comes out as ace in a relationship, some difficult feelings can surface. Let's talk about ways to manage them.