If asexuality is left out of our conceptions of queerness and sexuality, the picture is dangerously incomplete.

I binged SOMEBODY SOMEWHERE, and I cannot recommend this more. It's gorgeously written and acted.

I found a slime tutorial of the Bway A STRANGE LOOP today, and decided to watch it. And I'm now kind of sobbing. My god, what a gorgeous piece of musical theatre.

"When I brush up against something that flips the “on” switch on my shame or frustration or feeling of being the “other,” I balance that negative input with some positive output."

The Right actually believes deeply in oppression. They just want it to be *theirs.* They see oppression as a narrative that gives them meaning and nobility -- while having all the power and experiencing nothing of actual oppression.

I hate this so much. To frame having an affair with an employee when you're the acting HR person of the company as "a consensual thing with a coworker" is the WORST, and he's using his grossy revised narrative to squeeze some money out of it. This dude's the worst.

Recognizing and resisting the crushing norms around sex don’t just liberate asexual people. They liberate everyone. Spotting and rejecting the restrictive norms around romance don’t just liberate aromantic people. They liberate everyone.

Any book recommendations about the Gilded Age (the historical time period, not the show)?

I understand some of you don't have TikTok, but if you do, know that the explanation below is the best I've seen of what lay behind the Kirk assassination. Robinson is an alt-right nihilist, but in a way that's hard for many to understand. I think Aidan says what I want to say better than I could.

The reason affluent media people are such suckers for “civility” is that the actual content of most politics has no real stakes for them personally. If you want to find these people’s true political feelings, mess with their money.

It’s not “cancel culture” if YOU ARE STILL RUNNING YOUR MOUTH ON THE INTERNET.

Tyler Robinson will be out of the news by Monday. Right wing which dominates media and politics and power is already gaslighting their audience and still blaming "the left." You can't shame shameless people who are committed to an extremist authoritarian project.

Someone told me today they find me “standoffish and not fun.” 1) nobody is more critical of me than me and 2) I’m very selective about who I keep community with. The world is mean and awful. I allocate a part of myself to serve others. The rest is for real stuff. Sorry if that’s not fun to you.

The Discourse + the discourse about how people should properly engage in The Discourse = no one communicating anything of value to anyone

You can express your frustrations with allonormativity without sex negativity. Your issue is with allonormativity, not with allos.

When one partner comes out as ace in a relationship, some difficult feelings can surface. Let's talk about ways to manage them.

I’m adopting a conspiracy theory that Chuck Tingle and Hank Green are the same person. Love is real and no matter how wrong that is, it brings me joy.

It’s not considered political violence to dehumanize people until they’re so ostracized by society that they take their own lives. It’s not considered political violence to make policy choices to intentionally kill people by depriving them of life saving healthcare.

no offends if this is you but if you're thinking "this is going to make the right do fascism" they're already there. they blew up a boat with 11 people on it for being immigrants. they're kidnapping US citizens and trying to rendition them to Uganda. do you think we're on a trajectory to peace

Excellent response from Hasan Piker, who was scheduled to debate Charlie Kirk in two weeks. On his stream he said: “The reverberation of people seeking out vengeance in the aftermath of this violent, abhorrent incident is going to be genuinely worrisome.” Also talked about his own vulnerability

For everyone saying political violence has no place in this country… Remember two Democratic legislators were shot in Minnesota just this year. And America shrugged and moved on.

The MSNBC commentator saying that most political violence has historically come from the left just once again showed how we suffer from failing to learn history. Lynching, pogroms, race riots, the political violence that ended Reconstruction, and against the Civil Rights Movement. Come on.

Say what about Charlie Kirk?

I encourage you to read and share this piece so more white aspec folks can read it.

Unveiling the cover for THE DRAGON HAS SOME COMPLAINTS! Garrodigh is a curmudgeonly three-headed dragon who pretends to be tame so he can eat for free at the local dragon-riding academy. Unfortunately, the rider he's assigned to is... a lot. Coming Summer 2026 from DAW (US) and Arcadia (UK)!

This is a systemic problem and shouldn’t be looked at as “yeah we know those dumb f@ckers can’t read!” Producing citizens with low literacy skills aids in producing voters who will vote solidly against their own interests.

New series looking at horror through an aspec lens. First up: CHRISTINE The horror of “The One” and calling out the way amatonormativity treats friendships.

Who knew a film from the 1950s would have so much (wrong) to say about asexuality? When I finally sat down to watch Some Like It Hot for the first time, I was aware of the trans reading. What I was not expecting was for asexuality (or a misunderstanding of it) to be a major element of the story.

Watching people be the absolute worst in comment sections on the early closing of CABARET and departure of Billy Porter. If MAGA went to Broadway. Racist, smug, and mean. Worse than the discourse about his performance.

The dismissal of the South makes me so angry. The South is very Black and very queer. While you think you’re sticking it to the cast of Hee Haw when you talk smack about the South, you’re really showing you don’t know shit about the people you project you care about.

If you’re queer and joining on this “abandon the South” mess, you’re showing your knowledge gap. More LGBTQ people live in the South than in any other region. www.lgbtmap.org/policy-and-i...

I immediately tune out anyone who begins with the notion that a “red state” or a “blue state” is a fundamentally real thing. Y’all are weird.

It’s a sequel to the musical BAT BOY, which follows Bat Boy, rejected by the town, as he falls down the Right Wing Podcast rabbit hole.

The people I am most drawn to in any space (creative space, activism spaces, whatever) are the “We are special” people over the “I am special” people.

This is on Sunday. Still have time to sign up. And if you can't make it live, you can still register and watch the video archive!

I told you she's real. LOVE LOOKS LIKE LOLA coming summer 2026.

Decentering romantic and sexual love is tough, when it's prioritized everywhere around us. There are ways to get that work going, though.

My MA thesis “AROMANTIC FRANKENSTEIN” is now my Gothic WIP. You can read more about my explorations of platonic desire, queer experience, and religious de/reconstruction through retelling Frankenstein here: #HorrorWritersChat (cw: religion) worrydollsandfloatinglights.wordpress.com/2025/03/02/w...

You're of course free to keep saying whatever you want. But there are so many other words you can use to describe the season and the vibe. It'll say something about *you* if you know this and keep on using it. Get creative! Use your adjectives!

I'm in an American History class this semester, and we've made it to the Gilded Age and I'm like -- gays, watch out for carts! WATCH OUT FOR CARTS!

This country is willing to let children die so entitled adults can feel like they’re in control of everything.

I can’t wait to see this

A new study reveals the major cracks in American sex education. As we consider ways to improve it, we need to be thinking aspec-inclusively.

You should talk more about the things you love. Especially online.

A new study reveals the major cracks in American sex education. As we consider ways to improve it, we need to be thinking aspec-inclusively.

My trans friends in Minnesota are being harassed by strangers saying that “they caused the school shooting,” so I once again reiterate that I will NEVER support a politician who doesn’t see keeping my community safe as a priority.

I often think about Imani Perry saying “I’m not surprised but I am horrified.” That really is it.

I'm really tired of the "everything should be sexy" / "nothing should be sexy" arguments about media. Some things should be sexy and other things should not be sexy and everyone needs to come to terms with the fact that not all things will please them, personally.

"What if no one else will want me?" keeps many folks in relationships that aren't good for them. Here's how to change our mindset.