This Guardian review of the West End “Oh, Mary!” gives me Goodreads review vibes. You know, when people read a book, but they wanted another kind of book entirely, then blame the book for not being that book and give it 2 stars

This conversation with aspec sex educator Aubri Lancaster @acesexeducation.bsky.social was a really enlightening one.

It’s so disappointing that people have turned the act of reading into a gatekept fandom.

I got into hockey last season, but now when I share I’m kinda new to loving hockey, people will assume it’s because of Heated Rivalry. I AM HERE FOR THE LOVE OF THE GAME 😂

I wish the conversation around roles and the sexuality of actors focused less on “can they?” and more on “Gay actors get less opportunities and are disadvantaged professionally.” Casting gay actors in gay roles is about making being a gay actor a viable professional pursuit.

This is the ideal gay couple. You may not like it, but this is what peak faggotry looks like.

Seriously y’all go read GAME CHANGER. When you get *everything* that leads up to that kiss on the ice… *chef’s kiss x 1000*

They never really stopped being a white supremacy party, and this grifter demonstrates how profitable white supremacy is and how that profit will always exceed decency.

"Your aspec identity is everywhere in who you are, and when you can see it that way, everything you are and do is linked to that experience. It gives you a lot to celebrate and be grateful for."

Looking forward to the announcement of the Trump Long Walk.

The United States is such an embarrassing country.

I am Jujubee, reading drafts of student papers:

Hell is the discussion board for my history class where all the college students think Phyllis Schlafly had some really good points, though.

All I know is I’m going to sob through MERRILY WE ROLL ALONG this weekend.

i strongly, strongly believe that good writing is downstream of clear thinking and a strong understanding of the subject matter at hand. without fail, tortured writing comes from writers who don’t know and can’t think clearly about anything.

I know they're hypocrites. You know they're hypocrites. THEY know they're hypocrites. So your post pointing out the hypocrisy of Republicans is for what or who exactly?

White gay men, please stop using Black slang incorrectly in 2026.

If you see this, post your favorite musical. #musical #theatergay #sundaypoll

Very sad to hear about the death of Tom Stoppard. Genius playwright. Extraordinary career.

Why am I using “queer?” Because I’m not letting homophobes control what that word means.

WISHMASTER is kind of a horror Amelia Bedelia.

If happiness and fulfillment make me unsuccessful, then baby sit back and watch me NOT FUCKING SUCCEED.

On Childs, on Nauls, on Blair and MacReady! On Palmer, on Norris, on Clark and the Thingy!

Here’s why I always sign off with “I’m glad you’re here.”

Aspec language being used by allo people in ways that erase their aspec meanings point to the necessity for expanding aspec literacy for allo people.

Me watching people discovering Act Two of Wicked is a little bit of a mess:

First semester at my Ohio university under SB1, and this question now appears on the course evals. Sorry, Ohio. Not gonna be a narc.

Super excited for BEING ARO!

"Instead of spending your time trying to figure out how to please an imaginary partner, focus your time on imagining what you want out of a relationship and a partner. Think about the things that make a relationship fulfilling and nurturing to you."

I deeply enjoyed talking horror, reclaiming stories, and aspec power with my friend @nocturnalxlight.bsky.social. This was an absolute delight, and Ell delivers so many gems here. Gotta read it.

can someone recommend a therapy theory-minded book about trauma? I'm interested in a text that will explore trauma from the angle of how therapy understands it and how it approaches it treatment-wise.

Frankenstein (2025)

From the advice column: "Enter new connections as you. Live in that good space of your interests, your sense of humor, your care for other people, your curiosity about their lives. Don’t forget: you are not exclusively your challenges."

Had to postone, so this workshop is now coming up on Sunday! www.crowdcast.io/c/aspecfree

I’ve had a few interactions recently with people who say they’re demisexual and then describe wildly not demisexual experiences, and I fear allo people are gonna render that word meaningless for actual ace-spec demi folks.

There's often a suggestion that sex-favorable ace people have an easy road. But sex-favorable asexuality is still asexuality.

I'm of course very happy the Supreme Court won't hear the case to overturn Obergefell v Hodges. That's great news. I would not be surprised, however, if the dismantling of marriage equality shows up in some other form down the road.

Therapists I’ve jived with in my life have all been men I thought, “that’s a gay man, Maury” but were married to women and had children. That’s my new screening question going forward.

New on the advice column: there are ways to navigate a changing landscape with a close friend when romance enters the picture.

A thing that always cracks me up on the gay apps: guys who have screen names like "BIGDADDY202" or something and they're like 21. Mama, help me.

Since it's the 5th, it's a great day to launch the first set of High Five interviews!

Aspec invisibility isn’t the only obstacle in figuring ourselves out and embracing who we are.

Attack on Titan (2013) * joke made by @neilmakesthings.bsky.social

Happy Halloween! This year I’m the legend, the icon Chuck Tingle. LOVE IS REAL

Being ace and acting as though allonormativity is right is shooting yourself in the foot. Why would you adhere to a worldview that doesn’t think you deserve to exist as yourself?

Colder weather is here, and my seasonal depression is around the corner, so chances are slim I'm gonna put up with your internet bullshit. lol

Started THE CHAIR COMPANY, and it's so good and weird.

"If there’s one mental shift I think you’d get a ton from, it’s shifting from thinking about the current position you’re in as combative to thinking about it as collaborative."

I do writing coaching on campus, and this week I had an asych feedback on an assignment where a required element was to use AI to get feedback on your paper. gross.