Was talking to my daddy bout this yesterday cause I notice I tend to worry bout people children more than they do sometimes. He told me not to worry bout the kids because kids are smart and eventually will figure out who their parents are and how to move in regards to them. Kinda broke my heart.

Unparents give some of the best advice

Imagine if society focused on raising men, like for real present and conscious parenting to raise men to lead with kindness and towards strengthening their communities... Though we are not a monolith and far from perfect, I think trans masc folks provide a space in which to reimagine men.

I miss life before the internet was in everyones pocket …

I used to give advice to parents as a person with no children of my own. After I had kids, I realized a lot of my advice was unsolicited, condescending, and sometimes bad. I agree with you but I would hold it until asked or in cases of clear wrong like "Don't slap your kids like that"

Stay hydrated 💦

Unpopular opinion: you don’t need to be a parent to give good parenting advice.

Lmao honestly

Do you consider yourself prochoice or pro-life ?

Maybe you can't save the world but you can still make a meaningful difference.

All children deserve to have a safe home to lay their heads down each and every night. We have to fight for that as a society. Families need housing whether they have money or not.

What's one random wish you had growing up ?

Your children don't usually know how to ask for what they need so they just pester you for what they want.

Ask your kids to grade your parenting and just see what they say. The answers are always insightful and sometimes they're also very funny. Perception is reality. Don't just assume your kids have the same perception as you about what's going on.

When you hurt your kids feelings, apologize to them.

At what age did you really understand death ?

Did you get whooped as a kid ?

How would you define a "good" parent ?

You can't control the world but you have some control over what things in the world your kids are exposed to. Where you have no control over exposure, you can still have some control over the knowledge your kids intake.

You needed a safe space to be alone when you were a kid because you grew up with a house full of people. Your only child whom you raised in silence might need noise because they're so used to peace and quiet that it drives them crazy. You see how that goes ? You have to pay attention to your kids

A more supportive and healed mom.

Any Goosebumps book I could get my hands on. I can’t remember if I read Bud Not Buddy in elementary or middle school but that was a favorite as well.

The Choose Your Own Adventure Series (seriously, fuck that genie) Tales Of A Fourth Grade Nothing

The Ramona Quimby books

Do you sing lullabies to your baby ? Or did you when your kids were babies ?

Babies tend to calm down with movement. Raise your hand if you've ever found yourself going for a drive late at night just to calm down a baby.

Remember that yes you are a parent but you're more than that too. Make your way back to yourself. You deserve to live for yourself too.

All of the Amelia Bedelia books and the Harriet, the spy books and Matilda! Mostly Matilda because I figured out that you really can print documents at the library to escape your crazy parents 😂

Charlotte’s Web easily. Was trying to bring her back lol

I would read these over and over.

Autobiography of Malcolm X

We genuinely are our own gang. I love it

Hell no! I’m good at this job

Watching me get raised by me and trying to decide which parts to let breathe and which to try and course correct

I just do the opposite

ABSOLUTELY TF NOT

A hug

Goosebumps, the ones where you pick what happens next

Loved these books

The Choose Your Own Adventure series for me.

Captain underpants 😂

The Baily School Kids! i *loved* these books. (although there are some i never got to read. could never keep them in the library). i lowkey wanna read em again, idc how old i am 😂

The Animorphs series of books. Those stories were pretty dark

The Outsiders was my shit.

James And The Giant Peach

In the younger part I was on the Bernstein Bears heavy

I'm sure they were Goosebumps or Animorphs books.

What grades do you think should be included in middle school ? 6, 7, 8 ? Just 7, 8 ? Something else ?

Being stuck dealing with the other parent