If anyone can teach us about the real-world consequences of cancel culture, it's @lydialaurenson.bsky.social For the season finale of The Ick, her essay brings down the house: www.emilybynight.com/p/how-i-got-...

what happens with the radical left kicks you out for being too radical? on The Ick: Kit reflects on fighting for sex worker rights in New Orleans, and the Marxists who turned their backs on her www.emilybynight.com/p/the-left-g...

"hot girls have tummy issues" is a funny meme, sure...but when you learn that 90% of women with IBS also have an eating disorder the meme seems morbidly twisted

what happens when a sidewalk fortune teller performs ego death on stage during an improv occult play? one of the greatest disaster stories of our time! New on The Ick: a story from @joetforhire.com that smashes the gas and doesn't let up www.emilybynight.com/p/the-idiots...

Why do you hate the word "moist"? why do wet sounds like teeth-sucking, slurping, and swallowing evoke a sense of disgust and rage? @jakee.bsky.social explains in dazzling detail on The Ick... emilybynight.substack.com/p/the-moist-...

I lived at an anarchist commune for 3 years and learned a lot about “going viral”. Here's a story in three plagues. Read my new piece in The Ick: open.substack.com/pub/emilybyn...

Is "the ick" real? @etirabys.bsky.social investigated and found that women's icks fall into 3 main categories: 1. Raw fitness icks - manual dexterity, tool use (e.g. rolling dice off table, running into screen door) - cognitive inability (e.g. bad at spelling)

Why do men's feelings about motherhood often feel so idealistic and rigid? Why do they thought police the image of motherhood? what's going on? are men ok? Season 4 of The Ick kicks off today with an absolute banger from @eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev -> www.emilybynight.com/p/men-want-t...

my non-gardener friends never ask about my bone meal or NKP ratio - like do you even care about me

Thrilled to announce Season 4 of The Ick, featuring writing from @eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev, @jakee.bsky.social, @lydialaurenson.bsky.social, @ninatummyache.bsky.social, @deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com + more surprise guests TBA!

starting a burlesque career in my late 30s, you can just do things

do you put your elbows on the table, heathen? www.emilybynight.com/p/why-no-elb...

Compliments you should give to strangers: Specific ✅ “Your tie and vest are so well-coordinated.” Related to taste/style ✅ “That book is my favorite—great choice.” No strings attached ✅ "You have such a warm smile!" said as you pass walking the opposite direction

We have tiny rocks (otoliths) in our inner ear canals that perceive acceleration and gravity They're literally rolling around in our heads helping us understand where the ground is!!

Can you ghost someone while also respecting their dignity? Here's my take: emilybynight.substack.com/p/how-to-ghost

I learned recently about the 5 dimensions of curiosity. It's a really interesting constellation of behaviors, not just the flat trait of "high openness" ->

My current beat: the intersection of AI and taste. Really fascinating insights came out this past week, here's what I've been reading:

Think you're "not good" at conversation? 4 findings from psychology studies you should know about: 1. "liking gap" illusion: most people are liked more than they know 2. we reliably *over* estimate the awkwardness & *under* estimate the happiness we'll feel after deep conversations w strangers

silence, chudward

me, an apex predator, wearing a little raincoat? so humiliating

Conversation advice from Emily Post: "The joy of joys is the person of light but unmalicious humor" "but the man who has been led to believe that he is a brilliant and interesting talker has been led to make himself a rapacious pest"

This is very interesting, about the gaps we leave (or don't) when in conversation, and how that's a whole cultural thing, with big differences from one place to the next.

tbh I would pay way more than a dollar and a half to go to the tree museum

If you're talking to someone who is loud, interrupts you, and never asks you questions - are they the asshole? Not necessarily. They were likely raised in an "interrupt" and "declarative" linguistic culture. Had a lot of fun researching and mapping different conversation styles for this article->

for real the song La Bamba goes so hard

cinco de mayo is the perfect illustration of the American ethic: why learn history when drinking is more fun?

WORDS TO LIVE BY

every discourse, everywhere, all at once

claiming my title as First Feet Poaster on blue sky 👑

Is your bluesky personality different from your twitter personality? please explain

goddammit the waffle house song is really good 😭

posting feet until we make bluesky #1