Philippa Perry
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Author, Agony Aunt, Artist, Psychotherapist philippaperry.substack.com
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I Haven’t Gone No Contact
But my mother's behaviour may drive me to it
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/i-havent-gone-no-contact
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Estrangement, apology, and knowing when enough is enough
The limits of reconciliation
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/estrangement-apology-and-knowing
10 days ago
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A man hates the job he’s always wanted. Should he power through or change direction👇
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I Hate My Job
Is this self-sabotage?
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/i-hate-my-job
22 days ago
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She Was a Terrible Friend so why can't I get over losing her?
On repetition, unfinished emotional business, and the strange grief of releasing someone who never really saw you
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/she-was-a-terrible-friend-so-why
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“I Love My Daughter. I Don’t Recognise Her Anymore.”
A mother writes about ideology, identity, and watching a child drift away—and what love looks like when you can’t intervene.
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/i-love-my-daughter-i-dont-recognise
29 days ago
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Parents behaving badly
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Parents Behaving Very Badly
You Can't Change Them! You Can Only Change Your Own Behaviour
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/parents-behaving-badly
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Understanding a Sensitive Child’s Big Feelings
Children's emotional outbursts
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/understanding-a-sensitive-childs
about 2 months ago
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D’you ever have a really strong desire to move house? What’s that about then? Article, Doing a Geographical, free to read, join the conversation on Substack
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"Doing a Geographical"
When You Have a Very Strong Desire to Move House!
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/doing-a-geographical
about 2 months ago
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Christmas, and trying to please everyone
The struggle of the blended family
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/christmas-and-trying-to-please-everyone
2 months ago
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Not that you need any help but…
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Being Estranged From Your Child
The Parental Cost of "No-Contact"
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/being-estranged-from-your-child
2 months ago
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Is Anything Just Fate?
How we make meaning in the space between circumstance and choice
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/is-anything-just-fate
2 months ago
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Dreading Mother-in-law's Xmas visit
Goodwill to all Women
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/dreading-mother-in-laws-xmas-visit
2 months ago
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Ask Philippa: I Can’t Get a Partner
Looking beyond dating “advice” to the deeper emotional patterns shaping who we choose and who chooses us.
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/ask-philippa-i-cant-get-a-partner
2 months ago
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Is 64 too old to leave?
I've told him I'm unhappy and nothing changes.
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/is-64-too-old-to-leave
3 months ago
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3 months ago
Thank you very much
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for this fab sounding surprise book mail of Shrink Solves Murder by
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coming from
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Hutchinson Heinemann in May 2026
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Why do I want to return to my abuser?
Trauma bonds explained
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/why-do-i-want-to-return-to-my-abuser
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A - Z of D.I.V.O.R.C.E.
Fun fun fun
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/a-z-of-divorce
3 months ago
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When Your Partner is Still Close to his Ex
Sometimes jealousy is less about the present moment and more about an old fear being touched
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/when-your-partner-is-still-close
3 months ago
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When you have had enough of everyone else's shit!
Midlife gear change needed
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/when-you-have-had-enough-of-everyone
3 months ago
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My mum hurts my feelings and How do I find love in my sixties?
Two problems to mull over
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/my-mum-hurts-my-feelings-and-how
3 months ago
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I have a good life and yet I still don't think that I'm enough
The examined life and the anxiety that comes with it
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/i-have-a-good-life-and-yet-i-still
3 months ago
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You really want to leave your marriage, your husband after some rocky times has now stepped up, you have two small children. How do you make this decision??? What you want and your “duty” are at odds. Free to read.
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Should I Stay or Should I go?
What do you think? Let me know in the comments.
https://open.substack.com/pub/philippaperry/p/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go?r=1r23vk&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false
4 months ago
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Some people are so stuck in the victim role it is as though they are attracted to suffering
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Parenting My Parents
When mom won’t let go
https://open.substack.com/pub/philippaperry/p/parenting-my-parents?r=1r23vk&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true
4 months ago
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- sometimes we mix up reality with our imagination and trip up …
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When you fall for a dream
And it doesn't match reality
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/when-you-fall-for-a-dream
4 months ago
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Married Men Live Longer than Single Men
And Single Women are Happier than Married ones…Here’s why
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/married-men-live-longer-than-single
4 months ago
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What’s up? Death. Death is always on my mind.
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The meaning of life
Might be the meaning of death
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/the-meaning-of-life
4 months ago
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THE NERVE
4 months ago
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jerryhyde64.substack.com/p/sexual-hea...
Nice little podcast about sexual healing for you
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Sexual Healing
Or sexual harming?
https://jerryhyde64.substack.com/p/sexual-healing?publication_id=4205136&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=email-share&isFreemail=true&triedRedirect=true
5 months ago
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I don’t want my mum at my wedding
Let’s unpack this a bit shall we?
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/i-dont-want-my-mum-at-my-wedding
6 months ago
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How do I tell my son about his "real dad"?
Even well intentioned secrets can create distance
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/how-do-i-tell-my-son-about-his-real
6 months ago
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"Usually he is really sweet, but..."
Insidious bullying, spot it and don't put up with it.
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6 months ago
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Going no contact with parents is gaining traction. I don’t think it should always be the answer. Read the article and let me know what you think.
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Shall I go no-contact with mum?
Not every relationship has to be all or nothing
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7 months ago
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Going no contact with parents is gaining traction. I don’t think it should always be the answer. Read the article and let me know what you think.
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Shall I go no-contact with mum?
Not every relationship has to be all or nothing
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7 months ago
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“love of your life” - I have a problem with this phrase👇
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Secret love affair
Love of your life? Or just an escape.
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/secret-love-affair
7 months ago
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An Essay About Small Talk
What's it's for and how to do it
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/an-essay-about-small-talk
7 months ago
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This week I’ve included some exercises that can help stop intrusive thoughts.
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Can't get over a lost love
Keep telling yourself the same story? You'll stay stuck
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/cant-get-over-a-lost-love
7 months ago
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This week I’ve included some exercises that can help stop intrusive thoughts.
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Can't get over a lost love
Keep telling yourself the same story? You'll stay stuck
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/cant-get-over-a-lost-love
7 months ago
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An Essay About Small Talk
What's it's for and how to do it
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/an-essay-about-small-talk
7 months ago
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Here’s a link to the 40+ articles I’ve written since leaving the Guardian website. Which is your favourite? Least favourite?
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Archive - Philippa Perry
Full archive of all the posts from Philippa Perry.
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41 year age gap in a love relationship
And the children disapprove
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/a-41-year-old-age-gap-in-a-love-relationship
7 months ago
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reassurance rarely makes a person fell better for very long…
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My kid is being bullied at nursery
So was mine, and this is what happened
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/my-kid-is-being-bullied-at-nursery
7 months ago
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8 tips for lasting love
The answer is not sentimentality!
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7 months ago
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8 tips for lasting love
The answer is not sentimentality!
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7 months ago
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What are you REALLY talking about when you talk about money?
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Money and Relationships
The meaning of money
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/money-and-relationships
7 months ago
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What are you REALLY talking about when you talk about money?
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Money and Relationships
The meaning of money
https://philippaperry.substack.com/p/money-and-relationships
7 months ago
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