Therapy went well, fast as usual, packed with all the things I could dredge from this tired brain. And I am so very tired now #Therapy #trauma

I don’t run from the dark, I hide in it. It covers like a blanket, it’s quiet and non-judgemental. The scary aspects of the world walk in the light. carasutra.com/2026/01/why-... #LifeUnscripted #slowliving #SelfCompassion #winter #winter2026

Feeling quiet today. Therapy tomorrow. I've taken some notes and I'm adding to them. The 50 minute session always flies by. #Therapy #SelfReflection

I love winter for reasons that go deeper than cosy aesthetics and seasonal performance. Comforting darkness. Focused introspection. The year’s natural pause. carasutra.com/2026/01/why-... #LifeUnscripted

That haunted cabin looks fantastic, I'd love it! #TheTraitors #traitorsuk

If I was still drinking I would definitely play "take a drink every time someone says 'radar'" #thetraitors #traitorsuk

Why I'm writing a survivor's journal New on Cara Sutra this week: carasutra.com/2026/01/why-... #LifeUnscripted #SurvivorsJournal #PersonalWriting #TraumaRecovery

Today on a podcast I'm listening to: "Oh yeah, a carabiner is a universally understood communication of queerness from women" Me: ...I did not know this My bag for years:

I've previously announced that I'm not making any New Year's Resolutions this year, which is a disgusting lie. I've resolved to eat more cheese and I'm 100% committed 🧀

There’s a real sense of grief in leaving Twitter/X, and I don’t see it talked about enough. For me, and I suspect for many others, it was where we built our community.

A reminder that my January giveaway is still open, so if you're in the UK and would love to win a sexy-sensual bondage prize, enter here 👉 carasutra.com/sexy-giveawa... It comes in a giftable box and includes silky ties, a soft blindfold & a delicate feather tickler. RRP £29.99. 🎁🎉 Ends 30th Jan.

Traitors time! 🖤🔪😍 #TheTraitors #traitorsuk

Took my hearing aids out while the TV was on normal volume. It was like someone muted it 😐 I need to book another hearing test. This is my most recent one, 2024. #deaf #hearingloss #highfrequencyloss #disability

Learning to be patient with my writing, as well as with myself in general. Some things need time to brew to natural completion in my head and soul before I’m ready to pour the end result onto the page. #LessonsFromTea #Patience #SelfReflection

I’ve started something new on Cara Sutra. A personal writing space called Life Unscripted: Living Out Loud. This is the opening post of its first series, The Survivor’s Journal. Why I’m Writing a Survivor’s Journal buff.ly/nNnHm6N #LifeUnscripted #SurvivorsJournal #TraumaRecovery

Moved from Yoast SEO to The SEO Framework. Found that Yoast warnings & recommendations were increasingly not correct, relevant or aligned with human writing 🤷‍♀️ #SEO #blogging #BloggingTools #Yoast #SEOframework #ukbloggers #ukBlog #blogger

Tired, sore, dizzy & quiet after the past couple of afternoons sorting out post-Christmas mess in the house, and getting my office cleared and ready for a new year of work (when I'm actually able to work in it as opposed to bed or the sofa 🙄) #CFSME #ChronicIllness #Spoonie

Never chosen a word of the year before, but seen others & I was inspired. After thinking on it, my word for 2026 is patience. Something I struggle with. Something I need to learn… being forced to learn. A difficult lesson, but a life-changing and beneficial one. #WOTY #Patience #SelfReflection

Protecting my energy in 2026 is not aspirational. It’s survival. Rest, boundaries and self respect are no longer optional for me. buff.ly/e40PSWf #ChronicIllness #EnergyBoundaries #Midlife #MECFS

I deserved a little treat. 😊 These are from the wonderful Moon Phase Studios 🖤✨ Still loving my 13 Moon Journal I received for Christmas; I write in it daily. 💕 (also got the wall planner & some Yule cards in the sale 🛍️) #MoonPhaseStudios #SacredSeasons #Bookworm #2026Reads #Books

Slightly belated but such gorgeous and thoughtful handmade Christmas gifts from a friend. 😊🎁✨ Crystal-enhanced scented candles, various beneficial oils scented bar soap, and two different oil-base scented liquid soaps (coconut and olive). 🧼🕯️🥰 They all smell gorgeous & I love them 💞 #HandmadeGifts

"A lot of my peers use the term ‘being good’ when it comes to their eating habits. I’m not interested in ‘being good’, whatever the hell that’s supposed to mean. Eating isn’t a behaviour to comment on, correct or punish. I’m focusing on being kind to myself." carasutra.com/2026/01/new-...

relatable

See you all there then? 😏

TW: cancer, dementia Worried about long-term slave, “P”, & retired-sub-now-family-friend, “M”. Former has survived 3 types of cancer already, & latter is definitely beyond brain-fade, probably start of dementia. 😔 #Mistress #Domme #FemDom #slaves #DommeWorries #friendships #aging #HealthIssues

Good morning and happy Monday. Heading into this week feeling lighter for having stopped pretending to be polished and one-dimensional, and embracing the reality of being a multi-faceted mess of a human. Hope everyone has a lovely week 💞

#StuffImLearning Women aren't obligated to be appealing in any sense of the word to other people. Personally, I have pandered to the patriarchy and my peers for far too long, instead of prioritising my own actual wants and needs. #Feminism

Only just getting round to watching the Call The Midwife Christmas specials! Tbh, I save them as a January treat 😊 New series starts soon too, I think. 💕 #CallTheMidwife #JanuaryTreats #ChristmasSpecial #WhatImWatching

Griz riveted by her nemesis on TV this morning 🐈‍⬛🐾🐦‍⬛😼 #CatsOfBluesky #BlackCats #CatsVsBirds #Grizabella

Protecting my energy in 2026 is non-negotiable. Living with M.E., perimenopause and deafness means guarding my reserves is the only way I'll survive. carasutra.com/2026/01/prot... #ChronicIllness #MECFS #Perimenopause #Midlife #deaf #EnergyBoundaries

Why is *everything* at nipple height? 😫 #perimenopause

Hubby's favourite war film on TV, Kelly's Heroes, so he's happy (& in the process of building some new bookcases that arrived this morning). I'm enjoying lovely hot comforting soup. 😊 #Saturday

Still getting used to here compared to Twitter. It’s highlighting just how much I was trained to guard my words. I never felt free to share my raw truths, in case I was (deliberately) misunderstood. Not there anymore but I’m still bracing for impact. Something else I’m untangling & unlearning.

New blog post going live at carasutra.com?v=2 tomorrow morning where I talk about what I'm prioritising going forwards into 2026, and what I'm leaving behind.

I don’t tend to comment on news, not because I don’t care, but because I’m careful about what I amplify. I don’t have the energy or expertise to be an activist, but I try to fly my little flags of decency however I can. Trust that my heart aches for the state of the world. It’s unbearably sad.

2+ weeks of this cold so far, which seems to have evolved into a throat infection. Had to cancel #therapy today. Feels like it's worse/lasting longer than before I developed M.E. Day 68836644 of rest. No-one tells you how boring enforced rest is. Fed up 🙄😔 #ChronicIllness #cfsme #WinterBlues

What a fucking episode! Obviously the end note says "you're on" 😄🔪🖤 #TheTraitors #UKtraitors

Ok Harriet is amazing and I want to be her friend (also I would hire her as a barrister in a heartbeat!) She's right on the money #TheTraitors #UKtraitors

#QuestionsForMyTherapist Should I be trying to find good in people who harmed me/others, or am I trying to shortcut to/perform being healed and a calm, balanced person?

Confession. Sometimes I avoid reading other people's blogs because I feel intimidated by how well they write, also because I don't want to be influenced by what they write and start unconsciously copying on my own blog. Not proud of it. It makes me feel like a bad blogger; selfish and narrow-minded.

I’m sending my first newsletter of 2026 tomorrow 💌 It shares an honest update about how my writing and blogging are evolving, and what I’m focusing on now. If my work resonates with you, I’d love you to be there. Sign up here 👉 buff.ly/HAfJkOq

Referred M.E. clinic appointment booked for end of January. Not sure how it will help but we'll see. I have Visible band & app to track energy use & help pacing. Be nice to have a light at the end of the tunnel. 😐 #MECFS #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #ChronicIllness #Disability #Spoonie #VisibleApp

Absolute scenes in the Traitors tonight. What. Just. Happened. Rachel? Fiona?! 🔪 Stephen's expressions are everything 🤣 #thetraitors #traitorsuk

Diet culture wears a self-care disguise.

One brother in Dorset and the other in Jersey (Channel Islands), so I'm worried about both of them tonight with Storm Goretti sweeping in 😕

Been thinking about how a lot of these personal reflections and feeling secure enough to do deep analytical work has come not only from being supported through therapy (& the love of my thoughtful husband) but also from feeling safe & secure in my housing for the first time in my life.

Would you like to win a gift-ready romantic bondage kit? You could use it straight away, or put aside for Valentine's Day. 💞 January giveaway: carasutra.com/sexy-giveaway/ 18+, UK only

I’m sending my first newsletter of 2026 tomorrow 💌 It shares an honest update about how my writing and blogging are evolving, and what I’m focusing on now. If my work resonates with you, I’d love you to be there. Sign up here 👉 buff.ly/HAfJkOq

Not this time. buff.ly/1Av91Oq

A little disappointed with the Secret Traitor reveal, I was hoping for someone that absolutely no-one would guess 🤔 #thetraitors #thetraitorsuk #secrettraitor