Generational patterns survive because no one challenges them. We carry habits, beliefs, and fears passed down long before we were born. Some serve us. Some hold us back. These cycles won’t stop on their own. They only end when someone refuses to keep repeating them.

For Jill and me, travel has never just been about seeing the sights. To us, it’s more about shaping character. When our boys walk through a market in Jamaica, explore history in Europe, or hear stories from people whose lives look very different from theirs, they’re learning lessons no book👇🏾

We don’t talk enough about how messy growth really is. Some days you’ll feel unstoppable. Other days, you’ll feel like you’re starting over from scratch. Both are part of the process. What matters isn’t having a perfect plan, it’s having the courage to keep coming back to the work of becoming👇🏾

I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard someone say, “I just need closure.” Usually, what they really mean is: “I want them to admit what they did. I want them to make it right.” I’ve got to level with you, closure isn’t always something another person can give you.👇🏾

Let me tell you something important: no résumé, title, or public accolade ever tells the whole story of who you are. Your real character is shown in the mundane moments: how you treat the person who makes your coffee, putting your shopping cart back at the collection point,👇🏾

Some of the most important seasons in my life looked like nothing was happening. I was showing up every day, doing the work, but on the surface… Silence. No applause. No progress I could point to. Just me, wondering if it was all even worth it. But here’s what I’ve learned:👇🏾

Traveling is more than just a pastime for me and Jill; it's a way of life. We work hard and save diligently, all to explore new corners of the world. It opens our hearts and minds, something we deeply wish for our children as well. To see and embrace the world's diverse beauty.👇🏾

This is something that life has taught me time and time again. As you head into this week, carry these words with you. No matter how long you’ve been waiting, healing, building, or believing.. Keep going. Some of the most meaningful parts of your journey won’t make sense until much later.👇🏾

When I look back on my own journey, I don’t regret the times I failed. Failure, at least, taught me something. What still stings are the times I froze. The rooms I didn’t walk into. The ideas I never spoke out loud. The relationships I didn’t fight for. Every one of those moments had less to do👇🏾

Stop treating someone’s time + energy like they belong to you. No one owes you their presence just because you want their attention. When someone chooses to share their focus w/ you, it’s a choice rooted in trust, respect, and genuine care. The quickest way to lose that connection is to treat it👇🏾

Stop putting your happiness on hold. It’s easy to tell yourself you’ll be happy once things settle down. When the bills are paid. When stress at work is over. When the kids are grown. When you finally reach the goal you’ve been chasing. But life doesn’t often hand us long stretches of 100% calm.👇🏾

You can change your job. You can move to a new city. You can cut people off. But if you don’t face what’s inside you, the same feelings will keep showing up in new places. A fresh start can feel like the answer, but it’s only part of the story.👇🏾

Some people create chaos, & then act like they’ve been wronged when you name it. They shift blame, rewrite the facts, & expect you to focus on their feelings instead of their choices. If you’re not careful, you end up tiptoeing around their reactions, managing their discomfort while👇🏾

Celebs Go Dating is BACK! The countdown to the premier is underway and you won’t believe some of the explosive moments we have in store. Honestly, I can barely believe a few of them. 😅 And make sure to tune in this Monday, 11 August at 9pm on E4 for the series premier!

Pre-sale tickets are still available! Guarantee a seat for yourself and your crew at my new show, LOVE BETTER, before tickets go on sale to the general public. Available here 👉🏾 paulcbrunson.com/love-better

Pre-sale is now open for my new live show LOVE BETTER! I’m visiting some of my favorite cities in the UK to bring this show to as many people possible. Follow this link: paulcbrunson.com/love-better to secure your tickets. These are intimate venues + space is limited! I hope to see you there.

Pre-sale tickets for my new live show LOVE BETTER are going live today at 10am local time! I’ll be bringing this live experience to stages across the UK. Make sure to set an alarm 😉

🚨 I’m going on TOUR! 🚨 LOVE BETTER is a new live experience all about the truth behind love & connection. It’s not just a talk, it’s a conversation. 🎟️ Tickets drop this week! Presale starts Wed 6 Aug @ 10:00a Sign up here for early access: paulcbrunson.activehosted.com/f/17

I used to think being optimistic about people made me naive. Like I hadn’t learned my lesson. Like I hadn’t been through enough to “know better.” But the truth is, I have been through it. Betrayals, disappointments, moments that knocked the wind out of me. And even still…👇🏾

We all have a version of ourselves we’re working toward. Wiser. Calmer. More present. More fulfilled. And it’s easy to talk about that version. To name the habits we want to build, the boundaries we hope to set, the life we plan to create. But talk doesn’t build momentum.👇🏾

I've worked with countless couples who think avoiding conflict will save their relationship. It won’t. Avoidance doesn’t prevent damage. It builds it in silence. Resentment. Misunderstandings. Distance. It all stacks up. The couples who make it?👇🏾

There are certain feelings we’re taught to rush past: sadness, shame, disappointment, even stillness. Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that if we could just stay busy enough, positive enough, productive enough… we wouldn’t have to feel them. Or deal with the discomfort.👇🏾

“One of the best things you can do for your kids is argue in front of them,” I said. And without missing a beat, Myleene Klass added—“Then show them how to repair.” That moment captured so much of what our conversation on this week's episode of We Need to Talk is about: Owning your growth.👇🏾

So much respect and admiration for Myleene Klass. She showed up to this conversation with courage, clarity, and conviction—and what followed was one of the most powerful episodes we’ve recorded. Myleene does more than talk about change, she embodies it. From campaigning for miscarriage leave👇🏾

The greatest lesson fatherhood has taught me is that presence is more powerful than perfection. It’s easy to believe that being a great dad means having all the answers, always being strong, always being right. But what my sons have taught me, and what my father showed me,👇🏾

I’ve been working hard on a new project, which has required hours upon hours of deep conversations with dozens of people. In those conversations we explored defining moments in their lives and how their self-perception has changed over time. Out of all of those conversations, one thing was clear:👇🏾

Resilience doesn’t come from perfection. It comes from impact. From falling hard. From not knowing how to stand and figuring it out anyway. The ground humbles you. But it also teaches you. About strength. About surrender. About what you’re really made of. So if you’re down right now…👇🏾

There’s a kind of peace that comes from simply being surrounded by the people you love. Waking up to that, day after day, is one of life’s quiet privileges. It’s easy to overlook. Easy to chase something louder or bigger.👇🏾

There’s something incredibly powerful about someone who can sit in the discomfort of their own story and still show up with light, laughter, and love. That’s Ashley Roberts. Today on We Need to Talk, Ashley opened up with a level of honesty that moved me deeply. She spoke about grief, identity,👇🏾

Growth rarely comes from staying in the same place. It comes when you step into what you don’t know. When you choose courage over comfort. Curiosity over fear. That uneasy feeling you get when you're trying something new? That’s the signal you’re expanding. That’s the beginning of transformation.👇🏾

Story time. When I was a kid, we moved from New York City to Long Island. I was the only Black child on the school bus. One day, an older boy hurled racist abuse at me. As he got off, I flipped him off through the window. He reboarded, beat me up, and slammed my head into the glass bus window.👇🏾

We talk a lot about what’s wrong with people. But not nearly enough about what they’ve lived through. What they’ve had to carry alone. What they’ve never been taught. What they’ve never been shown. The truth is:👇🏾

When Nadiya Hussain realized success was coming at the cost of her voice, she made a decision most people wouldn’t dare. She walked away. Because being grateful should never mean being silent, & having a seat at the table means nothing if you can’t speak. So she chose to start over. To rebuild,👇🏾

The Nadiya Hussain episode of We Need to Talk is out now (I've already watched it twice). I've also read hundreds of comments across platforms, and while there have been thousands, the message is clear and consistent: Nadia is a modern-day hero.👇🏾

You don’t have to force what’s meant for you, but you do have to make space for it. Sometimes we hold on to the wrong things. The wrong people. The wrong habits. The wrong expectations. And it’s not because we believe they’re right, but because we’re afraid of what life looks like without them.👇🏾

If they treat you like an option, leave. Not out of spite. Not to prove a point. But because staying sends the message that you’re okay with it. You’re not. You deserve to be chosen. To be prioritized. To be loved out loud. Not just when it’s convenient.👇🏾

Most of the time, it’s not clarity we’re missing. It’s confidence. Deep down, you already know what to do. You know when something isn’t working. You know when a boundary needs to be set.👇🏾

When everything around you feels heavy, remember this: You still have light to give. In this week’s episode of We Need to Talk, Mel Robbins said something I haven’t stopped thinking about: “When the world feels very dark, it’s your job as a human to glow.”👇🏾

This week's episode of We Need to Talk with Mel Robbins is unlike any interview she's ever done. We didn't simply take a deep dive into her expertise. Instead, I wanted to try a different route. I asked her to share her story. What unfolded was raw, honest, and deeply human.👇🏾

You don’t owe your energy to indecision. If it drains you just thinking about it… If you have to talk yourself into it… If your gut is whispering no, but your guilt is shouting maybe… That’s not alignment. That’s self-abandonment.👇🏾

People are often surprised to hear I'm an introvert. Because I speak with confidence and appear on TV often, many assume I thrive on constant interaction. The truth? Solitude isn't a luxury: it's a necessity. I can host a show, deliver a keynote, lead a team... but afterward?👇🏾

A successful relationship isn’t built in the big, bold moments. It’s shaped in the quiet, everyday choices you and your partner make together.

We talk a lot about “more” in love: more passion, more time, more effort. But what if the real breakthrough isn’t in the volume, but in the precision? Real growth in a relationship happens when we stop assuming love is enough on its own, and start asking:👇🏾

Most people fear endings. The end of a relationship, a job, a season of life. But the truth? Every ending holds the seed of something new. It’s hard to see it when you’re in the thick of it. But take a second to look back. How many of your greatest chapters started with something falling apart?👇🏾

Manipulation doesn’t always come with raised voices or slammed doors. Sometimes it comes disguised as love, protection, or devotion. That’s what makes it so hard to see. In this week’s episode of We Need to Talk, one of the things Safiyya Vorajee opens up about is👇🏾

After many conversations I’ve had on We Need to Talk, I’m often asked, “Paul, how do you not cry?” The truth is, I’ve trained myself to emotionally detach so I can hold space, guide the guest, and not get lost in their pain. But this conversation with Safiyya Vorajee… it broke through all that.👇🏾

Here’s something life has taught me: hope is not weakness. It’s not blind faith. It’s power. Real power. As you head into this week, carry that with you. No matter how long you’ve been waiting, healing, building or believing - keep going.👇🏾

The question isn’t IF life will challenge you. It’s how you’ll show up when it does. With grace? With grit? With integrity? Because often, it’s in the hardest seasons that we learn the most about who we are, and what really matters.

When your goal is to win the argument, you’ve already started to lose the relationship. This week on We Need to Talk, Jefferson Fisher and I unpack what healthy conflict actually looks like—and how to stay connected even when you disagree. Now streaming on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Youtube.

There’s power in honesty. When it’s messy. When you’re not sure how it’ll land. Even when it’s met with silence. Whether it’s a tough conversation with a partner, a boundary with a friend, or finally admitting what you need. Say it. Truth isn’t always easy, but it is freeing.