"I often write about missing people, because with missing people there's hope. And hope can crush your heart like an eggshell, or it can put wings on it and let it fly off into the sunset." Harlan Coben Co-Author of Gone Before Goodbye

Are you Sensitive? www.vox.com/even-better/...

Everyone can step into their Wise Adult SELF. Have a read and a listen. From me to you with love www.relationallifefoundation.org/discovering-...

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love... If You, your partner or friend are sometimes selfish or lack empathy, try this question: is this good for my partner, my kids, us and me. If it's only good for you, think again. Also, put yourself in the other person's shoes to feel empathy.

www.fastcompany.com/91345369/que... You can always revisit what you want to do and what your purpose is

therapist.com/behaviors/du... Check you biases at the door for better communiucation and connection

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” — Carl Jung

Things that help us stay positive www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/psyc...

Take a look…Do you do any of these www.self.com/story/bad-re...

An interesting read www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle...

“Your pain is unique, because it’s yours. And you get to have that. But, when pressed up against all of the pain in the whole wide world, it isn’t special. It can be unique, but it can’t always be special.” Author unknown

getpocket.com/explore/item... Some helpful hints. Plus, you don't have to forgive what the person did. Sometimes what they did is not forgivable. However, every person is so much more than the things they do. We share a common humanity of "goodness" and sometimes do not live into that.

getpocket.com/explore/item... We are all born with 'inherent worth'. No one gives that to you. You do not earn it. It can't be taken away. Step back into that knowing. Treat yourself as you would treat the most loved person or animal in your life with love & compassion. Accept all of who you are.

"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves." — Viktor E. Frankl

5 strategies to challenge negative thinking: Describing the issue accurately and specifically Identifying associated thoughts and interpretations Understanding the meaning of these beliefs Assessing the consequences of these beliefs Determining if these consequences are backed by evidence

Practical advice even if you are not a therapist, to settle yourself www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/litt...

getpocket.com/explore/item... Try something new. 2 tips. Learn from your mistakes and imagine you will need to teach this skill to someone else

'I do not turn away from the stories that make me weep. I am willing to be ferocious — to stand up for what I know is true'. Stitching it Together by Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/burn... The real enemy is not the other people who are trapped here with us; none of us chose to be in this game. The game itself deserves to be the target of our wrath. This helps me turn toward anyone’s difficult feelings with kindness and compassion

Probably a good idea for all of us to get better at critical thinking. theconversation.com/critical-thi...

Interesting read. Are we over diagnosing?https://theconversation.com/are-labels-like-autism-and-adhd-more-constraining-than-liberating-a-clinician-argues-diagnosis-has-gone-too-far-247138

getpocket.com/explore/item... Good Advice

Relational Life Foundation are hosting me -on accessing your Wise Adult SELF—the calm, compassionate, and grounded part of us that holds space for all our experiences. Don’t miss this transformative conversation! Register now: www.relationallifefoundation.org/discovering-...

getpocket.com/explore/item... Not perfect and also normal with room to improve, one step at at time

"“Hope” is the thing with feathers - That perches in the soul - And sings the tune without the words - And never stops - at all" Emily Dickinson

“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.” Desmond Tutu

“You have worth just because you exist. You don’t have to do anything to earn it, & no one can take it away.” Pia Mellody "The capacity to love & be loved depends on one's voice being heard." Carol Gilligan “Connection is why we’re here; it gives purpose and meaning to our lives.” - Brené Brown

Complaining is human and it can connect us. If you think you are doing it too much, take a look at this article. One of the answers is to start a gratitude practice every day. 3 things you are grateful for and one thing you would do differently www.nbcnews.com/better/lifes...

Think yourself younger getpocket.com/explore/item...

www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/teac... "being wise isn’t about accumulating knowledge; it’s about being inspired to grow as we face life’s challenges, practice empathy, and make decisions that are in line with our values and moral code."

Sharing Eugene Gendlin's words because sharing is helpful for change youtube.com/shorts/wHLfs...

Parts theory and being with the parts of us with kindness and curiosity. And then asking them questions. And they answer. Know we are in a relationship with our parts and that is extremely helpful and healing www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/when...

Some Habits that can be helpful www.huffpost.com/entry/micro-...

Interesting article. Do you become too other-focused (blame the other) & therefore not look at your own part in what is going pear-shaped in your relationships? It is often not an even split of owning your part, but there is always some part for you (& me) to own. theconversation.com/adult-childr...

Some parenting tips www.parents.com/signs-you-ar... See what you think

A psychologist's questions to ask, to see if you really know your partner www.cnbc.com/2025/02/16/p...

It's natural, is it better? And what man-made things are good for us too: www.bbc.com/future/artic...?

If you are single, you might find this interesting www.npr.org/transcripts/...

Some good advice www.npr.org/2025/02/11/n...

www.themarginalian.org "blessed is the person…who does not shun difficulty & can turn with equal reverence toward sorrow & joy, who can trust fear as the balsam of courage & pain,..opening the heart..pause to notice….who dares to make hope an axiom of being & is strong enough to be changed by love"

Will you be making any New Year's Resolutions? If so, this article may help therapist.com/self-develop...

'Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.' Martin Luther King Jr.

Women tend to be happier when they are single. Turns out it is about having other relationships not just a romantic one. So connection is the answer. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/livi...

If you can feel your whooshing part (reaction/emotion) and Pause and Step into your Adult Self, you can be beside that part with compassion and curiosity, and it will settle. If I can do it so can you. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your...

“The art of conversation is the art of hearing as well as of being heard,” William Hazlitt

There is no one "the one" Find someone who is kind and grow together www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/soci...