I caned my girl at the master/slave tea party, as she poured my tea. She didn't spill any

MAsT ATX loves a shiny service tray, but as a D-type, I remember the time I was silently handed a drink from offscreen during a professional conference call, and the time I had a drink put down on the bar before me without a word while talking to a contest judge. Thank you for the service flex ♥️♥️♥️

It's out! My second essay for Raven Kaldera, "Reparenting M/s", is now published in his compilation on Master/skave relationships with ADHD: "Distracted Dominance and Service with Squirrels!" alfredpress.com/adhd-and-pow...

Non-TPE, non-24/7 M/s is valid M/s. We stay in our lanes with phrases like "I support your choices" and we change lanes with phrasing like, "would you like to put that under management?"

When asked, "what needs are too much?" about a hypothetical slave seeking a dynamic, remember to reject the premise D-types are the reverse of the same coin: similar backstories, yet somehow often dodging questions of fitness when we could have asked, "what traits disqualify a D-type for me?"

ONLINE 7/31, 5:30-7:00 PM CDT! "The Invisible Collar: Psychological Bonding and Attachment in Power Exchange" Join us on Zoom for this online meeting: us02web.zoom.us/j/8239112941... Fetlife Event: fetlife.com/events/1839070

This weekend's MAsT ATX meeting is OPEN TOPICS: bring your spicy questions! Contact organizer for event info

A less experienced ballroom dance leader can dance with such a skilled follower that his lead feels unnecessary: she's got it for them without the guiding pressure of his intent, to appearances. But in M/s, that guiding pressure IS the "it" to get, likely the point for you both, and not optional

Girl Feeder™ dropped! +Bluey snack boxes, this ADHD & disordered eating accommodation works. It's also an example of decomposing a task until slaves can succeed. At shops, I can say, "pick something for the wall", a task decoupled from actual consumption that nevertheless correlates with consumption

When you say things like "in M/s, our secret ingredient is TIME," your M/s audience makes noises of approval. Shit, people may clap But calculate how many rectal ejaculations make one GALLON, to measure your dynamic in VOLUME, and now you're the weird one #masterslave #m/s #bdsm #almostfourhundred

It's important to celebrate non-escalator relationship milestones, such as anal fisting 🎉

SIGNALING protocols help to establish and maintain a dynamic When my girl arrives, pants off That she strips without being told is a signal to me of her continued investment, and a signal to herself that she is my slave -- thus further enslaving herself each time Also #pantyfetish, M/s is fun

We frequently suggest starting M/s in an area that is SMALL and FUN, in an existing relationship. With sex, we don't mean "control" so much as establishing low-stakes SIGNALS Dynamics can begin with one simple idea like, "let's find a position you'll get into, to communicate you're ready to begin."

We've renewed MAsT Austin's annual charter from MAsT International. Your new windshield stickers will be in the mail Friday, for now just kneel gently

MAsT ATX Meets tomorrow! Topic: "Love in Authority Imbalanced Dynamics". Hit mastatx.com to get to the event links on FB, Fet, and Google Calendar

In your M/s dynamic(s), do you do anything special for Valentine's Day? #loveslave #m/s #masterslave

"That was amazing, let's keep it going" hits different as the ADHD master of ADHD slaves If it's not daily or a list/calendar item, we 1) decide who'll own the trigger, yet also 2) schedule a future check-in to evaluate as a team whether so casual a system really makes it happen like we want #m/s

"I think we're there, and don't want you missing out on experiencing surrender, so here are some good spots I see for adding explicit CNC, what do you think?" "I was going to tell you I felt ready for more control. Let's do the first one." #negotiation #masterslave #ddlg #powerexchange

YAGNI (You Ain't Gonna Need It), a software principle I use in M/s dynamic design: Implement things once you actually need them, never when you just foresee that you will. It is hard for less experienced developers to appreciate how rarely architecting for future requirements turns out net-positive

New Prototype of the Girl Feeder just dropped! Surfacing concepts and things ("deadline is 5pm"; "we own food that you chose") into the physical world is a central ADHD management strategy Pro-tip: women will eat hot bread, keep some around #masterslave #m/s

Recognizing how s-types can nuance their pronunciation of "yes, Master" for meanings ranging from "immediately, master!" to "good one, Master" to "you sure about that, Master?" Girl3 favors a rapid "YesDaddy!", that's 15% breathy, 70% snappy, and 15% fervent ("I kill"): a fine all-purpose approach

Something to remember

Do caregivers know they're tired single parents? D-type men, where do we fall among "parental" vs "paternal" vs "paternalistic"? Meaning of paternalistic in English: (of people in authority) making decisions for others rather than letting them take responsibility for their own lives #m/s #ddlg

Because my s-types are littles, I speak to their inner children. A broad, gentle question to elicit an unguarded response and developing their thoughts aloud is better than a direct question No: "what's on the shopping list?" Yes: "do you know what you need already?" #masterslave #ddlg #m/s

In building software, the greatest waste is unnecessary features, because anything added to a codebase must be paid for, over and over, in maintenance and overhead costs. Deleting code is a great practice, but nowhere near as great as not adding it in the first place #masterslave #mast #m/s

One s-type's first negotiated duty was "General Secretary": agreeing to pause most things in order to take notes, dictation, or perform research on-demand We had other, longer-established dynamics already, so for some time, this remained the entirety of our M/s #masterslave #m/s #mast

When we feel a new relationship practice coming on, we're first skeptical: is this thing happening just fine already anyway? Does it honestly require oversight? If so, where does it best fit in our hierarchy of poly/vanilla, daddy/girl, and M/s relationship dynamics? (1/2)

We can give only what we have. Before creating dependency, M/s can establish foundations in independence and interdependence #m/s #masterslave #attachment

Q: Where do I find a master or slave? A: For me, among those who already love you for who you are, not what you do What one thing could you do, once a month or week? Build a track record of showing up for one another with consistency and compassion (flexibility, respect) before negotiating more

The leadership my S-types often need is identifying new options in areas of difficulty #mast #m/s

When we get carried away by the buzz of building something new, and get sucked into the challenges and complications involved in engineering and construction, it easy to forget our goal should be to build a “pit of success” 1/3

When you have multiple roles/dynamics: As daddy: turning the spare room into a walk-in wardrobe with vanity and sewing table would benefit my kids' mental health As master: enough excuses, slave, crotchless sweater #mast #masterslave #m/s #ddlg #cgl

It was a great morning in kitchen slavery here! To better fit the household ADHD, our M/s dynamics emphasize contemporanious, supervised service, like helping as directed in the kitchen. This plays to our strengths and pushes farther into the past times when this kind of help only invited criticism

While my girls and I also have separate daddy/girl dynamics, taking them to medical appointments makes me consider how re-parenting has a role in our M/s dynamics, too

Season's Greetings

"Aye aye, captain” is a phrase used in the U.S. Navy to indicate that the speaker will follow an order and knows what it requires. The phrase is a commitment to carry out an order, not just an agreement. They adopted the tradition to emphasize clear communication, especially in critical situations

In our house, M/s dynamics are optimized for anti-anxiety, so just as I start some questions with, "so, there's no wrong answer to this..", I gave one girl her collar with, "there's no way to do it wrong or to get in trouble with this item"

What was your first service negotiated? Girl1: maintain supply of earl grey iced tea; Girl2: secretarial and research, taking dictation and notes on-demand; Girl3: bake brownies with walnuts regularly

Suggestion: think of power dynamics in terms of DOSAGE, to lead your thoughts into the why, the when, and the how much for you and your life. Start with the smallest effective dose and titrate that dosage up only when a strong reason presents itself