“There’s A Word For That- Understanding Complex Trauma When You Feel Broken, Lost, and Confused” #cptsd #cptsdrecovery #narcissisticabuse #betrayaltrauma #selfpublished #selfhelp #cptsdhealing #existentialcrisis #humiliated #emotionalabuse #abusesurvivor #emotionalhealing a.co/d/1WSX4Xz

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“If you've lived through complex trauma, betrayal, or chronic mistreatment, your nervous system has learned to treat the world like a battlefield.” #cptsd #cptsdrecovery #emotionalhealing #mentalhealth #hypervigilance #complextrauma #traumarecovery #betrayaltrauma open.substack.com/pub/ellentif...

“Perhaps the most important skill for becoming your own first responder is learning to speak to yourself with compassion instead.” open.substack.com/pub/ellentif... #cptsdhelp #cptsdrecovery #mentalhealth #innercritic #selfhelp #selfhealing #selfcompassion #emotionalhealing #narcabuse #abusesurvivor

“When you're in functional freeze, it's not that you won't engage with life – it's that your system currently can't do so without perceiving serious threat.” open.substack.com/pub/ellentif... #cptsdrecovery #cptsdhealing #MentalHealth #functionalfreeze #narcabuse #complextrauma #traumahealing #cptsd

“Like an athlete reviewing game footage… you might be searching for those crucial moments where things went wrong and how you might improve next time.” #cptsdrecovery #rumination #healingfromabuse #cptsd #cptsdhealing #narcissisticabuse #mentalhealth #traumahealing #traumarecovery #complextrauma

"It's extremely likely that a person who stays in a narcissistically abusive dynamic has been brainwashed." #brainwashing #manipulation #narcissism #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #mindgames #criticalthinking #cults #complextrauma #complexptsd ellentift.substack.com/p/brainwashi...

“Even when manipulators present a caring facade, their actions consistently prioritize control over genuine connection, and their own desires over others' wellbeing.” #abusetactics #manipulation #manipulationtactics #narcissisticabuse #covertnarcissist #covertabuse #gaslighting #abuserecovery #cptsd

“Even when manipulators present a caring facade, their actions consistently prioritize control over genuine connection, and their own desires over others' wellbeing.” #abusetactics #manipulation #manipulationtactics #narcissisticabuse #covertnarcissist #covertabuse #gaslighting #abuserecovery #cptsd

"Many survivors report feeling uncomfortable in their own skin, no longer recognizing or trusting the body that houses them." #complextrauma #ComplexPTSD #cptsdrecovery #cptsd #cptsdhealing #bodymemory #traumahealing #trauma #traumarecovery #narcissisticabuse ellentift.substack.com/p/body-memor...

“If you're reading this & feeling a growing sense of recognition—seeing that…your relationships have been built on self-abandonment, obligation, or trauma bonding rather than genuine love…you're not alone.” #loveisachoice #loveisaction #traumabond #complextrauma #complexptsd #cptsd #cptsdhealing

“The manipulation hides behind a façade of concern, making it difficult…to identify what's happening until independence has been significantly compromised.” #eldercare #narcissisticabuse #covertnarcissists #elderabuse #elderlycare #ElderAbuseAwareness #ElderAbusePrevention

“When you’ve grown up in an environment where expressions of anger were punished, or where anger was wielded as a weapon against you, your relationship with this emotion becomes distorted.” #cptsdhealing #cptsd #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #healingafterabuse #betrayaltrauma

“ten small humiliations don't create ten units of harm but rather multiply in impact…This explains why targets of repeated humiliation often appear to 'overreact' to what others perceive as minor incidents” #cptsdhealing #cptsd #complextrauma #whatiswrongwithme #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney

“Think of your sense of self as a magnificent tree…Existential shame is like a hidden fungus…the tree still grows…But internally, this…has spread throughout the inner pathways where water and nutrients flow.” #cptsd #healingjourney #cptsdhealing #complextrauma #healingshame #whatswrongwithme

“Emotions are your body's GPS system…Fear points to where you need safety, joy highlights what fulfills you, anger signals violations, and sadness shows what you care about. When childhood trauma disconnects us…we lose our internal compass.” #cptsd #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #complextrauma

“children of unhealed parents often find themselves carrying two burdens: their own natural developmental challenges and the weight of their parents' unprocessed pain. It's like inheriting a heavy, inescapable weight…” #cptsd #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney open.substack.com/pub/ellentif...

“Alaina wondered why she could confidently manage crisis situations at work, making split-second decisions that saved lives, yet fall apart completely when faced with ordinary choices in her personal life.” #traumabrain #narcissisticabuse #cptsd #healingjourney #complextrauma

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I just had a sobering call with a self-publishing company. It'll be close to $3,000 just to get one book available for purchase. Any Venmo contributions will go toward helping me publish my first book. If you've seen my Substack, you know what I'm writing. Thank you. account.venmo.com/u/ellentift

open.substack.com/pub/ellentif... #explorepage #cptsd #conflictresolution #complextrauma #emotionalintelligence #people #ewpeople #humaninteraction #peoplearetricky #cptsdhelp #cptsdhealing #complexptsd #cptsdresources #cptsdlife #emtionalintelligence #dysfunctionalpeople #rudepeople #trickypeople

open.substack.com/pub/ellentif... #betrayaltrauma #cptsd #healingjourney #emotionalhealing

Have you ever wondered why some people can never admit they're wrong, while others constantly take the blame for everything? #cptsd #complextrauma #emotionalintelligence #emotionalhealing #emotionalresponsibility #cptsdhealing #traumahealing #abusesurvivor #heart open.substack.com/pub/ellentif...

https://open.substack.com/pub/ellentift/p/are-you-an-emotional-volcano-or-blackhole?r=43ial2&utm_medium=ios #cptsd #complextrauma #emotionalintelligence

"The most intense "chemistry" is often a warning sign, not a green light. True connection—whether in relationships, workplaces, or communities—feels like coming home to yourself, not losing yourself in someone or something else." #cptsd #narcissisticabuse #dv ellentift.substack.com/p/when-red-f...

"You can't predict who will only show up because they're nosey, but once they demonstrate a lack of sincere support, you no longer need to allow them a front row seat to your pain." #cptsd #cptsdsupport #complextrauma #complexptsd #healingjourney #mentalhealth #traumahealing #traumainformed #trauma

“When breadcrumbing occurs across multiple life domains, it creates a web of instability that can erode self-trust and make it harder to set healthy boundaries.” #cptsdresources #cptsdhealing #breadcrumbing #narcissisticabuse open.substack.com/pub/ellentif...

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“This belief doesn't just make life less pleasant; it fundamentally alters your life trajectory. It shapes who you allow yourself to become close to, what opportunities you pursue or decline, how you care for your body, and even whether you permit yourself to rest, enjoy, or celebrate. “

The Fascism Threat just rose to Critical (80%). The system flagged 60 articles on the 18th—most tied to ongoing deportations—which pushed the needle up about 3%.

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“Parents who take this difficult step often describe it as simultaneously the hardest and most necessary choice they made in their parenting journey.” open.substack.com/pub/ellentif...

“Like a caterpillar forming its chrysalis, this isolation isn't about hiding or being controlled—it's about creating the necessary space for radical transformation.“ #narcissisticabuse #isolation #cptsdrecovery #cptsdhealing #cptsd #complextrauma #healingjourney open.substack.com/pub/ellentif...

"Many flying monkeys aren't inherently malicious—they've been skillfully recruited through the narcissist's manipulation. Understanding their motivations can help you respond with clarity rather than confusion or self-doubt." #narcissisticabuse #flyingmonkeys ellentift.substack.com/p/flying-mon...