Once again I am left to wonder: why are men?

I love* dentistries obsession with referring to it as "dental phobia" or "dental anxiety" and not what it actually is, which is trauma and/or a conditioned response. * lol

Every so often I see some explosion happen online and wonder "what the hell did DHH do this time." His technical takes are frequently bad (and I have entire rants on them), but that's entirely beside the point of the rest of his behavior, which is—and pretty much always has been—worse […]

Gods I'm tired of these hair loss ads. "Results after 1 month" (shows something that is completely impossible after one month even if you had a rapid growth disorder) "It's not DHT that's causing your hair loss! Scientists shocked!" (It's DKK-1, whose production is tied to the amount of DHT in […]

"It's a mental illness" I mean so are depression, anxiety, and ADHD but I get prescribed pills for those and treated under my insurance.

Ugh. Getting my paperwork updated is going to be a PITA. That's tomorrow Hrefna's problem, however.

"Boys can be princesses too" I mean, absolutely, but when I've seen that and they actually put the time into learning feminizing makeup and mannerisms my experience is that 90% of the time they aren't actually a "boy" and just need a few more years to figure that out.

Title: "How long do HRT changes take if I start late" First sentence: "I started at 27…" I'm going to walk into the sea.

"These are irreversible" Okay, and natal puberty w/ bonus trauma is reversible somehow?

I do _not_ feel well today. x_x

Aside: there is absolutely no reason it has to be this way. We _could_ have a wire protocol built on top of JSON, simultaneously readable as JSON-LD, that would be easily machine readable and then treat JSON-LD as a storage format or abstract data representation rather than as a wire format […]

If you ever want to drive yourself to distraction then implement a fully compliant JSON-LD parser in a typesafe language. Not just as a toy library that just implements the basal functions, but in the context of an actual production system. Doing actual production system things at production […]

Men when they are attempting to dance to The Doll People invariably strip the interpretation of the grief, pain, and anger. They show off their control and skill and treat it as a “vibe.” Women. Always. Get. It. They always understand.

I have been, and continue to be, of the view that the "fight" between #activitypub and #atproto is a distraction. Whether one is "more distributed" or "more decentralized" is, at best, a technical criticism based on de jure analysis that has little bearing on the practical, practiced reality of […]

As expected, Autism Speaks has one of the most milquetoast responses to the announcement on tylenol. The APA and even UCHealth have much, much stronger statements.

Please for the love of all that is holy figure out power dynamics well enough to understand how boycotts actually work. Please. I'm beginning you.

I'd consider the Project 2025 crew labeling "Gillick Competence" as a "trans ideology" term funny if it weren't so dangerous. For those playing at home: Gillick Competence is a concept out of the UK listing criteria under which someone under the age of 16 can consent to medical treatment on […]

Shoe shopping is such a PITA. "We support tall women! Large feet are not a problem! We have sizes ranging from 5 to 12!" Okay. We need to level set a bit on what "large feet" mean here.

My height doesn't give me dysphoria, but damned if I wouldn't prefer to be 4" shorter and have a shoe size 2 smaller.

“Using bone is against the Buddhist religion” Tell me you know nothing about Tibetan Buddhism without saying…

gods europeans who try to bash on Americans are exhausting in their one-upmanship "You don't have _real_ cheese there." Literally I can walk into a mid-tier supermarket and get local goat cheese. Let alone what I can find at _farmers markets_ or specialty stores. Other types of cheese travel […]

A few more notes that I don't feel some surgeons communicate particularly well: 1. The goal of #ffs is not to make you conventionally attractive. It can sometimes do this, but its goal is in many ways completely orthogonal to "make this individual conventionally attractive." Many times people […]

Because I often see people getting distraught when they don't have the results they want after $n weeks/months, let me share some of the timeline I received publicly for my own FFS. YMMV depending on procedures and surgeon etc. 1. Swelling will peak around days 2-3, from there it will steadily […]

One thing you quickly learn when evaluating surgeons is this: Do not trust reviews. Good or bad. Reviews can give you a bunch of good information about a surgeon. You should absolutely look them up and go through them. But don't _trust_ them in isolation. Look for patterns. Look for the […]

Knights of Guinevere is amazing, that is all. https://youtu.be/MCAdbUaMlAE?si=ZhZjpxHCBfoYDE07

I want to underscore something here. Whenever I talk abut a generalized online behavior, 99% of the time it applies to liberals as well. I've seen substantive damage to marginalized groups in online spaces because f _leftist_ trolling and _leftist_ fighting. The responses I've seen have come […]

Consensus lists for blocking are not better and are in many ways worse than lists that are managed by dictum. In this essay I will…

Very not impressed with the "I'm not touching you" dance that people do. "Well I didn't do $X, I did $Y which is not _quite_ $X…" Knowing full well that it will be seen as $X by the intended targets.

Mothership has unironically one of the best GM supplements I have ever read for any system. Ever.

(About Moons of Madness) Me: I can tell this is an Orochi project. Girlfriend: Oh? Because there are Orochi logos everywhere? Me: That, and the fact that they have absolutely paranoid levels of security that aren't worth anything, combined with the sheer incompetence of their containment […]

1. "Debate skills" are overrated. They often serve as a way to intellectualize things that should not be intellectualized. 2. What Charlie Kirk did was not "debating" for any reasonable definition. Rhetoric maybe, but not debate. It's baffling to me that people just uncritically buy this line […]

Acquired the ttrpg Mothership. Looking forward to running this one when I get a chance.

I see that HSR is now just shipping March 7th with herself.

Whoooo. Silksong progress made. Got frustrated with moorwing and did what I usually do: go off to do other things. Finished rescuing five fleas. They conveniently seem to be moorwing repellent. So on to… …the scary cursed area.

Genocide. https://talkingpointsmemo.com/news/texas-congressman-says-trans-people-need-to-be-taken-off-the-streets-after-charlie-kirk-shooting #politics

In a real way github is the worst system… except for all of the others. https://blahaj.social/@leah/115219049543193081

My country is in the process of trying to eradicate me and those like me, so forgive me for not being willing to hide that fact from the sensibilities of those who would prefer to ignore it.

"What FFS procedures should I get?" <posts photos taken with downward angles, looking coyly upward, in full makeup and a wig> Beyond that it is hard for a group of people on the internet to give this kind of advice I do get why someone would ask it, but please for the love of all that is holy […]

SF's war on plastic bottles and straws has significantly reduced accessibility and created barriers for disabled people. In this essay I will…

Let me give an example of why I think that AI will never replace a human. I had a PM a long while back who wanted us to be able to report characteristics of traffic, worldwide, with less than a minute latency and serve worldwide queries with less than a second of latency for arbitrary time […]

There's this kind of mythology I've spoken of before, that the hinderance to shipping code is held in the engineers and that if you could just replace or streamline the engineers then things would be so much better! These are the people who really like the idea of handing LLMs to non-engineers […]

Ah yes, we're back to using the <dominant group> <marginalized group> labeling as a way to erase the marginalized group. Yay.

My number one piece of advice in choosing a surgeon, once you've gotten past the basal qualifications, is: Do you trust them. This is someone to whom you are saying "put my vital functions on hold for a bit, cut me open, rearrange me, and hope that I wake up on the other side?" There are _so_ […]

Do. Not. Share. Lists. Of. Herbal. Abortifacients. Do not be coy with them. Do not provide them "just for informational purposes." Ways to access Plan B and equivalents? Absolutely. Resources for local clinics or groups that can provide transport? Share away. But if your list includes things […]

A lot of FFS surgeons do _not_ give their patients adequate post-op instructions, ye gods. (Not mine, mine gave me so many instructions in so much detail my calendar looks like a gantt chart)

There's this massive gulf between what people think of when they think of "ActivityPub" and what actually exists in the ground-level implementations, and I don't know that the gap can be reconciled.

I'm begging my fellow neurodivergent people to learn the difference between "this creates more friction for me as a neurodivergent person" and "this is designed to discriminate against me as a neurodivergent person." Those are not the same thing.

Me putting in an order: "I need some silicone scar sheets" The shopper: "will any of these work?" <sends me a long list of hydrocolloid bandages and hydrogel burn pads> ………no shopper, none of those will work. Those aren't even the same category of treatment.

"#daggerheart _feels_ rules light" It most assuredly does not unless you are comparing it to something like Mechwarrior or AD&D 2E. The SRD for Daggerheart is Go play Lady Blackbird or Kobolds Ate My Baby and get back to me. Then play Knave and/or the Lady Afterwards Then play Candela […]