This year taught me how to truly stand on my own. I learned how to be my own shoulder to lean on, my own supporter, my own safe space, and my own friend. I learned that words don’t mean anything if the actions don’t match. People can promise you everything and still switch up on you overnight.

No matter how good he looks or how well he treats you, never sacrifice your peace, your purpose, or your relationship with God for anyone. Your connection with God is your foundation. And if someone can’t respect that, protect that, and grow with that, then they are simply not for you.

We’re older now. No one wants to be in a boring relationship with no real dates, no elevation, no traveling, no chemistry. Just shacking up, having s3x, and being toxic. Love is supposed to grow you, not drain you! plan a trip, try a new restaurant, surprise them, build memories, heal together.

I like my man grown grown, Not just age grown, but responsible grown, disciplined grown, honest grown, straightforward grown, teachable grown, well put-together grown, family, friend and goal oriented grown, purpose driven grown, GOD FEARING grown, still growing grown ❤️😩

At some point you just got to tell ppl I'll love you forever, but I'm no longer interested in the level of life you have to offer me, and because of that I have to let you go. I just need you to understand, that you can keep doing what you wanna do, you just can't do that with me. You get tired.

going through things on my own is why I've become such an independent person... I'm trying to recover from things I keep to myself. trying to silence the thoughts I don’t talk about and mend wounds that I don’t show. I'm trying to heal because I know that nobody got me like I got me. 🫶🏽

I refuse to drive myself crazy trying to love a man that knows I'm good to him. I refuse to lose myself in love again. I refuse to honor a cheating man again. I refuse to settle because I'm afraid to lose the love I've gained for a man. My happiness & having peace is my only priority moving forward.

I will marry a lover boy with a provider mindset, one who wants to be a husband and not want a wife, one who wants to be a dad and not just have kids. Life is too short to spend it with a guy who doesn’t truly care about you or genuinely love you, cherish you and doesn’t consider how you feel.

I DONT EVEN WANT SEX. I miss feeling loved, being babied, sweet text messages, flirting like it’s still day one, cuddles, random starring & kisses that gimme butterflies, random gifts and flowers, random lunch dates, I miss that feeling . I just wanna find my husband and some peace fr.

One thing about me.. I'll never ask why someone didn't acknowledge me… milestones, birthdays, congratulations, whatever. Just think about how that sounds… asking someone why they didn't care enough to show up... I take stuff for what it is and it is what it is. My peace > chasing expectations

I think I won't date again for a couple years, l just hate being so in love and getting so comfortable with someone then have to move on! Now they know my body, my secrets & all about me! Love is actually terrifying for real. You really don't know what's real & what's fake anymore, I'm cool off it.

I love a man that's just like me... laid back, don't be in the mix, prefer to do fun adventurous things over being in the club all the time, a man who would rather lay up under each other and likes to go on random food dates cause we love to eat instead of going out doing little boy stuff.

Honestly, l don’t wanna date nobody cause I don’t feel like it. I don’t feel like being bothered, I don’t feel like doing anything I don’t wanna do. I don’t feel like nobody questioning me or tryna tell me what to do. I don’t feel like nobody lyin for no reason. I don’t feel like askin for nothin.

Once you date a man that doesn't mind taking you places and likes to do new things… you'll never go back to a man that never wants to do anything. Them random trips, hitting the highway for a weekend, spontaneous dates, vacations & outings without having to ask be everything!!

Y'all ever met somebody who NEVER see their wrongdoings? Like they can do you any kind of way but as soon as you address it, "you trippin" or they flip the script back to you? Always playing victim in a situation they created. Yeah… run as far away as you can possibly get ‼️ they don’t care about you

If you broke my trust and I loved you enough to let you back in and allowed you to rebuild my trust again for us... only for you to make me feel crazy for wanting reassurance and extra effort to gain back the security you took away and you do the same thing... you're the worst type of person 🤷🏽‍♀️

I can’t wait to experience love without trust issues, past trauma, commitment issues, them texting women behind my back and not having to beg to be heard or seen and for reciprocation or to be loved correctly the first time around. A love where there are zero worries 💯

sadly I don’t even know how to let a man love me right… I’m so used to receiving bs from 🥷🏽 that I just assume it’s going to happen at some point… it’s so hard to let smb in rn… I can’t even tell if smb will be good for me… having a good man and being a wife is all I use to want… ‼️

if a man starts pulling away from you, just quietly move on. no long messages trying to make him understand your pain and see ur worth, no "he'll regret it." or "maybe he'll change with time." just know your self worth and leave. you deserve a love that's sure of you from the very beginning ‼️🫶🏽

If we’re dating and you decide to cheat on me, no amount of “I’m sorry baby” “it didn’t mean anything” “I love you” “I know I was wrong” can erase the fact that you looked at my worth weighed it against your urge and picked them over me. Cheating isn’t a mistake it’s a decision, a selfish act ‼️

I pray you marry a man that actually wants to be married, a man who isn’t out here embarrassing his family, I pray you marry an honest, hard-working, loving man. I know nobody is perfect, but I pray that you marry a man who goes to God instead of other women when things begin to get tough.

a lot of men call themselves real men… but a real man won’t have you out there second guessing, won’t have a b!tch thinking she got your spot, won’t fw multiple girls knowing he got you. A REAL man gon make sure you’re treated like a Queen, be there for you no matter what and make sure you’re happy

after my previous relationship I just don’t fw bs fr, you on that friendly stuff WE DONE, you put me second WE DONE, you fw me when you want to WE DONE, go all day w/o talking to me WE DONE, you get one chance to show me how you coming, after that WE DONE. Y’all too old to be playing games 🤦🏽‍♀️‼️

If we fw each other! I shouldn’t have to tell you to text me back, shouldn’t have to wonder where you are, shouldn’t have to ask you what’s taking so long for a reply, nothing be questioned, this relationship takes two ppl and ima give it my everything, but ima need you to meet me half way 😴

🥷🏽 will never understand how hard it is for a female to walk away, even after all the bs she’ll still look for the one reason to try and make shit work cause she can't see herself making it work with somebody else. You think she wanna start over with another man? give her body to another man? NO.

I realized I had to let him go. He was unbothered watching me lose my mind over his decisions. I realized I was fighting for something that was hurting me. He’s broken and I wasn't meant to fix him. I learned that how people treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves

Life is beginning to be so weird now, you don't know who you can trust, you don't know who really loves you, you don't know who really out here praying on your downfall... all you know is to lowkey stay to yourself and be READY for whatever's in front of you ‼️

I don't mess w nobody anymore bc ppl will sit around you like they love you but in reality, whole time they don't even like you, lowkey hate on you, wish bad on you, make up lies about you, tell all your business, talk about you when you’re not around and laugh with people you don't fw 😴

I can respect a 🥷🏽 that can just say yeah I got hoes, yes I was talking to her, lol just tell me what you on. Whatever I choose to do after that is on me, whether we're together or not as long as you told me what was up you'll forever have my respect, that’s all it takes is communication and honesty‼️

Used to be crying my eyes out telling a 🥷🏽 what I deserved, trying to make him treat me a certain way, sending paragraphs and more.. but when you get done crying & explaining he still gonna do whatever he wants to do. You gotta move on & SHOW him why you deserve to be treated like a queen ‼️

Y'all think y'all be getting away with hurting people, bc that person may not do the things you've done to them, but be aware karma comes in many forms. Whether you're attacked mentally, physically or even financially. You reap what you sow and what's done in the dark will always come to the light.

Not gone lie, my toxic days are over. All the arguing, fighting, acting crazy etc. is over with we gone talk like adults and get an understanding or you gone get away from me simple. I'm not wasting no more energy and time. These past few years been stressful. All I want now is peace and real love!

I'm not speaking to anybody who don't speak to me, I'm not showing up for anybody who don't show up for me, I'm not showing love to anybody who don't show love to me & Im DEFINITELY not fake kickin it with anybody I KNOW really don't fw me. I'm all out of favors ima just tell you to kiss my ssa!

I don't care how long we've been friends, if I feel like you're weird when it comes to me I will cut you off! Time means nothing. I done had friends of 5+ years show me that they weren't really my friend.. I don't have to surround myself with nobody if I don't feel like they're genuinely for me ‼️

These mfs don't realize how much of a blessing I am, until they're cut off for good. I'm one of the realist, coolest, most down to earth females you could ever meet and if I love you fr, it ain't a dang thing I wouldn't do for you. You will definitely get king treatment this way but, oh well.

I'm finally coming to peace with the fact that you can't keep tripping on what you can't control, everyone is going to do what they want regardless of your feelings. So do yourself a favor and don't lose ya mind trying to figure out where you went wrong, just control what you can change!

Make sure doing me dirty is worth it. Make sure betraying me is worth it. Because IF I DO choose to still deal with you, you'll never get the same me twice. If you feel like I'm different, I AM. If you wonder why I don't bend over backwards for you anymore, now you know why.

It takes a lot for me to walk away from somebody, I am so forgiving like no matter how bad you do me I will forgive you, and give you another chance, so if it ever gets to the point to where I say ef it just know I gave all my energy & it's a wrap, I don't hold grudges over stuff I just let ya go!

I realized people never loved me for me.. It was just the way I showed up for them, the way I came thru when everyone else didn't, the way my mindset stimulated theirs, the way I looked pass their flaws and wanted the best for them, the way I was loyal no matter what...

Going through things on my own is why i've become such an independent person. i'm trying to recover from things i keep to myself. trying to silence the thoughts i dont talk about and mend wounds that i dont show. i'm trying to heal. because i know that nobody got me like i got me

We PROBABLY could have came back from the issue we had, But it was the way you moved afterwards that let me know why I couldn’t have you back around me. If your so called "loyalty" or "realness" changed cause you were mad, you was never real and can stay from around me !

If you cheating on a woman who giving you her body, putting food in your stomach, money in ya pockets, or just even a chest to lay on and vent to. YOU CANT BE TRUSTED.. How the fuck am I gon trust a nigga who turn his back on someone who does everything for him for NOTHING in return..

He's not taking u on dates, buying u flowers or anything romantic because he's just not into u. The brokest man will take u to a movie and buy u flowers. It’s not that he isn’t romantic. He just doesn't see that for u. If u express how u like to be loved and he doesn't adjust… well now u know.

If we're together and I have to ask for anything, I don't want it. Relationships in this generation are so corny. Ya'll dont plan dates, sentimental gestures, surprises nothing. Just mediocre sexual relations, bare communication and fake happiness. Can’t even do bare minimum expectations 🤦🏽‍♀️

I don't know who needs to hear this but take a break and go be alone from everybody and go get your thoughts together. You can find yourself around negative and draining energy and that can have an effect on you without you even realizing it… self love and peace is everything. Go take care of that.

There’s loving men out here, men who will sit and listen to you while you talk about something that bothered you. There are men out there that will take accountability and apologize. Men that will make you feel appreciated. You don't have to go through years of trauma, it is out there I promise you.

Maturing is realizing that overplaying your part in people's life to prove your loyalty and love is only proving how much you don’t value yourself. Deal with people how they deal with you. Rarely, barely, and accordingly.

I’d be lying if I said I didn't get in my feelings about the way people treat me, but I’ve learned it's life and everybody isn’t going to move like me, everybody not going to show the same love that I show... but for that reason alone I know I’ll be okay.

I'm enjoying me, rn. I'm hurting, I'm healing. I'm evolving, i'm releasing. I'm setting boundaries & staying firm. Im being consistent w the things I need & want. I'm getting to know me all over again. It's RAW & TRANSPARENT, I'm loving every minute of it. I love this for me!

I sat and watched everybody pick who they wanted to over me, and I still remained the same simply because I knew when I started picking ME over EVERYTHING it was a wrap and there’s no coming back from that! you gotta leave people to the one's they think so highly of.