Psychotherapist Valerie
@mytherapistvalerie.bsky.social
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🕊️ Trauma Recovery ❤️🔥 Radical Ally 🦋 Support for Survivors 🤍 Systemic & Community Care
You don’t always get neat endings or apologies. 🌙 What actually brings peace is learning how to calm your body when things stay unresolved. Emotional regulation gives you closure from the inside out. 🌿
#traumainformed
#selfregulation
#emotionalhealth
#healing
#psychology
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Healing isn’t always morning routines, ocean dips, or clean spaces. ✨ Sometimes it’s crying before work or finally replying to an email you’ve been avoiding. It’s messy, nonlinear, and deeply human. ☁️
#healingjourney
#traumarecovery
#mentalhealth
#growth
#selfcompassion
about 2 months ago
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Many of us were raised to equate selflessness with worth. But constant self-sacrifice leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection. 🌿 Therapeutically, boundaries are not rejection — they’re connection with integrity.
about 2 months ago
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Rest helps your body activate its healing state — the “rest and digest” system that trauma suppresses. 🌸 When you’ve lived in constant alertness, slowing down feels wrong at first. That’s not weakness, that’s your body learning safety again. 💭
#burnoutrecovery
#nervoussystemhealing
#traumainformed
about 2 months ago
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You don’t need a reason for your feelings to matter. 💭 In therapy, we often talk about emotional invalidation — when someone dismisses, minimizes, or questions what you feel. Over time, that teaches your nervous system that safety depends on silence.
#TraumaInformedTherapy
#EmotionalAwareness
2 months ago
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When everything around you celebrates urgency, choosing to slow down becomes an act of defiance. 🦋 Slowness isn’t lack of drive — it’s nervous system repair. You can’t heal in the same pace that hurt you. 🌿
#restasresistance
#healingjourney
#selfregulation
#mentalhealth
#traumainformed
2 months ago
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Healing doesn’t require you to become a new person. You’re not broken — you’re becoming. 💫 Therapy invites you to meet yourself with compassion, not conditions.
#SelfCompassion
#InnerChildHealing
#YouAreEnough
2 months ago
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Some things are meant to be processed slowly and privately. 🤍 Sharing too soon can create a sense of exposure your body isn’t ready for. Integration happens best when you feel safe, not when you feel performative. 🦋
#emotionalregulation
#healingjourney
#boundaries
#mentalhealth
#traumarecovery
2 months ago
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We tend to celebrate only “big” wins, but in trauma work, small progress is profound. Every boundary set, emotion felt, or rest taken is evidence of healing. 🎂
#CelebrateHealing
#TherapyIsWork
#ProgressNotPerfection
3 months ago
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You can choose peace without reopening old wounds. 🦋 Boundaries are not hostility — they’re protection for the parts of you that finally feel safe. 🌾
#boundaries
#selfrespect
#healingjourney
#mentalhealth
#traumainformed
3 months ago
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We live in a culture that often ties our worth to achievement — promotions, productivity, perfection. But love isn’t something you earn through milestones. It’s something you deserve simply because you exist. 💛
#SelfWorth
#AttachmentHealing
#TherapistThoughts
3 months ago
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If your body goes numb or “zones out” when you’re tired, that’s not laziness — it’s protection. 🌙 Many people who’ve lived through trauma associate rest with danger because stillness once meant exposure. Learning to rest safely is its own kind of healing. ✨
#traumatherapy
#dissociation
3 months ago
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Growth often means outgrowing versions of yourself. 🌱 Changing your mind doesn’t mean you’re inconsistent — it means you’re listening to your evolving needs. In therapy, this flexibility is called self-agency.
#Boundaries
#SelfDiscovery
#TherapyJourney
3 months ago
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Your reaction made sense — it just didn’t belong to the current moment. 🤍 🌿 Trauma teaches the body to react quickly to anything that even resembles past danger. Healing means helping your body notice that now is different.
#traumainformedcare
#nervoussystemhealing
#emotionalregulation
3 months ago
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Healing is nonlinear. Some days it’s journaling and movement; others it’s simply getting out of bed. 🕊️ Progress in therapy often looks quiet, inconsistent, and deeply human.
#HealingJourney
#TraumaInformedCare
#MentalHealthAwareness
3 months ago
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🕊️ Moral injury occurs when your values collide with what you’re forced to witness or participate in. It’s not just guilt — it’s a wound to integrity. Healing means grieving what was violated and reconnecting with what still matters. 🍃 You didn’t fail your morals. The system failed your humanity.
3 months ago
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Yes, trauma lives in the body — but so does healing. 🌸 Every time you breathe deeper, rest longer, or feel without dissociating, your body rewrites its story. The same system that once protected you can learn safety again. 🦋
#traumarecovery
#somatictherapy
#hope
#nervoussystemhealing
3 months ago
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Sometimes trauma teaches us to expect abandonment. But love that feels safe, steady, and kind does exist. 🤍 Being loved deeply starts with believing you’re worthy of it — even when it feels uncomfortable.
#AttachmentHealing
#TraumaTherapy
#LoveAfterAbuse
3 months ago
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🌫️ Dissociation is not disconnection. It’s the mind’s way of keeping you safe when reality is too much. 🍃 Healing is slow reentry — letting your body and mind meet again in safety. You are not detached. You’re learning how to return, one moment at a time.
4 months ago
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If you’re always scanning for signs of conflict or trying to manage someone’s mood, that’s not love — it’s hypervigilance. ☁️ When love feels safe, your body can actually rest inside it. You can connect instead of constantly monitoring. 💭
#attachmenttheory
#traumainformedrelationships
#boundaries
4 months ago
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Rest isn’t a prize; it’s a biological necessity. 💤 Many trauma survivors equate rest with laziness because safety once depended on constant vigilance. Learning to rest is learning to trust safety again.
#RestIsHealing
#NervousSystemRegulation
#TherapistTips
4 months ago
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Bearing witness to pain can quietly wound you too. Your nervous system absorbs what your empathy can’t discharge. 🌾 Numbness and fatigue aren’t failures. They’re signs that your system needs gentleness, not more exposure. 🍃 You can care deeply without carrying it all. Compassion deserves rest.
4 months ago
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Sometimes space is how regulation happens. ☁️ Stepping back gives your body time to reset and reflect. You can care deeply and still need room to breathe.
#healingjourney
#emotionalregulation
#boundaries
#mentalhealth
#traumainformed
4 months ago
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If all you did this year was survive — that’s enough. 🌿 In trauma therapy, we talk about “adaptive survival responses.” They’re not weaknesses; they’re evidence of resilience. Your body and mind did what they needed to keep you safe.
#TraumaRecovery
#ComplexPTSD
#ResilienceIsEnough
4 months ago
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Survivor’s guilt is grief mixed with “why me.” It appears when living feels like betrayal of those who couldn’t. Healing means remembering that honoring others includes continuing your own life. Joy can coexist with remembrance. You didn’t take someone’s place; you’re carrying their light forward. 🕊️
4 months ago
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Not every feeling is a sign. 🌙 Sometimes your body just wants to exist without being analyzed. Constant self-exploration can become self-surveillance — healing also includes rest from meaning-making. 🦋
#emotionalhealth
#healingjourney
#selfawareness
#traumainformed
#mindfulness
4 months ago
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Collective trauma is the shared pain of communities living through harm together — war, oppression, disaster, or loss. Healing begins in connection, not isolation. Grief becomes lighter when it’s held in community. You don’t have to carry the world alone. We heal when we remember each other. 🌿
4 months ago
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When your body is used to tension, calm can feel like something’s wrong. ☁️ You might find yourself waiting for a problem that isn’t there. That’s not self-sabotage — it’s your nervous system adjusting to quiet after years of adrenaline. ✨
#cptsd
#nervoussystem
#traumarecovery
#selfregulation
4 months ago
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🕊️ What does it mean to be a “last responder”? In this deeply personal essay for The Marshall Project, Shamari Jackson shares how restoring the bodies of those lost to violence became a form of therapy and connection.
www.themarshallproject.org/2025/10/17/m...
@ivyscott.bsky.social
4 months ago
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Grief is love with nowhere to go. It lingers in the body as ache, emptiness, or disbelief. Healing isn’t about letting go of the person or the past. It’s learning to carry love in a different shape. You don’t have to “move on.” You only have to keep moving with tenderness. 🕊️
#griefsupport
#trauma
4 months ago
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You contain all your versions — the protector, the avoider, the child who survived. 🦋 Healing isn’t about deleting them; it’s about letting them coexist without running the show. 🌿
#traumatherapy
#innerchildhealing
#selfacceptance
#healingjourney
#mentalhealth
5 months ago
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💭 On last week’s IMO with Michelle Obama & Craig Robinson, psychoanalyst Dr. Orna Guralnik (Showtime’s Couples Therapy) joins the hosts to answer a listener’s question about boredom in marriage.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=oYPW...
5 months ago
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Sometimes the trauma isn’t what happened — it’s what never did. Emotional neglect can make you feel like your needs are “too much.” Healing means learning to meet your own needs with compassion. 🫧
#traumainformed
#healingjourney
#innerchild
#complextrauma
#nervoussystemregulation
5 months ago
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Healing doesn’t always look big or obvious. 💭 It’s often your body reacting differently to familiar stress — smaller spikes, fewer shutdowns, longer moments of calm. Those subtle shifts are your nervous system learning safety again. ✨
#traumainformed
#nervoussystemregulation
#selfawareness
5 months ago
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