Psychotherapist Valerie
@mytherapistvalerie.bsky.social
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🕊️ Trauma Recovery ❤️🔥 Radical Ally 🦋 Support for Survivors 🤍 Systemic & Community Care
If your body goes numb or “zones out” when you’re tired, that’s not laziness — it’s protection. 🌙 Many people who’ve lived through trauma associate rest with danger because stillness once meant exposure. Learning to rest safely is its own kind of healing. ✨
#traumatherapy
#dissociation
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Growth often means outgrowing versions of yourself. 🌱 Changing your mind doesn’t mean you’re inconsistent — it means you’re listening to your evolving needs. In therapy, this flexibility is called self-agency.
#Boundaries
#SelfDiscovery
#TherapyJourney
6 days ago
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Your reaction made sense — it just didn’t belong to the current moment. 🤍 🌿 Trauma teaches the body to react quickly to anything that even resembles past danger. Healing means helping your body notice that now is different.
#traumainformedcare
#nervoussystemhealing
#emotionalregulation
10 days ago
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Healing is nonlinear. Some days it’s journaling and movement; others it’s simply getting out of bed. 🕊️ Progress in therapy often looks quiet, inconsistent, and deeply human.
#HealingJourney
#TraumaInformedCare
#MentalHealthAwareness
13 days ago
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🕊️ Moral injury occurs when your values collide with what you’re forced to witness or participate in. It’s not just guilt — it’s a wound to integrity. Healing means grieving what was violated and reconnecting with what still matters. 🍃 You didn’t fail your morals. The system failed your humanity.
15 days ago
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Yes, trauma lives in the body — but so does healing. 🌸 Every time you breathe deeper, rest longer, or feel without dissociating, your body rewrites its story. The same system that once protected you can learn safety again. 🦋
#traumarecovery
#somatictherapy
#hope
#nervoussystemhealing
19 days ago
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Sometimes trauma teaches us to expect abandonment. But love that feels safe, steady, and kind does exist. 🤍 Being loved deeply starts with believing you’re worthy of it — even when it feels uncomfortable.
#AttachmentHealing
#TraumaTherapy
#LoveAfterAbuse
20 days ago
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🌫️ Dissociation is not disconnection. It’s the mind’s way of keeping you safe when reality is too much. 🍃 Healing is slow reentry — letting your body and mind meet again in safety. You are not detached. You’re learning how to return, one moment at a time.
22 days ago
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If you’re always scanning for signs of conflict or trying to manage someone’s mood, that’s not love — it’s hypervigilance. ☁️ When love feels safe, your body can actually rest inside it. You can connect instead of constantly monitoring. 💭
#attachmenttheory
#traumainformedrelationships
#boundaries
24 days ago
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Rest isn’t a prize; it’s a biological necessity. 💤 Many trauma survivors equate rest with laziness because safety once depended on constant vigilance. Learning to rest is learning to trust safety again.
#RestIsHealing
#NervousSystemRegulation
#TherapistTips
27 days ago
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Bearing witness to pain can quietly wound you too. Your nervous system absorbs what your empathy can’t discharge. 🌾 Numbness and fatigue aren’t failures. They’re signs that your system needs gentleness, not more exposure. 🍃 You can care deeply without carrying it all. Compassion deserves rest.
29 days ago
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Sometimes space is how regulation happens. ☁️ Stepping back gives your body time to reset and reflect. You can care deeply and still need room to breathe.
#healingjourney
#emotionalregulation
#boundaries
#mentalhealth
#traumainformed
about 1 month ago
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If all you did this year was survive — that’s enough. 🌿 In trauma therapy, we talk about “adaptive survival responses.” They’re not weaknesses; they’re evidence of resilience. Your body and mind did what they needed to keep you safe.
#TraumaRecovery
#ComplexPTSD
#ResilienceIsEnough
about 1 month ago
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Survivor’s guilt is grief mixed with “why me.” It appears when living feels like betrayal of those who couldn’t. Healing means remembering that honoring others includes continuing your own life. Joy can coexist with remembrance. You didn’t take someone’s place; you’re carrying their light forward. 🕊️
about 1 month ago
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Not every feeling is a sign. 🌙 Sometimes your body just wants to exist without being analyzed. Constant self-exploration can become self-surveillance — healing also includes rest from meaning-making. 🦋
#emotionalhealth
#healingjourney
#selfawareness
#traumainformed
#mindfulness
about 1 month ago
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Collective trauma is the shared pain of communities living through harm together — war, oppression, disaster, or loss. Healing begins in connection, not isolation. Grief becomes lighter when it’s held in community. You don’t have to carry the world alone. We heal when we remember each other. 🌿
about 1 month ago
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When your body is used to tension, calm can feel like something’s wrong. ☁️ You might find yourself waiting for a problem that isn’t there. That’s not self-sabotage — it’s your nervous system adjusting to quiet after years of adrenaline. ✨
#cptsd
#nervoussystem
#traumarecovery
#selfregulation
about 2 months ago
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🕊️ What does it mean to be a “last responder”? In this deeply personal essay for The Marshall Project, Shamari Jackson shares how restoring the bodies of those lost to violence became a form of therapy and connection.
www.themarshallproject.org/2025/10/17/m...
@ivyscott.bsky.social
about 2 months ago
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Grief is love with nowhere to go. It lingers in the body as ache, emptiness, or disbelief. Healing isn’t about letting go of the person or the past. It’s learning to carry love in a different shape. You don’t have to “move on.” You only have to keep moving with tenderness. 🕊️
#griefsupport
#trauma
about 2 months ago
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You contain all your versions — the protector, the avoider, the child who survived. 🦋 Healing isn’t about deleting them; it’s about letting them coexist without running the show. 🌿
#traumatherapy
#innerchildhealing
#selfacceptance
#healingjourney
#mentalhealth
about 2 months ago
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💭 On last week’s IMO with Michelle Obama & Craig Robinson, psychoanalyst Dr. Orna Guralnik (Showtime’s Couples Therapy) joins the hosts to answer a listener’s question about boredom in marriage.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=oYPW...
about 2 months ago
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Sometimes the trauma isn’t what happened — it’s what never did. Emotional neglect can make you feel like your needs are “too much.” Healing means learning to meet your own needs with compassion. 🫧
#traumainformed
#healingjourney
#innerchild
#complextrauma
#nervoussystemregulation
about 2 months ago
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Healing doesn’t always look big or obvious. 💭 It’s often your body reacting differently to familiar stress — smaller spikes, fewer shutdowns, longer moments of calm. Those subtle shifts are your nervous system learning safety again. ✨
#traumainformed
#nervoussystemregulation
#selfawareness
about 2 months ago
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