The horrifying reality of honour-based abuse targeting LGBTQI+ individuals remains hidden in plain sight. We support numerous individuals experiencing serious harm from family members who believe they are ‘protecting’ family honour by attempting to change, conceal or erase their LGBTQI+ identity.

When someone seeks spiritual counsel and is told their pain is a test or a phase, that response erases reality and redirects blame. Pastoral gaslighting invalidates trauma and teaches people to doubt their feelings instead of finding care.

Being queer and a person of faith is not a contradiction, and is in fact far more common than people realise. Being queer and a believer is a calling to commitment and devotion, as we must choose to consistently grapple with our belief, engage with it deeply and critically. We don’t inherit our

Queer elders carry living archives of resilience, grief, and joy. Their age is a pillar of reassurance and affirmation to young queer people attempting to navigate difficult questions and complicated lives. We can exist and keep existing, and life continues to be worth it.

Our November Rainbow Chai session is this Tuesday, 25th November at 6.30pm. If you're a parent of South Asian heritage with an LGBTQI+ child, this online support group is for you. It's led by Saima, a proud mum of two LGBT children who understands exactly what you're going through.

They said God wouldn’t love you. Said you couldn’t exist - not trans and faithful, not both. And yet, here you are, still existing because you always could. Maybe you're still praying, still holding onto something sacred, even when others tried to take it from you.

Long-term safety comes from early sex-education, consent curricula, and family workshops that address respect without moralising. Preventing harm means teaching children and parents language for boundaries, consent, and empathy before crises occur.

Parents who reject queer children often lose the chance to learn how to hold them with tenderness; reconciliation can feel impossible until someone models a different way.

Our October Rainbow Chai session is this Tuesday, 28th October at 6.30pm. If you're a parent of South Asian heritage with an LGBTQI+ child, this online support group is for you. It's led by Saima, a proud mum of two LGBT children who understands exactly what you're going through.

When a queer child is emotionally disowned, there’s no ceremony, no mourning, no acknowledgement of loss. They just disappear from family photos, group chats, and prayers. The absence is treated like a correction, not a tragedy. The grief, however, is real.

Religious spaces often come with a script, especially for those assigned female at birth. You’re expected to be modest, quiet, obedient. Your body becomes a battleground for purity, and your future is mapped out without your consent.

There are religious leaders who understand the pain queer people carry. They’ve heard the stories, offered quiet comfort, and nodded in private. But when it comes to speaking out, they choose silence.

Some families not only reject their children, but they also turn them into warnings. Their name becomes shorthand for failure, for shame, whispered in cautionary tones to younger family members.

Many queer people don’t abandon faith, they just reshape it by creating rituals that speak to both their identity and their spirituality. Lighting candles for chosen family, rewriting prayers to reflect lived truth, fasting for clarity.

Many queer people don’t abandon faith, they just reshape it by creating rituals that speak to both their identity and their spirituality. Lighting candles for chosen family, rewriting prayers to reflect lived truth, fasting for clarity.

While debate focuses on formal “therapy,” countless LGBTQI+ people face damaging informal practices in religious settings weekly. The most prevalent forms of conversion practices don’t happen in clinical settings.

‘Prove You’re Gay’ or be deported to your death. The cruel reality facing LGBTQI+ asylum seekers in the UK system demands urgent attention and reform. We support an increasing number of LGBTQI+ individuals seeking safety from countries where their identity is criminalised - or punishable by death.

Our seven-stage model reveals the critical barriers preventing parental acceptance. Through years of supporting families, we’ve identified distinct phases parents typically navigate after learning their child is LGBTQI+:

Our August Rainbow Chai session is this Friday, 29th August at 6.30pm. If you're a parent of South Asian heritage with an LGBTQI+ child, this online support group is for you. It's led by Saima, a proud mum of two LGBT children who understands exactly what you're going through.

My Religion Taught Me to Hate Myself. Internalised religious homophobia creates devastating mental health consequences. Many we support describe years of self-hatred fuelled by religious teachings that labeled their core identity as sinful or unnatural.

One parent’s rejection can cause a lifetime of trauma. One parent’s love can reverse it. #OutAndProudParentsDay wasn’t just a celebration. It was about protection. Presence. And power. Thank you to every single one of you who took part.

If you’re a proud parent of an LGBTQI+ child, speak up today using #OutAndProudParentsDay to show the world what unconditional love looks like. #ProudParent #GaySon #FamilyAcceptance #LoveIsStronger #LGBT https://bsky.app/profile/nazandmatt.bsky.social/post/3lv6wwji7bs2a

We are thankful every day for our beautiful boys, the fact that one is gay and one is not makes no difference to us because love is love and they both make us so very proud every single day ❤️ #outAndProudParentsDay

'Matthew Drapper said he was led to believe demons had left his mouth during the intense prayer at a Sheffield church in 2014.' news.stv.tv/world/first-...

It’s not too late. Before the day ends, let your love be seen. One simple post. One message of love. One act of visibility that could mean the world to your child — and to others still waiting.

“Anurag has always been loving, brave, and true to himself. And I’ve always loved him for exactly who he is.” In this heartfelt conversation, Anita reflects on the journey of understanding and accepting her son Anurag, who she’s supported with quiet strength and unwavering love.

“Whatever your journey of acceptance is as a parent, it’s still harder for them.” In this moving reflection for Out and Proud Parents Day, Shuchita shares what it means to support her non-binary child while navigating the cultural expectations and social pressures of South Asian communities.

If you’ve ever waited for the right moment to say “I love you, just as you are” - This is it. You don’t need the perfect words. Just your voice. Just your love. Take part in Out and Proud Parents Day by posting a photo or short video with a message of support for your LGBTQI+ child.

You may not realise it, but your words could change a life. Even save one. Pride doesn’t start with flags or parades — it starts at home. If you're proud of your LGBTQI+ child, say it publicly today.

“I love my child.” Powerful words — but only if they’re spoken. Too many LGBTQI+ young people never get to hear them from their parents. Today, we change that. Take part by sharing a photo or video with a short message of support for your LGBTQI+ child. (No need to name or out them.)

Today is the day. It's Out and Proud Parents Day. 30th July. Across the country – and beyond – parents are standing up, speaking out, and showing their love publicly and proudly. If you’re a parent of an LGBTQI+ child, your words matter more than you know.

“If I stayed silent, I wouldn’t be here today.” And if brave parents stayed silent, many of their children might not be either. After Naz passed away, I could have disappeared. The grief almost did that for me. But something shifted. I realised silence was part of the problem.

Parental rejection doesn’t just hurt. It kills. Every year, LGBTQI+ children face homelessness, mental health crises, and suicide — not because of who they are, but because of how the people closest to them respond.

You say you're an ally. Here's your chance to prove it. Most LGBTQI+ rejection starts at home. We're asking organisations and allies to stand with us on 30th July – to invite parents in your networks to take part in Out and Proud Parents Day. Share the call. Spark the change.

Some kids come out to their parents. Others never get the chance. This 30th July, we’re asking proud parents of LGBTQI+ children to be visible, vocal, and proud - not just for their own child, but for every child who still lives in fear.

Silence kills. Especially when it comes from parents. This Out and Proud Parents Day (30th July), we're inviting charities, schools, faith groups and employers to help us tackle rejection, shame and silence by giving parents space to say the words their children needed to hear all along.

You don’t have to understand your child to love them. You just have to choose them. This 30th July, say it out loud. Take part in Out and Proud Parents Day and show the world you're proud of your LGBTQI+ child – exactly as they are. Because love should never be silent. #OutAndProudParentsDay

It’s back. The day that makes invisible love visible. On 30th July 2025, parents around the world will proudly say what too many LGBTQI+ children never get to hear: “I see you. I love you. And I’m proud of you.” This is Out and Proud Parents Day – a moment of joy, defiance, and deep healing.

When scripture becomes a weapon, LGBTQI+ Christians face impossible choices.

When your entire community treats your identity as taboo, speaking your truth becomes revolutionary. LGBTQI+ individuals of South Asian heritage face unique challenges when cultural concepts of family honour combine with religious prohibitions against homosexuality.

Event reminder - Love, Faith and Queerness in Muslim Communities (panel event) Thursday, 19th June, 6:00pm – 7:30pm The Conduit, 6 Langley St, London WC2H 9JA ----

Happy Father's Day to all the amazing dads who embrace their LGBTQI+ children with open arms and unconditional love🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈. Your open-hearted acceptance sends a powerful message of love and affirmation to not only your children, but to parent's around the world. Thank you for being an

For LGBTQI+ people rejected by family, the margin between safety and homelessness can be frighteningly small. Our urgent support provides critical intervention at moments of crisis. When the choice is between returning to an abusive home or sleeping rough. They create the breathing space

In many conservative communities, extended family members act as unwitting or deliberate surveillance, reporting back on behaviours, friendships, and perceived deviation from expected norms.

Eid Mubarak 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 Sending peace, love, positivity and strength to our LGBTQI+ family, our allies and all proud, accepting parents. 🤗🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🤗

Emergency relocations are one of the most challenging services we provide. LGBTQI+ people from conservative families often flee with nothing but the clothes on their backs, facing immediate homelessness and danger.

Corporate Pride support often vanishes when our community needs it most. It reinforces the dangerous message that LGBTQI+ identities are only acceptable when convenient or profitable. True allies understand that visibility during difficult times matters most.

We support families where a parent’s decision to reach out transformed desperate situations. Parents tell us they wish they’d reached out sooner. Our parent support service helps you take that first step, however difficult, which can be the beginning of healing for both parent and child.

Join Us for Two Critical Conversations at The Conduit, Covent Garden. Two free events that tackle the complex intersections of sexuality, faith, culture, and family with honesty and courage.

Many parents don’t realise the true cost of rejection until it’s too late. Our support service regularly hears from individuals forced to choose between living authentically and maintaining family relationships. Contact us if you need help, support or a friendly listening service.