OMG. I had a dude say the only reason men overestimate how much women talk in a group setting (i.e., they'll insist women dominated if they speak over 30%) is that "women are more significant to us and their voices are notable and precious." Really?? Then why the hell don't they ever listen to us?

Something something "we can't screen for red flags, including mental illness or violent history, with regard to gun ownership! That's against the second amendment! I mean unless it's to get The Transes, who clearly have a mental illness! We can take it away from THEM if ONE trans person did a bad."

Editing an emotionally difficult chapter tonight. Protagonist has an argument with her grandmother (who also has high status in their community). Those are never fair.

Weird how dudes threaten me with future unhappiness if I don't get married and settle down with some guy. Meanwhile I'm over here thinking "Only one of the two of us is unhappy with my situation." What evidence suggests *I* should change (for a dude who's salivating for me to regret my choices)?

Right? They always act like they're delivering a devastating zinger but they're describing something really cool!

Guy: Are you interested in a poly relationship with a couple? I'm looking for a sub Me: No. Reading profiles will help you find people who want what you want. Guy: You should change your profile from bisexual to straight then OBVIOUSLY IF I DON'T WANT A POLY RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU I BECOME STRAIGHT

Every photo of me looks like it was taken by a giant. I am so freaking short.

As the Bert in most relationships, I have to say, our Ernies may make us pull our hair out, but we wouldn't give them up for the world.

The solution to someone screaming for help next door isn't to soundproof the room.

I once saw this dude on the Former Bird App going hard on the "why don't women just make me a list?" angle. He was arguing it SO aggressively. Responding to woman after woman. Essentially saying "If it's something ONLY YOU care about, then YOU need to make me a DAMN LIST. Why not just accept that?"

Aw, cuuute, I got my YouTooz Steven Universe Steven-n-Lion today.

Quit treating every space that women exist in as if it is a dating site. It really is that simple.

I can't believe my favorite show is coming back ;_; Fun fact: At one time whoever edits my Wikipedia page altered it to say that I am a Steven Universe fan. (They weren't wrong, but it's funny that they found it significant enough that it should be part of my bio. In fairness, it IS that important.)

Not answering a random dude who sent me a message without reading my profile and now I am existing as Schrödinger's Ugly Bitch I was "the hottest woman on the internet" when he wrote his message! Now let's wait and see if I was simultaneously actually hideous the whole time.

You know, even though straight culture has aggressive and abusive indoctrination, harassment and threats by parents toward kids who are even suspected of being gay, de-gaying camps that traumatize people, and constant casual representation in everyday life and media . . . somehow Pride is "too far."

What they say: "I just don't want the ell bee gee tee shoving it in my face. I just don't see why it's important." What they mean: "I am not gay and don't want to be forced to be gay or have anyone gay interact with me and I find it horrifying that I have to share my world with The Gays."

US Politician: [Implies being Christian is the only way to be moral and people are Not American if they aren't Christian] Reasonable people: "Yeah you shouldn't use your platform to proselytize or shame" Politician: "WELL apparently no one's allowed to be proudly Christian in this country anymore"

Anti-trans rhetoric often goes like "We need to misgender trans people, use their dead names, assign them disorders/perversions, and harass them in restrooms without being labeled hateful/transphobic!" Seriously. Watch the way they pair their bigotry with "And my words should NEVER reflect on ME!"

Me: [cracks knuckles] Okay, this book needs to lose like HALF its words. Editing time. Me: [ten minutes later] One of the most important places in the book never even got a description! [type type type]

People protest human rights violations/war crimes in Palestine: "IT'S ALL CATEGORICALLY ANTISEMITISM! REVOKE THEIR VISAS! DESTROY THEIR FUNDING! LITERALLY ARREST THEM!" People march for white supremacy: "What's that got to do with us? Free speech, man." Why do they pretend they care about bigotry?

Misogynists see women as lesser--say our emotions make us less reliable and our brains don't have the capacity theirs do--and then ALSO claim there is no institutionalized oppression of women. You won't judge my words on an even field because they came out of a woman, but there's ALSO no bias? Gee.

Just read a thing where a man suggested we can justify women being more naturally able to be up with babies all night and do all the housework because...get this..."men's bigger brains and intense thoughts that women lack mean men need more rest." Yes, amazing ignorance and misogyny. But....

I really wanna see some of these gross dudes define "feminine" without equating it to either specific physical traits or words that hang out next to "submissive" and "weak" in the thesaurus.

The SPEED with which some people stampede to defend a perpetrator sometimes is astounding. "OK yes he harmed a woman through sexual aggression and was remorseless afterwards, but did you ever think maybe he's autistic, fatherless, or has a lot going on at home?" ANYTHING to make HIM sympathetic.

Wake up and realize there's something very wrong when some people can't teach history, argue legal cases, engage in peaceful protest, or tell the world who they are without figuring in "is the President gonna get'cha?"

Always funny when capitalists get mad at capitalism when it works against THEM. Amazon: [Incorporates tariff notifications on applicable items so people don't think it's THEM jacking up the price] Trump: "They're telling everybody that *I* caused the thing I explicitly did cause! ELECTION FRAUD!!"

Amazing that this book was published in 2012 and yet it mentions Donald Trump on page 2

Sometimes I just tell people about memes instead of sending them

LOL. I've been harassed with death/rape threats, stalked, and had people aggressively try to ruin my professional reputation. When I complained, the consensus was "if you can't HANDLE that, you Shouldn't Be an Activist." But I'm a queer woman doing activism. 2 guesses why they think I should endure.

It's weird how "lick my ass and tell me what a good job I'm doing or I will do everything in my power to make sure you all die" has become a political position in this country and people are, like, sitting around treating it like it's normal.

TW if you haven't seen the grossness of Rowling's acephobia below. Re her comments: "how do asexual people know whether they're gay or straight, I wonder?" Yes, what you totally should do is speculate and act like it's absurd, instead of educating yourself against saying bafflingly ignorant things!

Regarding the latest nonsense with Rowling targeting asexual people (on one of their own awareness days, of course), it's interesting how often people who desperately need education on a topic make a clownish announcement about how little that education is needed. Asexual =/= "not fancying a shag."

we are maybe two weeks from jesse watters declaring that it’s gay for men to have sex with women

For #InternationalAsexualityDay , I want to talk about certainty. Anybody who's been out as asexual for a minute and a half has heard the "well what if you're wrong?" and "what if it's a phase?" narrative. Coupled with "you shouldn't ID that way if you're not SURE." ...How does one become "sure"?

Ugh. Reminds me--a friend I had used to insist "everyone's thinking it! everyone's wondering it!" regarding completely inappropriate sexual subjects that, to be fair, only some people (like this guy) are thinking, and somehow haven't learned why saying it out loud is pretty vile.

Sometimes I drink a lot of water and feel like I became thirstier BECAUSE I drank water. Like "Oh yeah, of course I'm thirsty, I just drank all this water." Is that a thing?

Saw a blue Cybertruck go by my house on a tow truck

I love a good cleansing sneeze that seems to come up from your frickin' feet.

C'mon Florida, quit Florida-ing. Just for a little while.

If you're asexual and pretty out about it, it won't be long before you have to hear someone sneer, "Why do you need to talk about this? Do you just need attention? I don't like FOOTBALL. Does that mean I need AWARENESS efforts for being a NON-FOOTBALL LIKER?" Well. Is it like that, though, actually?

To solve sibling fights when I was a kid, my sister and I decided to take turns "being right" every other day; if it was your day, you got your way. That's what the executive order declaring the president the ultimate authority on interpretation of law reminds me of. I was 8

Excuse but why is there one Enormo-chip in my bag of mini-chips (No I am not eating baking chocolate as a sna--SHUT UP.)

One misunderstanding about DEI is that it's just decoration. Yes, intentionally including marginalized people is good for those people, but the smug straight white dudes against it don't realize the innovative perspectives and ideas diversification brings. They think only THEY define success.

Vegan "chicken" pot pies were so good at holiday time that I had to make them again!

Went on eBay to look for calendars. First 2 results were a full nude calendar of cowboys and a Donald Trump art calendar. Asked myself which I find less desirable and determined I'd rather have naked dudes in hats on my wall than anything Trump so there is that.

Peppermint whipped cream means pink coffee!

Last plate of leftover cookies!

I may have gone a bit overboard with the homemade holiday treats.

Anyone ever had a single egg with THREE yolks? This is my first time.

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