Today is Non-Speaking Awareness Day. Non-speaking ≠ non-thinking. Speech is not the only valid form of communication. Too many are silenced by ableism, not by their disabilities. Let’s respect all forms of communication 🤍🫶🏽

I’ve been stuttering all dam day 😂😂😂

Being ace is fun. It's like another avenue to see how full of it folks are. It also tends to fuck up certain easy conversations. Kinda like being bi. Cause now everyone has to think harder than they want to. That is why.

💙👍🏼🤬😢 people, DO BETTER!!!!

Another important shift in recent studies concerns gender differences in diagnosis. Historically, ADHD was viewed as a “boys’ disorder” because hyperactivity is more visible in this sex. “We are now more aware of inattentive symptoms, which are more commonly present in females, “

“Dr Conkbayir, 45,explained her 67 y/ohusband’s co-hosting role and the inspiration for the podcast’s distinctive title. She revealed: "Simply because we often get into cheeky banter and debates, where I’ll say I’m ADHD, and he’ll say no you’re not. And that’s literally where the title came from.”

“I would recommend the clinic to others who are struggling and think they might have ADHD,” Jack said. “All of the tools, strategies and resources we talked about are useful in general for everyone, not just those with ADHD, and offered good life skills that many of us wished we’d learned earlier.”

Being autistic and asexual can mean constantly being told you're “missing out” on something essential to being human. But what if we flipped that narrative? What if it’s not about “lacking”

The truth is: You don’t have to meet neurotypical standards of attraction. You don’t need to perform sexuality to be accepted. Your existence is powerful. And it’s real 💜🤍🩶🖤

Asexual people are often erased. Autistic people are often misunderstood. So when you’re both? You’re navigating a world that insists you don’t exist twice….

But here’s the truth: 👌🏽 Autistic people aren’t confused. We’re not late bloomers. We’re not broken. We just experience identity and attraction in ways the neurotypical world doesn’t always understand. And that’s valid.

Too often, autistic people who identify as asexual are told they’re: ❌ Too young to know ❌ Just socially awkward ❌ “Not developed enough” to feel attraction 😒

Did you know autistic people are significantly more likely to identify as asexual than neurotypical people? That doesn’t mean all autistic people are ace but the overlap is real and under-discussed….

If we want true inclusivity, we have to stop gatekeeping queerness and start embracing the diversity within our own community. Ace people belong here! We have the right to exist just like everyone else! 👌🏽

Asexuality is not a watered down identity. It’s not “just a preference.” It’s not a phase you grow out of when you fall in love. It’s a full, rich spectrum of human experience.

Asexual people face real discrimination from being dismissed by therapists, to being left out of legal protections, to being told their relationships “aren’t real.” That’s acephobia. And just because it’s not talked about, doesn’t mean it isn’t happening.

Where’s the Representation? Think about the last time you saw an asexual character in a show, book, or movie. Exactly. The lack of ace representation feeds the myth that we don't exist, or that our experiences don’t matter!

Asexuality isn’t a lack. It’s a whole identity. We deserve representation, understanding, and a world that sees our wholeness without conditions 👌🏽

Society is obsessed with sex in media, relationships, even self-worth. But here’s the truth: not wanting sex is just as human as wanting it. Asexual people are often pathologized, pitied, or pressured into "fixing" themselves. That’s not okay.

It’s time we normalize not experiencing sexual attraction. It’s not broken. It’s not a phase. It’s not “waiting for the right person.” As an asexual person these are conversations I need to see more so I’m starting them 🖤🩶🤍💜

Why is asexuality still invisible in conversations about identity? Asexuality is real, valid, and deeply misunderstood. Despite being part of the LGBTQIA+ spectrum, ace voices are often sidelined, questioned, or erased altogether.

Be flexible= don't set boundaries and allow people to trample all over you as they wish, or you will be labelled as "difficult" and "too much". If you are "flexible", you will be allowed to struggle quietly until you burn out. We cannot win for as long as it is acceptable to abuse us like this.

Just added to my substack ♾️

“It’s schools treating sensory meltdowns not as a cry for support, but as willful defiance suspending or expelling Black autistic girls at rates that far exceed their white or neurotypical peers. It’s hospitals dismissing pain, chalking up serious symptoms to anxiety, aggression,”

If someone is making me uncomfortable or I just feel like the ‘pity friend’ I’m walking away, it wasn’t always like this I would stay in spaces I knew I wasn’t wanted thinking maybe someday that will change, not anymore peace out ✌🏽

Not every “friend” is a safe person. If someone constantly jokes at your expense, ignores your needs, or makes you feel like a burden they’re not being kind. You don’t have to shrink yourself to keep people around 👌🏽

Autistic people are often taught to "be more flexible" or "go with the flow" but guess what? Abusers love that. They rely on us doubting ourselves and not speaking up. Your boundaries aren’t a problem. You’re allowed to say no ♾️

One hard truth: some people seek out autistic people because they think we’re easier to manipulate. If you’ve ever felt like someone only kept you around to control or use you you’re not imagining it. That’s not your fault.

Just a reminder: If someone constantly makes you feel confused, drained, or like everything is your fault... that’s not a healthy friendship. Especially if they blame it on you being “too autistic” or “too much.” That’s manipulation, not love ❤️‍🩹

People love to say we “miss social cues,” but they don’t talk about how others miss our cues. Like when we go quiet, change the subject, or freeze those can be signs we’re uncomfortable. Abusers ignore that. Good people notice and care 🫶🏽

A lot of autistic people stay in bad friendships or relationships because we’re scared of being alone again. When you've spent years being left out or misunderstood, even crumbs of connection can feel like a feast. But you deserve more than crumbs ♾️

We need more conversations about relational safety in autistic spaces not just romantic abuse, but toxic friendships, codependency, coercion. Abuse doesn't always look loud or violent. Sometimes, it hides behind “you’re the only one who gets me.” ♾️

This. 100% this. 💔

Autistic communication differences are often weaponized. "You're too sensitive," "You're overreacting," or "You misunderstood" can be used to gaslight us out of our own perceptions. Abuse thrives where self-trust has been eroded ♾️

Abuse often hides behind “friendship” for autistic people. When you’ve been isolated or excluded, even harmful attention can feel validating. This makes it easier for others to take advantage emotionally, socially, or financially ♾️

Autistic people are more likely to experience abuse in relationships romantic and platonic. Many of us are taught to mask, ignore our instincts, or believe our needs are "too much," making it harder to spot red flags or advocate for ourselves I know this all too well

Mannn I do not pay attention when I do interviews look at stimming 😂😂😂 #throwback

Every autistic should hear this.

This is gross 🤢 but I’m not surprised

WASHINGTON (AP) — Judge suspends Trump administration's plan to eliminate hundreds of jobs at agency overseeing Voice of America.

I didn’t have to block anyone today 😂😭🥴

Dexter singing lullabies 😂🫠

Don’t be afraid to give yourself permission to leave a room that didn’t know how to hold you 🌺🫶🏽

7 attempts to be exact!

Suicide rates are disturbingly high among autistic people, autistic people are up to 9 times more likely to die by suicide & for autistic women & trans people that number is even higher, autism itself is not a public health ‘crisis’ but this is ♾️

It’s still suicide awareness month! Autistic people especially those who are undiagnosed have no support or constantly masking are significantly more likely to die by suicide this isn’t about autism itself it’s about being misunderstood, isolated & denied dignity ♾️

Negative media coverage isn’t just ‘bad press’ it’s retraumatizing for autistic people it reinforces years of bullying, medical neglect & exclusion none of this is okay none of this is harmless they raise our risk of depression, PTSD , even suicide ♾️

Every time autism is blamed in a headline for violence or tragedy autistic people feel the impact it increases stigmas sometimes isolation grows, & the anxiety of just EXISTING in a world that sees you as dangerous becomes really overwhelming ♾️

The dehumanizing narratives the media portrays do not just affect public opinion it DIRECTLY harms some autistic people’s mental health, yes I’m still talking about this 🫠 we see ourselves reduced to stereotypes