Social media is becoming too cruel

2025 was.. damm.. 2026 had better improve things around here Meanwhile www.iamadandy.com/iamadandy/bl...

The one surefire job I would have gotten has been canceled. But the recruiter wished me Happy Holidays #job

So I have to do what I need to do. I am looking into Mercari to raise the rest of the money for January rent (I am 3/4 of the way there), but I figured I would try my luck with my website too www.iamadandy.com/iamadandy/bl...

styleicon.org/2025/phil-po... Top 5 in 2nd Place!!!

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I came in 3rd at the Ball, beaten by two Black trans women (out of fairness, no human can defeat a Black trans woman in a ball). And I advanced to the Top 10 for Style Icon, still currently in 2nd place styleicon.org/2025/phil-po...

What people don't understand is that people have called me ugly, stupid, and worthless my entire life, and they continue to do so today. Not yet getting a job doesn't help

I made it to the Top 15!! Currently in 3rd place! This is really cool, and this all goes to an excellent cause: the Elton John AIDS Foundation. I am of the AIDS generation of the 80s, so this matters to me, and showing my art to the world like this is so cool. styleicon.org/2025/phil-po... #fashion

I decided to reminisce on my old Cemetery Potluck lewks yesterday for Flower Factory and produced this Goth lewk. Also, a personal celebration for getting rid of a toxic dark entity in my life alongside being around 🔥 beautiful friends and guys in defiance of "can't interact with others"

On my second birthday weekend I am going to dress up, go full on Disco Dandy, and head to Studio 54 to boogie on down with Bianca Jagger, horse and all, with fabulous drag queens, 🔥 shirtless gogo boys, and Utica. Miss Adams Morgan Pageant 2025 #dandy #fashion #gaydc

I just lost my job. I work in IT as a web developer and programmer with 25+ years of experience, and I need a job fast. Help appreciated #job #employment #web #software

I flat out refuse to show any sadness nor empathy towards anyone who wanted me ⚰️, and if that's a deal breaker for you, allow me to show you the door out of my life, because I have loving, accepting, and inclusive friends that celebrate me, and you and your bowing to h@te don't have to be among them

The theme for this year's PTown Carnival was "Summer Camp". I remember my childhood going to summer camp and having Christmas in July, so let's make it Dandy! In August, but who's counting? #ptowncarnival #summercamp #christmasinjuly🎄 #queerfashion

I impressed my coworkers with my skills and producing near 💯 their homepage for a demo of the proposed rewrite. They even admitted that they didn't expect my proof-of-concept to be near-identcal to the live version! Yay! Also this

Happy Juneteenth! #juneteenth

No yt 🍊 loving not see yt r@cist gay calling me a r@cist is going to ruin my start of Social Summer, but we really need to stop wanting to 🍆 or 🍑 not see yt r@cist gays. Gays, pay attention. Meanwhile, this was me @tradebardc @capitalpridedc #dandy #maximalism #pride2025 #capitalpride

Here is Part 2 of New York Met Gala weekend: I went to Julius' Bar, a recommendation by one of my best friends who used to work there. I had a blast! People LOVED my lewk! Now it's your turn. My evening lewk for the Met Gala weekend #metgala2025 #superfine #blackdandyism #dandy #dandyism #fashion

On my way to New York to [almost] fulfill a dream. So, of course, my anxiety is off the charts. Prayers, thoughts, mojo, juju, etc. please, and thanks

My dandyism is anti not see

I refuse to ruin my Easter by reading that.. message. This is the orange I need during Easter #kylieminogue #tensiontour #easter2025 #Easter #dandy #fashion #lgbtqia

On my last day of work, not a single person announced that today was my last day during the meeting. Nothing. I meant nothing to them there. Feelings of worthlessness

I don't need to go into much deeper introspection into my upgrade of my 2019 Dandy Walk lewk except how blessed my day and evening were while dressed in my 2019 Dandy Walk upgrade lewk, all while we're suffering GayThreads #bunkerclubdc #crushdancebar #flowerfactory_party

This was my lewk last night for the Orpheus Ball. I missed the runway walk for Best Dressed due to my Uber driver going to the wrong location, but here I am anyway #fyp #spring #spring2025 #Wonderland #ball #transcendence #dandy #dandylion #dandyism #steampunk #fashion #style #dapper #fancy

So I just wrote the ability to like any of my blogs on my website in a "dead" language, and you're free to see for yourselves. But remind me again why I have to have a piece of paper in light of 25 years of experience and my mad skills, Job Market www.iamadandy.com/iamadandy/bl...

I love my life

You can now like my Gallery pictures on my website. Go to www.iamadandy.com/iamadandy/ga... , click onto any individual picture, and like away (if you truly like it)

I lost my job

I mean, they did say wear red for a Mayhem party @tradebardc.bsky.social #ladygaga #Mayhem

Nothing is distracting me in the right way more than some 🔥 🌈 🍆 🍑 💦, because I am tired of doomscrolling right now

#help #ineedafriend

My toilet is malfunctioning, and my landlord refuses to do anything about it. I am tasked to do a work task I am not trained to do,and no training will be provided. So the BEST thing that happened was when a random yt gay saw me grocery shopping and made a vomiting faces sneer at me.

In the midst of a very bad week I take back my power, in a silly, campy, fashion forward kind of way, in time for Mardi Gras and the subsequent celebration at TRADE. Laissez les bons temps rouler (sur les mals hommes) #mardigras2025 #mardigras #lgbtqia #drag #dragisart #dandy #dandyism #style

After an awful bad day at work, I reminded myself of good in the world. I wrote this blog last night, my first blog since June 2024 www.iamadandy.com/iamadandy/bl...

Fed up and going to look cute tonight at Crush, because I am old disabled neurodivergent misshapen black gay fem queer dandy who can look like this and that is all GayThreads

Your clues to this week's episode of @rupaulsdragcon.bsky.social

Story Time (and I want to shamelessly promote my lewks): Decades ago, when Ramrod was still in DC, I was there being me, when this older leather daddy approached me and ordered(!) me to be his s|äv3. Now aside from the Race Of It All, and the Consent Of It All, I said to him:

Not exactly a fan of St. Valentine's Day. My only boyfriend Larry d13d August 2009, 6 months before my only (that I know of) opportunity to celebrate. I will somehow still be happy for LGBTQ+ couples, throuples, and situationals on this day.. as I personally wince #valentinesday #lgbtq

A better shot. I am proud that I can do this at last

So in a work meeting the team lead asked us to put in our favorite emoji in the chat. I did my usual: "Mine doesn't exist here." It actually doesn't, because it's this: 🌈

In case you didn't know that fashion exists in DC, you're welcome, and Happy Holidays! December Flower Factory Yuletide Ball lewks. Damn this pic is 🎄 🔥! #dandy #dandylion #dandyism #steampunk #fashion #fashionstyle #style #dapper #fancy #maximalism #maximalist #maximalistfashion #maximaliststyle

I need to stop making "friends" with people who wouldn't even blink if something bad happened to me because I'm not hot enough or yt enough or goth enough or steampunk enough or compliant enough or 🤡 enough to be accepted by them

Imma gonna say it: In a weekend where I was laughed at by yt Christians for sharing my pain at the hands of the church, where I was, again, multiple times, receiving disapproving looks from cis yt gays for having my shirt off, and paying $319 in medical bills in one day.. (1/2)

Having people, especially women and non-gay queer people, absolutely adore my historical black queer dandy fashion art is always so wonderful.. ..but there's something personally powerful about a gay man being sexually into me when I'm shirtless with other shirtless men (last night)

The Grammys were a time for Black and Queer artists, as well as our blessed mother Lady Gaga, to highlight the importance of Black and Brown artistry, of the trans community, of healthcare, and of diversity and inclusivity. (1/2)

The Ball was a wonderful time at one of my favorite gay bars, Crush, with my friends there to support me and enjoy the moment. It was powerful; it was magical; it was defiant. Our joy is an act of saying "F*q U" to those who are scared of compassion, love, acceptance, inclusion, Black and Brown Joy.

I need San Francisco I need Flower Factory I need a Dandy Walk at a steampunk con I need a 🔥 guy to be sexually into me I need the London Colour Walk I need to go to the Met Gala I need PTown Carnival I need this fekkink black/brown queer ball #lgbtq #lgbtqia

First time in a while due to depression over everything, money issues, and the polar vortex. Good to be back, but I'll never be a dedicated gymrat; I am me

I really, really, really X 100000000000000 would like to scroll through social media for one hot microsecond without seeing his face. And I need a ball. Thursday night couldn't come soon enough