How do you define dominance in #D/S? Can you suggest one word that comes close? My word is leadership, but what does that mean? Find out in this week’s Monday Minute: www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/leadership-d... #BDSM #relationships #leadership

Once upon a time, there were two kinktastic communities with much in common but they often did not play nicely with each other. This Fetish Friday, see how #BDSM and #swinging are interconnecting: www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/divide-fet-f...

While the crop, flogger, paddle, etc. leave physical marks that fade, a dominants leadership should leave a permanent positive imprint on their submissive’s soul. #bdsm #d/s #kinkeducation

This week's Wordsmith Wednesday's #poem explores the heavy weight of past choices and consequences that trail behind, leading you through a mindscape built from sustained loss and profound ache. #poetry www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/pluse-beneat...

What is a hot new trend in #BDSM? Using lifestyle #porn in place of #kink education. Now the content has not changed, the plots are still horrendous but many think what they see on their screen is how to do it. Tap the link in my bio or below to listen today. youtu.be/VcGCnT1NmSU

Has this trend popped up at you on #BDSM and #kink sites? You click for a profile, expecting a smiling face and instead it jumps out like a phallic Jack-In-The-Box. This Monday Minute takes a humorous, hard look ⬇️ www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/eggplant-mon...

What happens when home goes from a place to a person? Wordsmith Wednesday looks at what happens when a person becomes the home your heart recognizes. Let this verse carry you back to the feeling of home: #poem #poetry #home www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/home-wordsmi...

Have you ever missed something important while vetting? Do you know what vetting is or how to do it? This week’s Monday Minute brings you clarity on the gravity of vetting and no matter if you are new or somewhere in-between: #vetting #bdsm #ds www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/vetting-guid...

What fetish was given the title of 2025’s #fetish of the year? It is one that has fascinated people for centuries & now has a month dedicated to its celebration. Discover this Fetish in this special Black Friday edition of Fetish Friday. #bdsm #d/s www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/chasity-fet-...

Do you struggle to give yourself grace? Grace can bring growth, if we let it. This Wordsmith Wednesday’s #poem explores grace and how it has transformed my #relationship. Can #grace help you grow? Find out in Grace, Three... www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/grace-wordsm...

Myths often grow out of something people want to believe and in D/S, there is a legend that #dominance is the last bastion of #gentlemen. Discover why #D/S is not the last stand gentleman in this week’s Monday Minute: www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/gentleman-mo... #BDSM #submissive #dominant

Curious about how collars work in #D/S relationships? Want to spot signs of a cheap dominant? Need a break from football? My podcast, Chatting With The Lightkeeper, covers it all. Tap the link to watch today: youtu.be/UfbOvFkVdNw?... #podcast #BDSM #collar #collaring #d/srelationship

With the fall chill in the air, many are breaking them out but their impact goes far beyond warmth. They can conceal & reveal create erotic sensation. This Fetish Friday explors #gloves as objects of sensual fascination. #BDSM #D/S #kink www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/gloves-fet-f...

What does it feel like to have a #collar placed on your neck or place one on someone you trust? Wordsmith Wednesday explores the weight and meaning of that moment. One poem captures the pulse, the breath, the gravity of a bond. #D/S #BDSM #poem www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/bond-wordsmi...

A #dominant must balance authority with empathy, and understand that their role includes providing support and nurturing the growth of their #submissive. #BDSM #D/S

Has #Master become confused with masturbator? It was a title offered as recognition of dedication but now it has become something slapped on an Insta bio at 2am. This week’s Monday Minute separates genuine mastery from posturing: www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/master-monda... #BDSM #D/S

Would My Lady care to accompany me to a #spanking club? That invitation might have been whispered in #Victorian England as it contained a secret world of underground desires. Discover this side of Victorians in this week's #Fetish Friday: www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/victorian-fe... #BDSM

#Dominants are normal humans, just like anyone & here are a few reminders to cut through the myths: -They can/will say no -Have/maintain their limits & boundaries -Are not perpetually horny -May be firm, gentle, or a combination -Will make mistakes -Need attention -Have emotions #BDSM #D/S

Wordsmith Wednesday is taking a sick day, Norovirus had other plans for me. But Monday’s #poem still deserves the spotlight, catch it on my site if you missed it. #poetry www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/lighthouses-...

Have you noticed how some watch a #BDSM movie and start acting like a movie star #dom? Instantly it becomes 50 shades of drama, noise, and popcorn crumbs and this Monday Minute draws the line between the silver screen and ethical #dominance. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/ethical-movi...

One of the greatest things a #dominant can do for their #submissive is to silence their mind by creating a place where they can let go of the cares of the world and simply be. #bdsm #d/s

Almost half of people report having a #fetish, but have you ever wondered where they come from? This Fetish Friday examines the reasons behind them using research, not opinion polls, yeah science! Find out what might be behind yours. #BDSM #D/S www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/why-do-fet-f...

Sometimes in this world of #kinks, #fetishes, and casual #sex, great conversations can feel like a new way to make love.

Some say “I want you” and others “I need you”. This Wordsmith Wednesday’s #poem explores choice. Would you rather be #wanted, #needed, or #chosen? #poetry www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/choose-words...

Has life ever moved at warp speed for you? Have you ever struggled to manage D/S while at light speed? This week’s Monday Minute is here to help providing practical ideas on how to manage life and lifestyle. #D/S #BDSM #kinkeducation #BDSMeducation www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/life-balance...

Do you know what is fabulous about #BDSM and Halloween? Halloween offers a unique opportunity, discover how All Hallows Eve grants permission to step into the daylight. As long as you are not a vampire! Find out how in this week’s Fet Friday. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/halloween-fe...

There is nothing wrong with being #kinky or involved in #BDSM. Never apologize for being yourself.

What is luxury? Coffee in a Styrofoam cup? Rain pouring in through an open car window? A haunting, relentless ghost brought on by song? #poem #poetry This Wordsmith Wednesday’s verse strips the shine off luxury www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/luxury-words...

What do the Spice Girls and #BDSM have in common? Find out in the new episode of the Chatting With The Lightkeeper podcast and discover just how common what we call uncommon actually is. Available wherever you get your #podcasts or tap the link to watch it on YouTube. youtu.be/RpliNjxztqY?...

Ever wonder why dominance is assumed to be loud and impossible to ignore? This Monday Minute explains how it can be the opposite. Learn how these myths can distort authentic dominance. #bdsm #d/s #kinkeducation www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/quiet-domina...

Ready for a soleful adventure? Almost half of people have a foot fetish, so why is something this common treated like a secret? The week’s Fetish Friday will not step on your toes, so walk on over & see what all the fuss is about. #bdsm #fetish www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/foot-fet-fri...

You can be an amazing submissive & still: - Say no - Prioritize your needs - Express your wants - Disagree - Address harmful behavior - Walk away from bad behavior - Trust your instincts - Take breaks when needed - Set/keep boundaries - Maintain your independence What would you add? #BDSM

Every try to leave a place or person that never let you go? Some refuse to say goodbye and this Wordsmith Wednesday returns with The Escape. A #poem about leaving and what still follows. #poetry #wordsmithwednesday www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/escape-words...

What better way to end the day than working out all the energy you have left in carting before turning in for the stables? W/ @jessdegey.bsky.social Photo by @raymond.fee.sh #Latex #Ponyplay #Petplay #Kink

When you meet someone new, what do you trust more, Google or your gut? This week’s Monday Minute explores why we need to trust our instincts in #BDSM as well as #vetting. Find out what your intuition knows before your search bar does. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/trust-your-g...

Are you one of the 89% with this fantasy? This is not some number concocted by a sex toy company. Real research backs it up! #sex #bdsm #alternativelifestyle This week’s Fetish Friday looks at this surprising stat. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/group-fet-fr...

It's important in #BDSM to not be shy about one's desires. This is especially true for submissives. It is perfectly okay to ask for the pleasure you want, need, & crave. Dominants are not mind readers. So no matter your role, do not be timid about asking for those kinktastic things that you want.

Small towns like to believe they do not have city problems, but no place is too small for injustice to take root. #poem #poetry This week’s Wordsmith Wednesday looks closer at that truth & while the verse may sound modern, its echo is 55 years old. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/buried-drawe...

How did you discover #BDSM? My story began with an ancient Roman historian, a taco craving, & a healthy dose of naivety. Then came the moment I ran into a professor at what seemed like the wrong place (a porn store) at the wrong time. Just search ChattingWithTheLightkeeper where you get your pods

DHD in #D/S can bring both challenges & surprises. Whether you have ADHD, care about someone who does, or just want to learn more. This Monday Minute can help with insights and strategies. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/adhd-ds

Dominants, be your submissive's beacon, guiding them through the storms of life and into the sanctuary of the safe harbor that is your loving arms. #BDSM #D/S

What #fetish gets searched over 1,300 times an hour? This week's Fetish Friday breaks down the numbers behind kinks & fetishes. What do the statistics tell us about the desires that society pretends do not exist? This is not a boring stats lecture! www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/facts-fet-fr...

Dominants, do you want your submissive to open up and be vulnerable with you? Try opening up and being vulnerable to them and watch what grows out of that. #D/S #BDSM

Do you know the five love languages? Can #spanking be a love language? #BDSM #D/S #poem Wordsmith Wednesday takes poetic license and asks that spanktastic question! Discover for yourself in this week’s verse. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/spank-wordsm...

There is nothing wrong with you, including your attraction to #BDSM. Your interests do not define you; they are a part of your journey. You are not broken. Accept yourself & engage with your desires confidently. Your path is valid, & there is strength in understanding who you are & what you seek.

Did you know #BDSM existed before the internet? Even when societies tried to erase it? This week’s Monday Minute explores kink before the internet & this is no ordinary history lesson, it is kinktastic! See how BDSM evolved into what it is today. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/kink-before-...

Some argue this is not part of #BDSM, while others believe if ethically done it belongs. This week’s Fetish Friday explores Financial Domination #Findom. Giving you the unbiased look you need to unpack the fascination and fantasy from the reality. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/fet-friday-f...

Dominance is deeper than physical acts, it takes reverence and study. A dominant must treat a submissive like a sacred text and this week’s Wordsmith Wednesday turns this education into verse. Discover the depth of dominance in Sacred Studies. www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/sacred-words...

Birthdays are a mix of reflection and joy. This morning’s fog and sunrise remind me to look for light through uncertainty, and I am grateful for every person in my life who makes the journey meaningful.

What happens when a submissive says no during play? When that no is not a stop, but performance? Consensual Non-Consent, CNC, is an intense forms of play and this week's Fetish Friday has it take centre stage. Learn more here⬇️ #BDSM #D/S #CNC www.chattingwiththelightkeeper.com/fet-friday-c...