Tyler
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๐๐ง I help mid-level engineers operate like senior engineers--before they have the title
Through visualizing potential threats, you're showing yourself that even when something bad happens, you're still okay. You can still find a way forward.
about 1 month ago
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Here's how to use this practice to strengthen your plans: 1. Choose a goal or project 2. Brainstorm everything that could go wrong 3. Identify the biggest threats 4. Go through each threat: visualize that scenario, create clarity, plan ahead 5. Shift your plans
about 1 month ago
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Stoics call it premeditatio malorum. Project managers call it a pre-mortem. Others call it negative visualization. But the general idea is the same: deliberately imagine what could go wrong *before* it happens.
about 1 month ago
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It's impossible to predict the future... ...so what can you do about that?
about 1 month ago
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Tired of plans that don't work? You sketch out the perfect plan. You're energized. You can see the path forward. And then... ...life happens. ๐ฉ
about 1 month ago
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๐ฌ๐ผ๐'๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ด๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฝ๐๐น๐น๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐'๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐ค๐ง๐ฉ๐๐๐ก๐, ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐'๐ ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ค๐ง๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ. Generic time blocks give you the illusion of structure while letting you avoid the real priorities.
about 1 month ago
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When the time block ends, you tell yourself you worked on the project. ๐๐๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ?
about 1 month ago
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When you write "Work on project for client X" in your calendar, it feels like you've blocked your time. But then you bounce between tasks. Answer a few emails. Tweak that deck. Check on the proposal.
about 1 month ago
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You're time-blocking your weeks religiously. ๐ฆ๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป'๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐๐น๐๐? The problem isn't that you're not planning. It's ๐๐ค๐ฌ you're planning.
about 1 month ago
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This isn't about cutting corners. ๐๐'๐ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฏ๐๐ถ๐น๐ฑ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐๐๐๐ฒ๐บ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ถ๐ป๐๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ๐. Same quality work. Fraction of the time. ๐ ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐น๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ.
about 1 month ago
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Imagine if you could: ๐ Focus on what really matters ๐ง Stop forgetting your priorities ๐จ Stop leaving things until the last minute ๐ค Effectively delegate work you don't need to do yourself โ๏ธ Automate parts of your work so you can spend time on what truly merits your input
about 1 month ago
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With the right tools and systems, ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ด๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ต๐ฎ๐น๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ. The solution isn't working harder or faster. It's working differently.
about 1 month ago
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How to get clarity fast: 1. Start a 5-minute timer 2. Write down everything that comes up 3. Don't edit--just dump 4. If you're still going when the timer ends, reset it 5. Analyze *after* writing everything down
about 2 months ago
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Feeling stuck trying to make sense of something that just happened? Here's where to start: Get it ๐ผ๐๐ out of your head.
about 2 months ago
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What contrasting traits do you have that surprise people when they learn about them?
about 2 months ago
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๐ฃ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ๐ . Traits that seem contradictory often make perfect sense when you zoom out and see the full picture. ๐ท The introverted event organizer. ๐ง The cautious adventurer. ๐งโ๐ซ The talkative bookworm. ๐ฉโ๐จ The structured creative.
about 2 months ago
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I'm definitely introverted. I love being alone with a good book or TV show. Large parties and crowds drain me completely. But give me a small group, a compelling conversation about books or movies, or a solid board game--that's another one of my happy places.
about 2 months ago
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"Wait... ๐๐ค๐ช organize all those events? But you're so quiet!" I get this reaction a lot. Usually it's the reverse--people come to several events I've hosted and are shocked to discover I'm actually an introvert.
about 2 months ago
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By collecting evidence for your progress and wins, you force your brain to recognize that reality is more than what it can recall on demand. What will you remind yourself of this week if you're feeling behind?
about 2 months ago
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Keep a brag doc: Make a list of things worth bragging about: completed goals, decisions made, moments where you've noticed personal growth. Update this doc weekly, review it monthly, and share it with your manager. Celebrate your wins.
about 2 months ago
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Keep a done list: Make a list of everything you accomplish throughout the day. At the end of the day, review that list and remind yourself of everything you actually did.
about 2 months ago
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All-or-Nothing Thinking: You're more likely to view things in a binary way, either A or B. You may also know this as perfectionism. There's always going to be something more you can do, so you see it as unfinished even if you're 99.999% of the way there.
about 2 months ago
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Zeigarnik Effect: You're more likely to remember unfinished tasks than completed ones. You remember the things you still have to do. You forget what you completed.
about 2 months ago
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Negativity Bias: You're more likely to focus on negative things than neutral or positive ones. You focus on everything you haven't done yet, all the stuff you still need to do. You don't give the same weight to what you've accomplished, all the things you've done up until now.
about 2 months ago
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You always feel behind... ...even when you're not. Why is that?
about 2 months ago
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What's something you haven't done in years that you miss?
about 2 months ago
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Simon and I just won a casual badminton tournament with friends--it was a lot of fun. My last badminton tournament was almost a decade ago. ๐ต It's been way too long since I've stepped onto a tournament court.
about 2 months ago
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Look for labels: โข It was horrible. โข He is unreliable. โข She was inconsistent. Those are stories, not facts.
2 months ago
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Words like "always," "never," and "impossible" are dead giveaways you're in story territory.
2 months ago
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Sometimes stories serve you. Other times, they make you give up on people, settle for less, or play it safe when you should go big. The pain isn't in what happened--it's in forgetting that the story is just a story.
2 months ago
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When something happens--someone doesn't text back, you miss a deadline, a conversation goes sideways--your brain immediately starts narrating. And those stories? They feel like facts.
2 months ago
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Your brain is a meaning-making machine. But here's the problem: it can't tell the difference between a helpful story and one that's keeping you small.
2 months ago
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2 months ago
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Almost a year into your job search and you're still "just preparing"? You're not asking for referrals. Not applying to jobs. Waiting until you can answer every question perfectly. The market isn't keeping you unemployed. Your perfectionism is.
2 months ago
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The tools I teach aren't just theory. They work across every area of life--relationships, sports, work, mental health. One of my readers took a newsletter about anxiety and used it to improve their athletic performance--that's proof the framework is solid.
2 months ago
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2 months ago
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We all experience Dream Stealers. It's completely normal. But being aware of them--and recognizing the impact they're having on your life--is the first step to preventing them from getting in your way.
2 months ago
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Examples of Dream Stealers include: โข I can do it later. โข This is just how things are. โข What if I embarrass myself? โข I'm too old to learn this now. โข I can't handle so many projects at once. โข I'm not sure if this is the best way to move forward.
2 months ago
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Dream Stealers are the thoughts that prevent you from achieving your dreams. They whisper convincing lies that keep you playing small, hesitating, and staying in your comfort zone.
2 months ago
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You have negative automatic thought patterns that are keeping you stuck exactly where you are right now. I call them Dream Stealers.
2 months ago
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It's not a problem that life will always be a mix of pain and pleasure. The richness of our emotional experience is a direct reflection of the contrast between our highs and lows. The valleys make the peaks feel higher. The darkness makes the light feel brighter.
2 months ago
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The contrast of our emotions shapes how we actually experience them.
2 months ago
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There's a fascinating concept in psychology called Hedonic Adaptation (also known as the Hedonic Treadmill). It describes our very human tendency to return to an emotional equilibrium--no matter how many moments of extreme happiness or sadness we experience.
3 months ago
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Life was always meant to be a mix of pleasant and painful emotions.
3 months ago
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It isn't a problem if someone feels angry, sad, or disappointed sometimes. In fact, those feelings can be a completely healthy response to what they're experiencing.
3 months ago
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And when you're procrastinating, wasting time and attention, and refusing to make things work because of those wrong assumptions? You're not going to see the change you want.
3 months ago
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You're refusing to work with your teammate because they're "disorganized"--when the truth is they just don't see the value of the overhead in your suggested methods.
3 months ago
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You're pouring time and energy into things you know your client will love--when their priorities lie somewhere else entirely.
3 months ago
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You're procrastinating because you think you lack the necessary skills--when the reality is you're fully capable of figuring things out as you go along.
3 months ago
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Working with bad information is brutal. ๐ฟ It's like making decisions based on a bunch of lies. ๐คท It's like trying to navigate a road trip with a map from another century. ๐ซ It's like trying to ace the final exam after sitting in the wrong lecture all semester.
3 months ago
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