I will no longer update this BlueSky account. Unlikely I'll ever write a post for the blog again. ICYMI, I have terminal cancer and wish to use whatever writing time I have left for my fiction. I write mixed genre horror and fantasy. Follow me over at @chaoticauthor.online

Today begins Asexual Awareness Week, my favorite week. Finding out I'm asexual was a godsend. When I discovered I'm asexual at age 26, I finally felt like the puzzle pieces fit together. The Ace community helped give me the words to understand myself. I'm forever grateful to the Ace Community!

So important! We all get along better when we understand and empathize with the complexity of humans versus trying to shove people in little boxes they don’t fit in.

For #aceweek, I would like people to know that demisexuals are ace-spec. I have only liked two people (that I knew for two years before attraction started) in my entire life. Outside of that, I don't really get attraction and have always felt out of place. Why shouldn't I count as ace then?

#AceWeek Men's voices are often overlooked in this community. I write about my own experiences to show other men out there who are ace/demi or think they might be ace/demi, that they are not alone. They are not broken or weird for not feeling what the men around them seem to feel. Society 1/2

Hear, hear.

Hey it’s #AceWeek! 🖤🩶🤍💜 More people should realize that asexual advocacy isn’t just “people trying so hard to be oppressed becauss they’re loudly single.” 🧵 🪡 1 / 7

For those who don't follow my main account... 🧵 TL;DR version is that I was hospitalised on Monday with suspected appendicitis. But I have cancer of the pancreas

For almost 25 years, AVEN has been working to help ace and aro people across the globe understand themselves and promote open, honest public understanding of our experience. In that time we've had a tremendous impact, and we're asking for your support to fund the next two years of our work.

When we understand that our history is diverse, it changes our outlook. I hope that this Black History Month, we all take the time to uncover the history lessons we were denied in school https://www.wearequeeraf.com/how-many-more-generations-will-be-denied-black-queer-history-before-we-take-action/

At long last, here is my take on Interview with the Vampire, queer time, and the existential horrors of asexual yearning. It also happens to be my 50th blog post (though it’s become a full-length essay)! 🩸🍷💀 🖤 🧛‍♀️ worrydollsandfloatinglights.wordpress.com/2025/10/01/i...

I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda. This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release... 🌈🖊️💻 aspiraldance.com/ad-review-of-being-demi-by-mg-mason/

My poetry and essay collection is out today! Check out the buying links...

Eep! I have a new book out tomorrow 😍 This one is available wide from the start. Will also be available on Ko-Fi and Itch.

Asexuality is a spectrum, and all of us who fall somewhere on that spectrum have different relationships with sex and sexual attraction https://www.wearequeeraf.com/asexuality-is-a-spectrum-that-answered-a-lifetime-of-questions/

Love this! And wow I resonate deeply with that last takeaway about punishing self for crushes even if they’re queerplatonic, about wanting closeness with friends in a world that reduces and restricts what affection is allowed. Thanks for sharing! Keeping an eye out for when this book comes out!

I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda. This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release... 🌈🖊️💻 aspiraldance.com/ad-review-of-being-demi-by-mg-mason/

Being proud of your aspec identity can take a number of different forms.

A new investigation has revealed significant lobbying efforts by gender critical groups. https://www.wearequeeraf.com/freedom-of-information-request-uncovers-gender-critical-bias-within-ehrc/

My article criticising Charlie Kirk's narrow definition of masculinity got 100 views overnight (I wrote it following his debates with Oxford and Cambridge students). The reason why the article is now popular is unfortunate, because the subject (harmful social expectations placed on men) is the 1/2

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Peter Capaldi's Doctor being an asexual icon. Doctor: "You look taller." Clara, all dolled up for a date: "I'm wearing heels." Doctor: "Do you need to reach something on a high shelf?" Clara, walking out the door: "Must go or I'll be late" Doctor: "Late for a shelf?" [TIME HEIST]

My demisexual poetry and essays collection is now available for preorder...

Happy Bi Visibility Month! I don't know if I will ever consider myself bi. I'm attracted to more than one gender, but feel the need to be more specific that I'm aesthetically attracted to femininity and androgyny with the capacity for romantic and sexual attraction (subject to the usual demi bond)

I'm now offering ARCs (advanced review copies) of my collection of poems and essays "Being Demi". This chronicles my demisexual coming out journey, from feeling awkward and different in adolescence through to coming out and being welcomed into the community three years ago.

Being Demi now has a Good Reads page! No pressure and no obligation, but I'd appreciate it if some feedback readers would be kind enough to pen some early reviews (no pressure, however!). www.goodreads.com/book/show/24...

I've read quite a bit of Matt's acrostic poetry under Luana's @luanagiunta.bsky.social daily acrostic challenge # LuaViEr and I'm absolutely sure that this will be great. Matt has a knack for it (although it took him a while to realise that 😄). If #poetry is your thing, give it a bash. 👀📚💙🌈📚♠️📚🌈📚📢

Further details of my upcoming project "Being Demi", my life coming to demisexuality told through acrostic poetry and essays. This project has come out of nowhere, and I'm excited to release it in just over a month. 🌈🖊️💻

Attention! My demisexual poetry and essays book will be released in October. Have submitted it for pre-order.

the tightrope of writing an awareness of sex while writing an asexual novel while watching sex education documentaries while being personally sex-repulsed while deconstructing purity culture while questioning why purity culture and sexual liberation both express such disdain for asexuals

‘Conversion therapy’ groups spend £2M on lobbying and promoting practice in soaring costs since promise to ban the “abusive” practice 👇 https://www.wearequeeraf.com/conversion-therapy-groups-spend-2m-on-lobbying-and-promoting-practice-in-soaring-costs-since-promise-to-ban-the-abusive-practice/

One of my books with demisexual rep is on sale this weekend!

"Measure the success of your life by how well you try to and ultimately use what you’ve got. Leave everything outside of that to the people those things were intended for."

Resharing for the late crowd. I'm at a stage in this journey where I've come to realise how withdrawn I was when younger because I didn't fit in. And, of course, all the trying to fit in (masking, essentially) and I want to undo all of it.

Announcement: Later this year I'm releasing a collection of acrostic poems and essays about being demisexual. Working title (I still haven't decided), and here is the cover reveal.

This is a piece you should read right now and share share share open.substack.com/pub/leikelis...

I've had ease off from the blog and the BlueSky account for the last couple of months, but hoping to get back to it soon.

God, this! Y'all seriously have no idea how much it bugs me that aros and aces got branded as the "boring" orientations. I don't find anger is a productive emotion for me, so I'll leave this as is, but *incoherent mumbled cussing*.

It’s time for allies in the media industry to speak up for LGBTQIA+ people https://www.wearequeeraf.com/its-time-for-allies-in-the-media-industry-to-speak-up-for-lgbtqia-people/

Periodic reminder that sex negativity and sex aversion are vastly different scales. The first is this 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻. The latter is personal preference for your own life.

Was anyone fooled by Starmer's publicity stunt?

Amatonormativity can be addressed even in low-stakes situations like this, and you can create more aspec-affirming space.

My wonderful friend is doing this research and is still looking for more people to take part! Please share 😊

Yes, all this. We are a whole experience and identity of our own. Just like enbies aren't "woman lite", we aren't "lite" versions of our attraction orientation (as in hetero, gay, bi, pan etc)

There is no "one neat trick" for winning at BlueSky. But I am having my best ever year for book sales. I surpassed last year's tally a month ago. My one piece of advice is: talk to people, engage, and be authentic. But BlueSky has a few tools and features you might not know #WritingCommunity

This week in Prism & Pen, we bring you Barbara Walters and Harvey Fierstein, a #gay kid booted from summer camp, women’s sports bars as a trend, a Muslim #lesbian ’s joyful #Pride, and a #transgender woman's superhero childhood. Plus more #LGBTQ, #queer #storytelling! medium.com/prismnpen/ea...

A reminder: if you're a queer blogger, I set up a feed some time ago. To appear in this feed you need the emoji string that's listed here, and a link to a blog post (not your main site). There are a lot of 🌈 bloggers here, so let's support each other! bsky.app/profile/chao...