Five Feminist Books for Mother’s Day • Lyrical, hard-hitting, heartfelt, and hopeful, your More to Hate book gift guide for your feminist mother—or yourself.

The Banality of Pelicot • Gisèle Pelicot’s memoir shows the ordinariness of even the most brutal forms of misogyny

Last Chance for Sale Subscriptions • And introducing a new feature of this newsletter: Growing to Love threads

Erecting Men • An excerpt from an exciting new book by Robin Dembroff

We Have No Goddamn Sympathy for Women • The opposite of himpathy is the indifference and contempt towards women’s legitimate emotional and physical pain

We Need to Talk about Family Annihilators • Men killing their children and wives is a recognizable, and common, pattern—and it has a name.

Why Men are Seeking Out “Sleep” Porn • An explosive new report from CNN has exposed online communities where men conspire to drug and rape their wives—and many more consume this content passively.

Some Nice News • And some upcoming events

What If We Stopped Blaming Women for their Husbands? • We need to create the conditions where it is easy to leave, not shameful to have missed the warning signs or put up with bad behavior.

On Being the Cassandra • An interview with the creators of the extraordinary podcast that teaches us new lessons about sexual abuse, the power of adults over children, and what it means to advocate for victims.

Why I’m Not Miserable • Plus, some exciting personal news

The Madonna-Whore Complex is Fracturing • On a case of digital rape in Germany

Friends Don’t Let Friends Ignore Their Husband’s Red Flags • Or, why Lindy West is a Rorschach for feminists.

My Thoughts on Cesar Chavez • And David’s thoughts on my life’s work

One Weird Trick for Being a Better Man • When a man is with other men, why does he lose his moral compass so reliably?

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Chanel Miller’s Hardest Gig • I witnessed an extraordinary talk last night. Many in the audience were not so lucky.

The Male Gaze Now Disgusts Me • Divesting from ageist and fatphobic beauty standards just got a whole lot easier

The Story Trump’s War is Meant to Distract You From • It’s time to listen to the woman who alleges that Trump as well as Epstein sexually abused her as a teenage girl

There’s Another University President with Deep Ties to Epstein • Joi Ito stepped down at MIT in 2019 in view of his Epstein connections. He’s now a university president—with more and more questions to answer.

If We Cared About Girls • The world would be unimaginably different

An Open Letter to the College President Who Maintained Close Ties with Epstein • If you agree with my general sentiments here, please comment below—just “signed” or “seconded” is sufficient.

What is Giving Me Life • It’s easy to feel overwhelmed right now. Small joys and pleasures matter.

The Prescience of Epstein • Epstein was ahead of the curve: the shape of patriarchal exploitation and sexual abuse is changing.

Bard’s President Should Resign Today • Leon Botstein has been revealed to have deep ties to Epstein. It’s time for accountability.

Livestream at 5pm ET! • Tressie McMillan Cottom and me at Princeton

Bricked • How my experiment with getting off social media is working—and failing

The Id of Conservatism • Or, what Nick Fuentes’s patriarchal hysteria tells us about conservative shame today

Against Pro-Natalism • My post-mortem on my debate last night with The New York Times conservative columnist, Ross Douthat, on pro-natalism

A Birthday Flash Sale • 25% off all new subscriptions for the weekend only

Smile Piggy • As obvious as Trump’s misogyny toward a female reporter is, it reveals a common and overlooked way to silence women

Women Want Out • 40% of women of reproductive age want to leave the US. Why?

Katie Johnson is Still at the Heart of the Epstein/Trump Story • Plus what the new files released tell us and what they don’t

Why Are You So Sensitive? • Confessions of a snowflake

Some Upcoming Events • New talks for the new year

An Interview with an Abortion Provider • Dr. Leah Torres is a reproductive health care advocate, doctor, and intersectional feminist extraordinaire. But under patriarchy, her good deeds have been punished.

The Darkest January • Navigating personal loss amidst political calamity

Your Whiteness Will Not Protect You—But it Will See You Mourned • Understanding the role white privilege does—and does not—play in state violence and the public reaction to it.

Renee Good’s Crime • Understanding the law she broke and why it was punishable by murder

Renee Good’s Murder was Misogyny • We cannot ignore the distinctively gendered dynamics of this—and much other—fascist violence

She Who Has Never Feared Men • The antidote to himpathy is not (always) harshness

How I’m Getting Off My Phone this Year • Resisting algorithmic whiplash and digital manipulation

Why Do Women Have to Show So Much Skin? • Body reflexivity on the beach

I Stopped Students Using AI This Semester • The results—and the reactions—were startling.

A Round-Up of Posts You Might Just Need Right Now • And a last call for sales subscriptions!

This One Hits Close to Home • Sitting with the grief, the fear, and the despair of gun violence

The One Tradwife I Like • Can we divorce the skill and beauty of home production from its noxious gendered politics?

Anti-Abortion Surveillance as Fascism • A guest post by Soraya Chemaly—and a holiday sale!

Five Ways I Self-Soothe • How I get through the winter without losing my mind in the cold and chaos

With Anti-Consumerism, Women Bear the Burden • We’re damned if we do spend, and damned if we don’t.