I need some denim mules and a cow print sneaker and that’s it lol

I’ve never been to a concert or festival and swayed back and forth with a man while he holds me from behind — and I’ve been to a lot of festivals. I gotta do that.

I really could be ducked off with somebody son but I hate breakups lol they be tearing my ass up 😭

Which one of my friends is a pro with shopping @ Trader Joe’s?

Having to buy my own lunch after four days of fine men doing it is gonna be ghetto lol

A kitten heel, mule, clog subscription box would have my money 😅😂

I’ve been watching South African, Nigerian and Indian films and they’re all so good. Always a dramatic twist but good and you see people of all shades and sizes, it’s nice.

Boyfriend with an apartment building off of Northern Parkway.

I’m tryna be at the function pulling up my tube tops and m shorts listening to early 00’s jams — and mostly unbothered because I’m not talking to men romantically 🥹

My kids downstairs listening to Smash Mouth, Janet Jackson, and Candy Rain by Soul for Real just means I’m doing a million things right. 🥹 needed that.

I want some flat twists with some butterfly clips.

TJ Maxx, Marshall’s or Ross — bag shopping sounds like so much fun right now 🤎

I don’t want to know where you got your dress - I want to know where you got your boyfriend 😅

Easter was always my mommy coaching me to say, “He is risen.” Instead of our usual phone greeting. My aunties would call, my grandmothers would call. My socks held more frill than usual and my shoes were patent leather. A material I first learned to clean with shoe polish and later with Vaseline.

Idk — I don’t think you’re being called to a season of isolation as much as you’re being called to just be around the right people. No, like the actual right people.

God is trying to show you his goodness through his people. Why was I just sitting in this IHOP trying to hide that I’m crying my eyes out, missing my mommy and this woman comes up pays for our bill and tucks a few twenties in the receipt. Her being obedient to something telling her to do that

And because I know young women follow me who haven’t done it yet. When you buy bags, don’t buy off the floor — always ask if they have any in the back that are wrapped up. You don’t want the one that everyone has been touching and you want all ur hardware wrapped and the bag in plastic ☺️

Watching a man’s chain peek from out of his shirt is like a lil treat for me lol I usually know when I see what’s on the necklace itself that I got his has — cause how you so loose and close that I know you got a Buddha or ur Grandma name on ur chain 😅

The sickest, wildest part is how bad I am lol how beautiful and wealthy in all the right ways. How wonderful. How enjoyable lol how funny — A man??? Should be so lucky, so blessed to even spend a day with me. Yet alone a lifetime. How soft — tuh, man lol

U wanna know the truth? These men don’t be confident enough to have a fat girlfriend because they not even the leader in their friend group and they still gotta show big bro they got it and it’s sad 😅 There’s nothing like a man who be like yea I like fat bitches and what about it?!!!???

then in a chain reaction event — everyone goes very public with they cute fat girlfriends —

I need me one of those pearls and a chain, jort wearing niggas who live on the east coast but fly to LA on business that he’s never really that clear about — but like is obsessed and confident in having a fat girlfriend 😭 like I’m sitting on his lap on IG photos and everyone is just like yea…

and the softest, biggest leg award goes to….

Photographers who don’t have photos of people with different body types, skin textures, shades or identities <<<

Goyard tote bags look so cheap to me.

Also, what do men be thinking at baby showers: A: I need to lock in 💍 B: This look expensive C: There’s baddies in here D: I’m just here to support my peoples

I really do need a partner that’s okay wit matching outfits a lil bit — like oh we gonna wear tan and brown to the baby shower and he carry the gift in and stand by my side while I say hi to him everybody lol

Baby I’m in 30s I’m worried about cooking this salmon before it go bad and being home by 9pm to watch my shows 🥴😅

I lost 14lbs 🖤🎉

“no, it’s not the only way to be—but it is the way that I am.”

“you can’t be betrayed by someone who was never on your side.”

The men in my life >>>>

Putting on tights with long nails is an extreme sport.

My situation with my mother is/was so different and didn’t require estate planning in the way it’s traditionally suggested HOWEVER—intergenerational living & knowing you have an aging parent. Knowing you’re the only person who’ll be responsible for attention to their current & end of life affairs

It’s okay to crave a relationship, to want someone to do both enjoyable and hard things with. People will shame you over and over for that. We are wired to want support—to need each other. Having someone have your back is so valuable.

Making meals for the week.

I’m a grown woman — I have vases. Yes, as in multiple lol

The way my friends and community are propping me up, covering us in prayer, showing up?? It has to be studied. Who are these people and how did God know to place them so strategically in my life. People I met when I was 5, 7, 16, 27 — like huh?? How did He know??

A lil over five years ago I had no concept of taking breaks. I worked full-time as a freelancer doing work for multiple organizations, had no health benefits and hardly any boundaries. If people called, emailed or texted I always answered. Always showed up and I was burning out.

If she wears an anklet or a chain every day — please don’t play in that lady face.

Brown Sugar is gonna forever be my movie.

I need to eat something lol I hate when I genuinely forget.

Who does braid take down service? It’s not time but almost.

The better you get, the less men will like you.

The men are outside—but it looks like they were frying chicken in their Orioles gear all winter 😅

If that man didn’t take you to Pickles on Orioles opening day — he ain’t like you.

Haven’t had a drink all year 🤍

I need homework help with my daughters 5th and 7th grade at least twice a week — so any tutors or educators willing to do in-home support for an hour or two some nights. Could be virtual with some relationship building first.

If someone wanted to gift me an air fryer I wouldn’t be mad — I literally just get overwhelmed trying to chose one lol I know I need a family sized joint with two doors or drawers or whatever

My mother never hesitated to steep me in the importance of our family heritage as West Indian women. She introduced me to soca music in the 90s. By example—she taught me to suck my teeth, take no nonsense and to wine to tapes we’d play on our stereo system in our living room in The Bronx.