Speaking up about intentions won’t ruin connections but staying quiet might. Flirting all night with no plan to play? That’s fine, just say so early. People deserve to know where you stand so they can invest their energy wisely. Being clear is sexy. Mixed signals aren’t. #ENM #speakup #dontbeshy

Love these sparkly shoes but I have the hardest time keeping the straps up! Anyone have any good tips?

We decided to go to a toga swinger party about an hour before it started. At first I thought I might have to dress off-theme…but luckily I was able to pull something together! #swinger #togaparty #sparkle #fun #enm

Survey says... ⬇️ One woman on Family Feud said she’d invite her best friend ❌ Her opponent said, "I wouldn’t go," which was the #1 answer. I think some women who think they'd hate it would actually be surprised how fun it is! What’s your take? #familyfeud #nonmonogamy #waitwhat

Here’s the truth: Betrayal sucks - but you can handle it. You've survived hard things before, and you’ll do it again. Trusting your partner is important…and so is trusting yourself! Don’t confuse control with safety. #brokentrust #relationshipadvice #keepingitreal

Don’t believe every stupid thought you have. In ENM, fears & insecurities can cloud judgment. When doubts arise, pause & choose curiosity, not assumptions & reactivity. #TrustYourPartner #NonMonogamy #HealthyRelationships #enm #swingers #swinger

Anything? Do they even know you’re ethically non-monogamous (or considering it)?

When validating on swinger apps, DON’T just use the template validation! Take a minute to customize! It makes a great impression on both the people you validate AND you! Here are some examples of high quality validations we’ve received! ♥️💋 #swinger #ethicalnonmonogamy #enm #datingadvice #cnm

Careful not to over-edit profile pics! We once went on a date with someone who was literally unrecognizable based upon their profile pic. A little polish is totally fine. Like you’d see in wedding photos or senior portraits. But keep it subtle. You want them to be excited to see you, not confused!

Where is YOUR favorite place to buy lingerie?

Calling all lingerie lovers!! Omg, I totally freakin LOVE this company! Everything I own from them is GORGEOUS, well made and high quality! Check out coquette.com and use code BELLASWEET to get an additional 15% off your order…even on sale items!!! #lingerie #lingerieaddict #swinger #enm

Something fun to consider…How many STRAIGHT women could you handle AND satisfy at once? (So these women won’t be playing with each other…they’re relying on YOU to keep them entertained and satisfied)…

Will we see you there? 😈🥳

You should totally coooome! Get your tix here… nlw.ticketspice.com/nlw?r=FLIRTY...

For the full caption on pair bonding, check out TheFlirtyPineapples on IG Instagram.com/theflirtypineapples

Interestingly, the couples that gain the most enjoyment from the lifestyle & face the fewest obstacles ALSO are an amazing match in those exact 4 areas. Go figure. Pair bonding & ENM are NOT mutually exclusive. They can and very often DO co-exist! Thoughts?

So let's talk about what pair-bonding actually IS & how it's impacted by engagement in ENM… Simply put, pair bonding is forming intimate connections with partners. They are most likely to form when there is a match in 4 areas: smex, romance, attachment & friendship. (see next post)

I mean, it makes sense, right? If this theory were even remotely true, most men would have depleted their entire oxtocin reserve by age 16 through self-care alone! (see next post)

Oh, & while we're on the subject of actual science, there are NO STUDIES suggesting that any gender is at risk of their oxytocin 'reserves' somehow 'drying up' based upon overuse. (see next post)

First of all...seriously?? Second, according to the National Institute of Health, men release more oxytocin during origami than women, sooo...yeeeeah. (see next post)

People who perpetuate this myth claim that women release more oxytocin than men during smex & therefore women (& not men) will run out of their oxytocin reserves with casual smex partners rendering them incapable of love & attachment when 'the one' finally comes along…(see next post)

Happy 18th Anniversary, Handsome! You are my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE person on the planet! I love you sooo effing muuuuchh! Thank you for teaching me how to love myself nearly as much as you love me. ♥️♥️♥️

When the girls are getting ready and I need to get the guys’ opinions on my new ‘do’ 😜🤣 The smex is so much fun in the lifestyle…but I have to say, I get nearly as much joy from all the playful silliness before & after!

The health of a relationship isn’t determined by relationship style. It’s determined by mutual respect, good communication, trust & boundaries that are guidelines, not an attempt to cage. Check this post on IG for more ;)

Come with me guys! Let’s make 2025 a year to remember! Got swinger questions? I answer ALL my DMs on Insta…I don’t always have time to check DMs here too…so if you really wanna reach me, try me over there!! ♥️💋

What are some things YOU believe in?

(part 2) ‘…I'd like to share my perspective on what happened if you're open to it because I think you might feel a little better if you knew what was happening in my head...'

AFTER listening, say something like: ‘I hate that I contributed to something that made you feel [disregarded, less than, forgotten, etc]. That wasn't my intention at all & you are the most important person to me. I don't want anything to happen that would make you feel this way again….(part 1)

Who me? Tease?? I would never!! ;) 😎♥️💋 Merry Christmas, ya flirts!

I used to reeeally struggle with jealousy until I decided to actually DO THE WORK!! It literally only took about a year & now I honestly done feel much more than a little tiny tap of jealousy on very rare occasion. 🔗 in my IG bio for EVERYTHING I did in that year! My handle over there is the same!

You’re about to have a 4some, then they tell you that they want Full Swap with your partner but only Soft Swap with you. Deal-breaking double standard? Totally fine? Or does it depend on the couple? #enm #cnm #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #swinger #swingers

We talk a lot about having conversations about consent, boundaries & smexual health but what about HOW YOU LIKE TO BE TOUCHED? I mean, of course I want to know your major ‘thank-you-very-much-but-no-freakin-way moves’ but I also want to know what you LOVE! Who else likes having these conversations?

Agree? Or disagree?

The Eve of the Eve hotel takeover is almost here! Which dress should I wear? Tell me! 1. Short Black with long red arm ribbons 2. Long Red Sequin with low back 3. Long Blue Satin with high slit 4. Long Red Satin with low cut front and back Thaaanks my fine, flirty friends! xoxo #nyedress

Whether you bump into someone you know on a pineapple dating app or in person at an event...whether you actually speak to them or avoid them...whether you like them as a person or think they’re a total tool... If you’re doing something lifestyle related and you bump into someone you know…

Relatable? #shocked #surprisesurprise

When you’re attending a family wedding so you can’t dress QUITE so sexy…but you still feel pretty good, because velvet is so damn yummy! #velvet #dress #weddingattire

FREE gift idea you’ll BOTH love: invite your favorite pineapple friends over for a spicy photo shoot and have the guts play camera man for the night! Whether you play with the group or just each other afterward, it’s amazing foreplay!

Word-of-mouth is the best way to learn about the best LS parties! No matter where you are in the world, tell us where you went on your favorite LS NYE ever! If you could, mention both the name of the club/organization & the city in which it was hosted! #nyeparty #nye2024 #wheretogo

Check out weshouldtryit.com - I’ve been recommending it to clients for years as a way to explore different intimate desires! You’re gonna love it! ♥️💋

Wondering where to get those Oh Nuts at a 20% discount? Check out thepelvicpeople.com and enter code WOOHOO at checkout! (I’m not affiliated with them - I was able to get you this code because I’m a sex therapist ♥️

These squishy, stackable, body heat-conforming rings are AMAZEBALLS at limiting depth of penetration so the sword-bearer can thrust to what feels like full penetration without actually pummeling internal organs. Use during any form of penetrative play (😛🌮🍑) Effing. Brilliant! #swinger #nonmonogamy

So how do YOU like to manage communication with other couples in the lifestyle? Group texts only? Are solo texts fair game? If so, do you have solo texting boundaries in place?

Many couples stick to the rule of: All pineapple communication must remain in a group communication. But I feel like even with this rule, most couples don’t have an issue with the girls texting each other solo. Which is kinda interesting, isn’t it?

Group Texts are a HUGE thing in the LS. And sometimes it can be hard to keep up. This is something you’ll want to discuss with your partner before entering the LS. How will you handle phone communication when you meet new couples online or at events?

What’s your approach to LS texting?

Or maybe you like this version better?

Hangin’ with all the pretty girls ♥️🔥

If you hear any of the previous 8 lines from another couple at a pineapple event, you’re better off not inviting yourself to join them as they attempt to disengage, no matter how attracted you are to them. Let them leave with grace & they’ll be more likely to look forward to seeing you again later!

Temporary Exit Option 8: ‘We really want to spend some time getting to know you, but we have lots of friends here we want to say 'hi' to. Wanna catch up by the pool a little later?’