Just read about the concept of kind extinction under ABA. It horrifies me a little that ABA generally prescribes following through with every instruction but the introduction of kind extinction signifies very important progress imo

One of my biggest pet peeves is when people argue that "support needs don't vary because those with high support needs always have high support needs" - those with high support needs remain at high support needs but their support needs can vary at that level!

Too autistic to be mean to anyone (except when I unintentionally hurt people's feelings by misreading a situation)

As an autistic teacher who has taught both mainstream and SPED, one of the most challenging things for me is how euphemistic SPED teacher are (to speak kindly of autistic students)

Realising that when folks get to know me a bit better and I unmask then they get confused bc my unmasked self is so much less friendly lol

Autistic person: I want to help! *proceeds to correct everyone on how things should be done* Dear reader, not a single person thought they were helping

It's very funny to me that as an autistic person I am somewhat triggered when people are too pedantic. Like, if you're incorrect I will correct you and I'll be like, I'm not being pedantic but if someone else is 0.00001% more pedantic than I am I get so mad

A real AuDHD need: making people a part of your to do list

One way I've learnt to navigate workplace politics is unfortunately hypothesis testing. I can't tell what someone's motivations or inclinations are, so I have to test things like whether they are willing to take credit for my work. Once I know, then I know.

Starting to think that you're autistic and struggle with social cues etc then you're just doomed to suffer an endless string of injustices

Wheelchair accessibility might be my latest hyperfixation. Please send me all your wheelchair related info

Looking at the world through softer eyes is kind of important when you're autistic

Look I actually want to learn how to speak professionally and with empathy but I obviously cannot but the allistics won't explicitly teach me how so

If you're autistic, it's kind of impossible to care less. The only way I can think about it is to manage the intensity of caring

I need help from other autistic folk to figure out how I can actually make advocacy happen

Autistic leadership and advocacy: Speak loudly. Cause ripples. Get overwhelmed. Hide. Feel inspired or strongly about something. Rinse and repeat.

Realising that I'm not a bad person, just an inexperienced autistic manager, is incredibly liberating

There's a special kind of hell in being autistic, knowing I'm doing something wrong socially because I perfectly understand people's reactions, analsying every single thing I did or said for clues and still not knowing what I did wrong

A lesson I have learnt many times but can't seem to remember: I *literally* cannot get things done without my meds Instead of spiraling when I'm stuck, I just have to take my meds!!!

My biggest wish would be as an autistic person would probably be to never have meltdowns, but a close second might be having the bandwidth to reply people as much as I wanted to

Idk if anyone else has observed or described this relationship but a key factor in autistic burnout for me is getting fascia muscles to relax. I have a lot of fascia muscles that have been locked up and as they relax I can feel my anxiety/depression decrease and my thought become less rigid

Trying to regulate your tone as an autistic person involves regulating your nervous systems and consciously thinking about tone in a way that (I think!) is comparable to removing a stutter

I feel like there needs to be discussion about emotional permanence for autistic folk especially when you consider familial factors: Emotions/situations can be feel more permanent to autistic folk, which is reinforced by autistic parents and this deeply affects how we navigate/interpret the world

Ambulatory wheelchair users exist 🤨 A personal example is that my wife was in a wheelchair most of the time last year due to an incompetent cervix (hate this term). Also, an upwards trend in this could also be due to more accessibility, not gaming the system

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Starting to understand that it's difficult to tell apart the reasons for my restlessness: is it ADHD or a deep dissatisfaction with my life and self? Lately, I am thinking quite a lot of it is caused by the latter and perhaps ADHD only affects the manifestation of this restlessness

At some point there needs to be some meta-research about autistic people who work in roles heavy on social skills and communicaton: influencers, advocates, leadership positions, researchers, PR, marketing etc

Organisation for ADHD: I feel like there usually needs to be some form of stimulation derived from the organisation (E.g gamification) and everything needs to be low effort and probably low on noise/clutter.

Sometimes I get frustrated that people still rely on outdated knowledge or refuse to challenge their beliefs then I remember that there are people in the world who sincerely believe the earth is flat and that helps me calibrate my expectations lol

"people don't remember what you said or did, they remember how you made them feel" Autistic people: "I'm so screwed"

AuDHD means my brain always wants a puzzle/problem to solve or it gets so bored and restless and this might be the number 1 thing ruining my life because I would just like to relax sometimes!!!

I miss feeling connected to the autistic community

I feel like when you have both autism and ADHD you end up being a kaleidoscope for people who either see your autism or your ADHD first - they rarely see both

The more professional experience I gain, the more I understand why the things I said on twitter often made people mad, no matter how much context I provided

I think the best way to describe my personal experience of social situations as an autistic is that it's like moving through a haunted house: groping on the dark, pretty sure none of it matters, still waiting anxiously for the worst to happen

I seriously need mentoring for my autistic+adhd working style. After almost 10 years of work, I'm FINALLY understanding why chasing whatever I want to chase in the most intense fashion ends up sabotaging my career

I'm too autistic to understand that trust has nothing to do with truth

ADHD has been beating my ass a lot more these last two years like it's a lot harder to keep my thoughts straight, it's a lot harder to stay focused and the number of clerical errors in my work is too damn high

Needing to check for brainskips every once in a while is very annoying

Autistic folks, would you ever "intentionally" have a meltdown to get something you want? My colleague seem to think this is possible but I'm like I wouldn't even wish a meltdown on my worst enemy lol

The autistic dilemma of whether I want to be aloof and terrifying or outgoing and appear so naive that I cam be taken advantage of

I feel like all the wires for socialising that came loose during autistic burnout have kind of reconnected, finally. But it sucks because currently I'm just socially aware of how much I suck at human interaction and haven't quite relearnt how to connect with other human beings lol

You know you have ADHD when you have been taking ADHD meds for something like 7 years but you've only just calculated for the first time that your meds cost you 2.5k a year

I don't fully understand other folk at work. Is it largely a thing that people don't have room to pushback, ask questions and negotiate with higher ups? Because I simply cannot function that way regardless of which role I'm playing

I've been away from social media for quite a bit and it's been great. Not entirely related but reflecting on my work persona and realising the extent to which I absolutely do not connect with people and wondering how I could possibly be anything but autistic

It turns out that everytime in the past I was behaving "unprofessionally" it was because I was being taken advantage of and reacting appropriately, but also being autistic and getting confused by people's reactions to the situation

Maybe I've sort of figured out how to use my autistic traits to navigate workplace politics, although some strategies need refinement and aren't without drawbacks

I need an internet speed test but for my attention span

I'm so irritated by my errors this term that I'm gonna set up like twenty different excel sheets to automatically cross check my own information

I might be autistic but sometimes it's other people who are fucking weird (derogatory)