I’m going to coin the phrase “cognitive autonomy,” which means that I choose what to spend my cognitive energy on. People at work shall not chip away at my cognitive autonomy with their emails and intra-office messengers. I’ll focus on what I want, then I will address their interruptions.

Being an arch spec writer has its advantages. I have to keep track of fire-resistance like a DM tracking legendary actions. So, yes, I am the awesome mom who added fire-resistance to the boy’s burn box with electrical tape.

Sam Reich on @gamechangershow.bsky.social is King Bumi while Brennan Lee Mulligan is Sokka sighing as the genamite slowly overtakes his body.

Circumstances are what they are, and while I can't go into details, paychecks are just... not coming. I'm trying not to spam this link, but if anyone has the ability to help, whether donations or sharing, it means a lot. www.gofundme.com/f/putting-th...

The #Eagles just fired their offensive coordinator, and John Harbaugh is looking for a job. Just saying…

Good morning! I'm sorry to have to keep sharing this. I know other important things are happening but I would like to continue to stay on the insulin pump. #MutualAid #HelpSky 💸💕 gofund.me/829fab863

Oh my goodness! GFM is not notifying me by email about donations. Thank you so much, everyone! Anonymous, I'm looking at your very generous donation. Thank you! 🙏 And thank you to everyone for liking and sharing. My deductible is almost met! gofund.me/be1dff367

With everything going on in the news and at home, I’ve decided to return my free trial of 2026.

A fried just adopted a black cat and asked for name suggestions. So I told him to watch #WheelOfTime then name her something badass like Moiraine or Lanfear or Moghedian or Nynaeve.

Good morning friends! Here is your daily reminder that we are raising money to pay for my health care FOR ONE MORE YEAR. If you could donate I would be grateful, but I'm just as grateful if you like and share this! allmylinks.com/feed

Last year, it was Syria. The difference is the degree of subtlety.

The First Lady of New York City is Syrian-American. 🥰

Reminder that support of Isra-zift is support of Western Imperialism and its ethnic cleansing of the indigenous Arab Jewish, Christian, and Muslim population in the Levant. Stay out of my spaces.

I wish I could put up an auto-message at work that reads: I have ADHD. Please communicate clearly. An assumption on your part will put me out of commission for an hour. Also, STOP SAVING SHIT IN MY FOLDER. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU’RE DOING!

Overheard at the Dealership: Airy…Ahry…whatever your name is… 🤦‍♀️

Ouf, eked out a victory at the end there. 😅 I don’t think the Eagles are long for the playoffs this year. They merely arrive to break dynasties only to vanish again into the obscurity whence they came. #GoBirds

After consulting the Internet and my common sense, I have concluded that my headache is due to eyestrain from playing Skyrim all day.

I hate when colleagues ask me to specify something in a way that’s essentially unethical. “No, bitches! I have #ADHD, and that makes me Lawful Good by definition!”

This blood pressure medication sucks. Having dangerous thoughts and feelings that I haven’t since treating my PMDD. Could use some hugs.

Why, yes, I did put the wet clothes in the dryer without removing the already dry clothes first. Thanks for asking! #ADHD

I have lost the battle to my email inboxes. I’m so flooded with unnecessary emails that I have let it pile up with unread notifications.

People underestimate how one tiny interaction can derail an ADHDer’s whole day. In the grand scheme, this wasn’t a big to do. It still put me out of commission for the whole day.

How hard is it to take the PDFs from the one folder and copy them into the other? Why did the engineer who is paid more than me think it was ok to ask this of me? I’m a subject matter expert, not a secretary.

Guys!! I actually won a prize!!! My ticket got called in the raffle.

Do you get a prize if your hotel room is the same number as your birthday?

If I have SAD, it’s because we don’t get proper winter weather. I hate this city. 😒

You've been kidnapped. The characters from the last TV show you watched are trying to rescue you. Who's coming to save you?

While having an innocuous conversation with my husband about exterior Christmas lights, I rattled off a series of building codes and reference standards like a DM, and I realized that’s it. That’s my job. I do D&D for architects.

That game was nonsense.

Why, yes! It did take me 36 hours to empty the dishwasher. Why do you ask? #ADHD

Epilogue: Someone *just* started working on the thing due today and asked if I can wait for their files tomorrow morning. I HAVE TO DO TWO OF THOSE TOMORROW FOR OTHER PROJECTS, SO NO!!

I wrote a Sternly Worded Email to my colleagues, and they pushed back, and now I feel bad for writing a Sternly Worded Email.

@biologicalriley.bsky.social apparently we’re in a Bears-Eagles alliance? Eagles are 3-0 against the NFC North. Bears are 3-0 against the NFC East. And the teams play against each other, I’m sure it will be one hot mess. 😂

Architects and Project Designers (people who can’t legally use the term Architect until they’re licensed) need to do their own flaming research sometimes. I googled the answer to your question, and you could have, too! This knowledge is not limited to spec writers. It’s for all!

Twelfth Night starring Lupita Nyong’o on PBS is amazing.

Writing a spec for exit devices, and an S keep creeping “exit.” Anyone in the market for an exist device?

Driving 45 minutes out to practically the city center to get a hair cut at 10 am to account for the best traffic. And why? Because that’s where the one person who knows how to cut my hair “ethnic” best works, and she doesn’t charge me “ethnic” hair prices. I hope work understands. 🤷‍♀️

I have now signed out of the office messenger app because apparently asking people to use their best judgement is too much.

Coworker: Hey, I see you’ve got your do not disturb on, but can I ask… NO! No you can’t! I have my forking do not disturb on! Respect my flaming, goat-kissing boundary!

I’m the kind of designer who’s like, “Oh, we can’t do this because the material doesn’t work that way? Fine, let’s not do it.” So it’s really frustrating to work with a team who can’t tell the Owner, “We can’t do it because the material doesn’t work that way. Sure, I’ll magic it into being.

“Immigrants…we get the job done.” I am a child of immigrants, and this city will be my home one day.

Bassem Youssef using a shattafeh to troll the “eating rice with your hands is so unhygienic” crowd is chef’s kiss. 🤌

A struggling coworker/younger professional asked me for help with a task. That’s not my discipline anymore. I have to enforce a boundary with my old discipline, or they’ll take advantage of me. I pointed them to experienced people in the discipline. Then, #RSD hit so hard. Thanks, #ADHD.

So, my PMDD symptoms have migrated from homicidal rage to difficulty spelling while texting…just on the downward part of my cycle. If every 3 weeks I have to retype things 3 times until they’re accurate, I’ll take it.

I cannot with the white people refusing to learn or intentionally mispronouncing Mamdani’s name. How disrespectful! Arabs still manage to say Vaughn despite 70% of it being silent. Y’all white westerners can put on your big person pants and learn to say people’s names right.

Opening up Instagram to a video of Zohran making a plea to Arab voters in Arabic. ❤️🤍💚🖤

My brothers, bless their hearts, registered for the lottery to get World Cup tickets. I refuse to support an organization that allowed the perpetrator of Palestinian genocide an opportunity to qualify (go Norway! go Italy! Andiamo Gli Azzuri!). And I’m not a fan of the dynamic pricing, either.

I cried reading this speech. Yes, I live in the shadows and pretend I’m the white Christian that I look like because people don’t expect to see and would be afraid of the Arab Muslim I am. I’m Arab. I’m Muslim. I shine in the Light.

Today I learned that Hades 2 is available on regular old normie Switch.

I’d like to send this email: “…and please remember that an unfortunate dipshit has to wait on your asses to get your shit saved in the folder so they can compile the main PDF and go home.” Instead, I settled for: “I’ll compile the main file, so please save your PDFs sooner rather than later.”