Someone on FB: What can I eat that has no fat, no carbs and no protein? Me: Ass

Sylvia Plat said, "Opinions are like orgasms...mine matters most and I really don't care if you have one." I would say, "Opinions are like orgasms...mine matters most and depending on how much I like you, yours might matter, too." 🤣

"Mixed-method analysis revealed that women who indicated to use of masturbation for coping or self-care or who reported negative feelings did not differ in their level of psychological distress from women who did not report using it. (cont.) (1/2)

Got a new phrase for ya! rebooty call /ˌrēˈbo͞odē kôl/ noun the contact made when a person, out of fresh dating prospects, suddenly recalls your existence and attempts to gaslight both of you into believing they never stopped being interested; may be via call, text, email, kik, etc. (1/2)

When people YELL loudly who they are over and over, you gotta take them at their word at some point.

New word, inspired by a conversation two nights ago. romagination /rōˌmajəˈnāSH(ə)n/ when one person’s “this is just how I date” smashes into the other’s “this is how I show deep commitment.” No one’s technically wrong, but someone’s definitely catching feelings they didn’t sign up for. (1/3)

Working on a new word today. No art yet. egoshock /ˈēɡōSHäk/ noun The unholy cocktail of indignation and bewilderment served up when someone you were absolutely not into dares to reject you first. see also, "but why though?" (1/3)

It's official! I'm a licensed unicorn hunter! 🤣 Ahem..quester.

From a live chat today. One of the attendees quoted this back to me, so I'm sharing. Remember: Whatever you have done to survive, it takes a new skillset to thrive, and SOMETIMES it's exactly the opposite.

Fill in the blank! I swear, I am just ONE [fill-in-the-blank] away from swearing off dating forever! Example: I swear, I am just ONE "wyd?" away from swearing off dating forever! 🤣 🤣 🤣 It's snowy here in NC. Let's have some fuuuuuun!

Not my word or concept, but... Have y'all heard of labor digging? When rather than dating for love or money, the dating is for labor. Including, but not limited to: - Housework - Cooking - Childcare - Emotional You know, all those pesky things needed to keep a convenient life convenient. (1/3)

Have you heard, "You teach people how to treat you?" You probably have. I don't agree with that. I believe that people are going to treat you however THEY want. You have the power to teach what you will and will not accept. Which is where the concept of ruinous empathy comes in. (1/7)

Haven't been posting much. Have been doing art. Number 37 and counting in this series I've titled "The Whimsically Illustrated & Annotated Dictionary of the Utterly Ridiculous Things We Do for Love." *smiles*

Ugh! 💩 like this just pisses me off. It’s the other side of “be more submissive” messaging sent to women, to create the full trap of “can’t win,” and they are trying to say that it’s women creating the trap for men. (1/3)

A new work that made me laugh this morning. Wanna play along and use 'nexit' in a sentence? Here's another: When I caught myself explaining basic human decency for the 3rd time, I hit the nexit button—I’m not running a seminar on empathy; I’m just trying to enjoy a cuppa tea and get boned.

Can I tell you something that no one likes to talk about? Some of the BEST people at getting love...are the worst people. Well, those who are the most natural, anyway. An essay. (1/7)

Took time offline this past weekend. Feels good. Now, what sort of trouble were people scaring up while I was getting railed, eating delicious food, and reading cotton-candy fluff books? *smiles*

Thanksgiving today is me and my sweetie. I started with biscuits and gravy. He’ll be making shrimp and grits later. And we may put together our new toy: a laser engraving machine.

Because this made me giggle...

LOL! We all do it. Well, many of us do. Especially the creatives and the romantics. Admit it. I know it's cringe. The problem isn't that we do it. It's that we sometimes INVEST in it and believe in it...which is kinda like believing Rambo is real. Or pr0n. (1 of 6)

LOVE the vibe! I was JUST this morning thinking about a concept like Stomachfix to do with the art I'm working on. Is the origin of that trackable? (Happy to do the googling, too!)

And 100% of the money is almost immediately circulated again. It’s a win-win-win.

Often happens after a breakup, but sometimes your true self comes roaring back while you're still in the relationship(s), leaving you wondering why you ever thought dimming your light was a good idea. For the record, dimming your light to make a relationship work is NEVER a good idea. ❤️

Another in the series I've been working on. Something about this art is driving me. I've already mentioned that I love words, and I'm passionate bout love, sex, and relationships. I enjoy being silly and creative. But it could also be the is the most fun I've had avoiding reality in a while.

THIS. I took a break this weekend, and although I am overall a positive person, seeing the news in my feed just makes me want to shut down and engage in coping mechanisms. UGH.

Been working on this new series. I feel like I'm hitting my stride. Not only it is art and fun to make, but it's words and language and poking fun at the ridiculous things we do for love. I'm hitting all my sweet spots.

I never think of my art/writing/creation as work, even if it is what I sell. The work for me is the marketing, the admin, the fortifying myself against rejection…

Getting to know you: 5 things you could speak about for 30min with no prep. 1. Boundaries (especially in relationships) 2. Booty Sex 3. Flat Pattern Design 4. Dating 5. Communication And probably 101 other completely disparate topics. 🤣

This is beautiful. It doesn’t actually represent introversion versus extroversion. It’s about how you gain your energy. Extroverts get energy from people. They enjoy interacting with the outside world, including strangers, and meeting new people in large groups (1/2)

Unless that's your thing. No kinkshaming here.

Started a new creative series. Relationship words we can all relate to (or at least recognize)... I've definitely been known to give myself (and many other people living rent-free in my head) a good talking-to while I bask in the molten lava I call a shower.

Guess who still hadn't peed? 🤦🏻‍♀️

This reminded me that I have to pee...LOL!

I was also diagnosed late! At 49. I bet I'll recognize... Hey! Where's the rest? 🤣 Seriously, though, my particular flavor of ADHD almost always has me responding to one very specific thing, and forgetting everything else mentioned or even how to human in reply. 🙄

YES! I'd add to this, don't just read it. PERFORM it. When you act it out, and use inflection like you want people to read it, you'll find where it stutters, where it's totally awk, and you'll catch more typos!

Ooooh! I love this. Thriving out of spite. Because so many of us are socialized out of doing things for ourselves, to only do things for others. But outta spite, well, that's hardwired into each of us, innit? *grins*

Happy International Men's Day! Is there a calendar? I'm all in favor of celebrating the achievements of hot men in wet t-shirts. #stolenbecauseitsfunny

TIL "Munch," which has multiple meanings. Knew this one: A vanilla social gathering of kinksters at a restaurant. Learned these: A sexual partner who solely performs oral sex and doesn't penetrate. A hater. Also checked out the song I had totally missed on account of being an old. LOL!

Don’t you just love how red pill/blue pill is just reinterpretation of black and white thinking by incels? • Men vs Women • Dominance vs Submission • Alpha vs Beta (vs Omega) • High Value vs Low Value • Peacocking vs Banality • Challenge vs Pushover

My partner and I traveled to Austin for a wedding two weeks ago. During that trip he learned for the first time in over 11 years that my most fervent fantasy when I was young was to have a bat for a pet. He now sends me squee-worthy bat content like this: www.instagram.com/reel/DCY6ikQ... 💜

WIP representing how even when we reach for a hand up, our deeply rooted beliefs keep us in place.

Perfectionism is often considered a mistake, something that once logically explained, can then be put away. For some of us (never quite like the others) perfectionism is a refuge. It is easier to fret over a comma, dash, or an ellipses, rather than suffer the scrutiny of our complete creation.

Oh. This is brilliant. Definitely gonna peruse. I'm 100% pro-block on this platform.

I'm not great at talking about myself to sell. But someone in the Cult of Copy FB group just said: "They want to be told, and you like to tell. Why make this complicated?" Which, I think it what I loved so much about OG Twitter, and what I'm enjoying about BS. (1/2)

One of the most powerful tools I teach to reduce people-pleasing in relationships is exactly this: "Do not obey in advance," or as I state it in my books: WAIT. Wait for them to ask. If you wait for the request, you will reduce your people-pleasing by at LEAST 50% immediately.

I'm working on a new book, Reject Me, Baby! How and why to get rejected more often for dating & relationship success. As someone with ADHD and RSD, I've struggled with feelings of super-rejection, and being me, I wanted to know WHY this happens. So, of course, I rabbit-holed. (1/6)

It's funny, I do this with my writing much more than with my art, so here goes. This is about how we build a home of our hurt and traumas. We carry them with us and live inside of them, use them for shelter, believing they protect us and that we cannot live without their burden.

As I tuck myself into bed tonight, I feel a need to post that BlueSky so far reminds me of everything I loved about Twitter circa 2008. ❤️

As a different perspective, I want authors who feel confident heartily recommending their own work when people ask. I want the people I engage with to be 100% passionate and invested in their work and spreading the word. (I also strive to be that person.)

I got a preventative double-mastectomy with reconstruction, so I didn't make this same choice. That said, I support those who do, and may choose this for myself in the future. Who knows? Let's normalize people (including non-men) making the right health choices for themselves. 💜