I’ve heard some of the most horrific stories of child abuse since I started listening to adoptee’s stories. The adoption is beautiful narrative is purposefully covering up child abuse to support a billion dollar industry. #adopteevoices #childabuseawareness

“The child is seen as being “saved” by the adoptive parents, as if that somehow negates any abuse they commit. Adoption does not guarantee a child will go to a safer home — it simply means they go to a different home. And different does not always mean safer.” open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

If an adoptee finding their family hurts their adoptive family imagine how much hurt the adoptee had growing up in such a manipulative controlling family. #adoptionawareness

Adoptive parents say they love the adoptee like their own child but the truth is that love is often conditional based on the adoptee loving them, meeting their needs, and fulfilling the role they were brought into the family to fulfill. #adoptionawareness

Too many child services utilize these very tactics and use a child’s loved ones to manipulate and control them. If your services mimic an abuser, you’re probably an abuser. #childabuseawareness open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

Amazing how quickly adoption supporters go from “she gave you away because she loved you so much” to “she didn’t want you. She gave you away. Get over it.” #adoptionawareness

“How do you torture someone? You make them watch or know that the person they love is being hurt. That’s what domestic abuse is for children.” open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

When my mother wanted to keep me, she was told she couldn’t do this to her parents. My adoptive parents lied to me my whole life. Even after their death my adoptive family protected them and their lies over me. No where in this equation did anyone consider or care about me and my mother.

World adoption day should be added to human trafficking awareness month. ☹️

New blog - domestic abuse is child abuse open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

Many adoptees find out late in life the story of their adoption and what happened to their families. We then have to live with the fact that our entire life was changed from a single decision made when we were born. That should have affected how we were cared for then not changed our entire lives.

“Many people criticize adoptees for even having a ghost kingdom, giving platitudes like “everything happens for a reason” or “everything works out the way it should.” I think bad things happen that never should’ve happened.” #adopteevoices #adoptionawareness open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

I was born to the family I was supposed to be in and to the perfect mother for me. People playing God with my life changed that - not God. #adopteevoices #naam

When my mother was pregnant with me she sat with a social worker for hours describing everything she wanted for me. She thought I went to parents specially picked out based on that. But that was a lie. No one was picked out. I was the next baby born given to the next file opened.

If an adoptee is afraid to look for their family because it may hurt their adoptive parents then they are in a controlling relationship - not a loving one. If the adoptive parents love the child they care about them knowing their family, heritage, and identity and never hide it.

I didn’t know I was adopted but growing up I had a recurring fantasy that Santa was my real dad (every child probably did right?) but turns out my dad loves Christmas and is already decorated and watching every Christmas hallmark movie 🎄😍

You cannot ‘gift’ a baby to someone. You cannot give another human being as a gift - that’s human trafficking. #adoptionawareness

There are two ways to help a pregnant mother in a crisis to care for her child. 1. Step into her life and help her and the child. 2. Blackmail her that you’ll help her child if you can own the child and make it yours. #adoptionswareness

People always say about adoption that you’re put into the family you’re supposed to be in - but I was in the family I was supposed to be in and then adoption changed that and put me with a family I didn’t belong with. #adoptionawareness

The truth is - many survivors have to heal from the healers. #stopvictimblaming

Getting my original birth certificate meant everything to me but it also makes me angry that adoptees have to be grateful for something so simple. All states need to open their records and this needs to stop happening to begin with. #adopteevoicesmatter youtube.com/shorts/vIYlM...

We are constantly confronted with “not all men” now I’m getting “not all adopters” anytime someone says “not all…” they are just trying to silence your message. Adoptees are done being silenced. If you have a different experience go write about it.

“It’s time to stop preparing victims to be abused in court, and instead, stop allowing victims to be abused in court.” open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

“We’ve had enough, we’ve fought, we’re tough Yet the world still sees us as weak Even though we’re the ones still standing, still fighting When the world seems most bleak” open.substack.com/pub/sarahcwi...

“I really thought this was it The turning point when good finally wins I guess we keep trying, it’s just so tiring, Always having to rely on our thick skin” Excellent poem written by my daughter a year ago… open.substack.com/pub/sarahcwi...

It’s difficult that I finally found my mother after 58 years and we live 1600 miles apart. Hopefully living in California will be in my future. #adopteevoices

If you start to comment on an adoptee’s post with, “what would you rather?” Stop. You’re just silencing us. If you had a different experience go write your own post about it. #adopteevoicesmatter

“We already know who the perpetrator is, and now if you support an abuser, we know who you are.” open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

It’s unnatural to have to introduce your child to their grandmother. Adoption isn’t beautiful - it’s trauma and generational trauma. #naam

Whenever a man says he has no idea why “she just up and left” - you know there’s was a very good reason…

Adoption is having a young woman in some form of crisis with pregnancy/postpartum hormones and just given birth to make a lifelong decision for her child and herself. How did anyone ever think this was okay? #naam

Full House is a great example of child welfare. Was the father told he should do the ‘loving’ thing and give his children to strangers so they could have 2 parents and the life they deserve? Of course not. Family and friends stepped into their lives and cared for them all. #naam

What do truly evil people do when they really want to hurt you? They go after your child. #familycourtawarenessmonth #postseparationabuse

Family Court Awareness Month coincides with National Adoption Awareness Month highlighting the hypocrisy in how society treats different parents and upholds a patriarchal system. #familycourtawarenessmonth #Naam open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

Of course reunion is difficult - you have two very traumatized people with a sacred bond that was purposefully broken by people that said this is beautiful. #adopteevoices #adoptionawareness

People always say adoption saves children but what saved me was finding my family. #adopteevoices

For adoption awareness month we need to talk about how many children are abused in adoptive homes. #childabuseawareness

Not sure how child welfare became popularized as giving a child to strangers and calling it beautiful. #adopteeawarenessmonth #adopteevoices

“I got to live in my ghost kingdom for a week, and it was beautiful.” New blog! #adopteevoices open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

Why do we have Adoptee Remembrance Day? Because we have lost so many survivors of adoption to suicide, trauma, and abuse. And so many survivors of adoption live with abuse and trauma but are silenced. Adoption is trauma. Listen to adoptees. #adopteeremembranceday

They say adoption builds families, but for too many of us adoptees we just end up losing two families. What we’re often left with is the family we create. #adopteedayofremembrance worthywonderfulshop.etsy.com/listing/1772...

Reunion for an adoptee can be really difficult but that’s because that’s the way it was set up. Adoption was set up to break the bond with the child to their mother and family. #adopteedayofremembrance

No one should ever be told that they are ‘bonded’ to the person hurting them. They aren’t ‘bonded’ to them - they’re entrapped by them.

If you’re saying a mother gave away her child because she couldn’t take care of it, then what you’re saying is this mother and child were failed by every person and system that should’ve been there to help them. #adopteevoices

People always say “your mother loved you so much she gave you away so you could have a better life.” - so, yes what she did was out of love but what everyone else did was blackmail her into the only choice for her child to be okay was to give them her child. #adopteevoices

“Any parent who intentionally physically, emotionally, or sexually abuses their child does not love them. Abuse is not love.” We protect children from abusers - not force contact. open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

Perpetrators twist every message to help themselves. “Hurt people, hurt people” is the most well executed example of this that has allowed perpetrators to give themselves sympathy and play the victim.

“Mental health, abuse, and trauma are not jokes and they should never be a Halloween costume.” open.substack.com/pub/defendsu...

Strangulation is not a ‘form’ of domestic violence. It is attempted or completed murder. Period. #DVAM2025

I just realized that I got the idea for my daughter’s unique name from an actress that turns out had the same last name as my biological mother. 🤯 As an adoptee, there are so many weird connections throughout my life to my family. The invisible string is real. #adopteevoices