Getting out of burnout isn’t just getting some energy, getting a little motivation and then doing stuff the same way again. It’s doing things in a different way, so that you don’t go into burnout again. #AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

Tired of burning out trying to make self-employment work? You're not failing. The advice you've been following just wasn't built for Autistic and AuDHD brains. "Just show up on video every day!" NO! "Network constantly!" NO! "Hustle harder!" NO! 1/3 #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

Why NOT Get the Worst Over With First buff.ly/WqrDli0 #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity

You deserve to have the capacity for having a life, for being able to engage with special interests, with friends, with family, with activities, with just resting, with whatever it is that makes you come alive. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity

When I was a kid and complained the ice cream was cold, they laughed at me. When I fought my mom putting on tights, she would get exasperated. When I "went into a sulk" over a change of plans, they said it wasn't a big deal and I should just get over it. 1/2 #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #ND

April is coming — and so is an important conversation. The narrative around autism is changing — and I want to be part of that conversation. I'm available for media appearances and interviews. buff.ly/KVb47Uu #ActuallyAutistic #lifecoaching #AutismAcceptance #AutisticAdults #AutismAwareness

My brain finds that it’s hard to predict a lot of the world and a lot of people. And so I tend to find comfort in trying to make things into absolutes. 1/2 #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #Acceptance

“This isn’t a big deal” is an excuse www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_EZ... #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND

April is Autism Awareness Month — is your coaching organization looking for a presenter? I offer a presentation on working with adult autistic coaching clients that your members will actually find useful. Let's talk! 🦋 #ActuallyAutistic #lifecoaching #ICF #CoachingCommunity #CoachingDevelopment

Many Autistics and many ADHDers need more rest for our nervous systems to be able to process the sensory information that we’re taking in, the social information we’re taking in, to be able to regulate, and to really actually feel rested. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #ADHD #BurnoutRecovery

I spent years feeling like my body was overreacting to things others brushed off. It made more sense when I realised most of my rules about what is and is not 'safe' were written in childhood. Of course that stuff is still affecting you. That is when you learned what safe felt like.

Sometimes it might be difficult to figure out whether it’s actually a negative thought or the practicalities of the situation, especially as some of these negative thoughts feel really true, and you’re so used to thinking them that it’s hard to tell. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Anxiety

When Someone Interrupts Your Alone Time buff.ly/9mmdmxn #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity #Anxiety

Your childhood is still affecting you www.youtube.com/watch?v=_U6P... #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND

People want to know that they’re making a difference. So when they do something kind for you and you write a thank-you, you’re cluing them in to what difference their time, attention, or effort made. And for most people on the receiving end of that, that feels really good. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

A decision making tip: Imagine yourself actually doing the thing (not just thinking about it; visualize yourself doing it). Does your body get loose, relaxed, open, or tight, clenched, closed? Do you have a sense of being trapped, or free? #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

In burnout, it often feels like there’s always just too much to do and you’re never going to get caught up. #AutisticBurnout #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

Most solopreneur advice assumes: →stable energy →lots of executive function →comfort with constant self‑promotion →ease with transitions and multi-tasking That is NOT how AuDHD works. For AuDHD business owners: which 'standard' advice has made you feel the worst? 1/2 #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

The more I disconnected from negative self-talk, and the less I judged myself, the less I judged others and the more my compassion for them grew. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #PersonalGrowth

Resisting Your Own Creative Project buff.ly/ygYyNmm #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Anxiety

One of the things that can be important about overcoming past traumas is learning how to differentiate between then and now. 1/2 #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic

If you need links to resources on helpful topics for the Autistic community, or perspectives from Autistic people, I have a lot shared over on my website at: buff.ly/K8NnTvx #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity

Healthy communication is a more useful goal than trying to emulate neurotypical communications or neurotypical social skills. #healthycommunication #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity

I am not compromising who I am or what my truth is, and I’m not saying things just because society demands it. #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #unmasking

Warning Signs of Autistic Burnout Checklist buff.ly/g17UkLH #AutisticBurnout #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

It constantly amazes me how big of a difference it can make to release even a little self-blame and self-judgment. And how big of a difference tiny changes can make when you keep making more and more of them. #Autism #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #Acceptance #Understanding

Ever wanted a clear explanation of whether it’s overexplaining vs. autistic communication style? Wish granted: youtube.com/shorts/olmYK... #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity

I have some resources on my page surrounding the autistic experience and its intersections to other identities, here’s a link if you’re interested in learning more: buff.ly/FpKW0Zn #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity

What is over-explaining? www.youtube.com/watch?v=olmY... #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND

"If we all worked under the assumption that what is accepted as true is really true, there would be little hope of advance." - Orville Wright True in science, as well as personal growth. What have you been told is true that you've found out (or suspect) isn't? #AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic

Autistic Burnout Recovery Is About Reducing Dissonance buff.ly/mt9zxrZ #AutisticBurnout #BurnoutRecovery #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

The systems in our society are deeply broken. Autistics often feel the effects earlier and more strongly, but people of all kinds are burning out in record numbers because we can't keep this up much longer. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #Burnout

It’s okay to think differently, to think in your own style, to process things in your own style, to socialize and play and live in your own style. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity

I'm working to group and curate the massive collection of info I have on topics relevant to the later identified autistic journey, so it's easier to find and sort through. (Over 200 blog posts and 350 videos.) Which topics are you interested in? #AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ND

There is no magical combination of words that will get across exactly what you mean, only the things that you mean, and that cannot be misunderstood or misinterpreted. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity

"You should be trying more" www.youtube.com/watch?v=labh... #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND

People who easily picked up on normative social cues as they were growing up often struggle with explaining how they work and why they matter, because they’ve never had to. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity

Most of my life, I have worked hard to stay consistent, thinking that if I missed a day of my routine or goal or habit, I was messing up and a failure, and would never amount to anything. But most things don’t require that absolute consistency. 1/2

Fireworks can be overwhelming and stressful, if you want some assistance for the Lunar New Year, here’s a strategy for that: buff.ly/ENrHeH6 #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Sensory

Tired of burning out trying to make self-employment work? You're not failing. The advice you've been following just wasn't built for Autistic and AuDHD brains. "Just show up on video every day!" NO! "Network constantly!" NO! "Hustle harder!" NO! 1/3 #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

There’s lots of ways to be polite, considerate and kind. It doesn’t have to be the way that neurotypical people do it. #healthycommunication #Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodiversity

Have you recently figured out you’re autistic? Do you need some advice or information surrounding your new-found identity? I have some information on my resources page that could help you out: buff.ly/HnJMGsd #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic

When Someone Interrupts Your Alone Time buff.ly/tS9ioWY #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Anxiety

Guilt-Free Progress Tracker example www.youtube.com/watch?v=hh9s... #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND

Getting a professional autism diagnosis will not make it more real. If you're autistic, someone else saying you are doesn't make you any more autistic. Being autistic makes you #ActuallyAutistic.

So often when we have those kinds of big life-upsetting moments, it feels very, very strongly like ‘this is the end of the story’ and ‘this is always going to be like this from now on’. But what if it’s not the end of the story? What if this is the middle of the story? #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic

When you’re in burnout, just taking a break is never enough because it’s not solving the issues at the core of it. #AutisticBurnout #Burnout #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

I remember sitting in the car with my mom in late high school, crying in a rare moment of emotional overflow, begging her to explain why I didn’t have friends, why the other kids didn’t treat me the same, what was wrong with me. It took 2 more decades for me to understand why I was different. 1/2

Sometimes I’ll slip into old thoughts every once in a while - but I’m doing things in ways that work differently now, and my mentality is different, and how I’m approaching things is different, and there’s a lot of things that I’m not stressing about anymore that I would have before. #PersonalGrowth

Will increasing internal awareness make things worse? buff.ly/f1e9FfE #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Sensory #Interoception