(I missed the entire Grammys and it doesn’t seem like anything significant happened?!)

let’s try that because it is ONLY january.

If that doesn't work we can put it in rice

Don Lemon looks GLEEFUL walking hand-in-hand with his husband. And the husband looks like he has the NASTIEST (celebratory) attorney team on speed dial. This is going to be something to behold, okay?!

Has anyone tried unplugging 2026 & plugging it back in?! 👀

I was 19 years old when I joined 💕💚. I am currently 30+. My LSs STILL call me “little one”… They don’t care that I’m a grown up & I don’t think that will ever change lol

It’s so hard being an overstimulated introvert at a counseling conference! I’m sitting alone on purpose. I’m not talking to anyone ON PURPOSE. I am NOT looking for a new friend. I am safe. I am okay. Please go away from me with this (IYKYK) 😭

In today’s episode of “Vital Information for your Everyday Life”: The N*tional G*ard is out & about in NOLA.

My mama: “I’m trying to tell your niece (6 yr old) that it’s okay to make mistakes & things don’t have to be perfect… she gets so worked-up!” Me: “Wow! Grandparents really do change for grandkids…” My mama: “Are you saying I put pressure on you?!” Me:

I have a headache & just took medicine instead of trying to wait it out. Everybody clap!

Packing for another conference & I can confirm that it’s both 🙃 My brain fully needs a color scheme so I KNOW there are options in case it’s slightly warmer, colder, or rainier than expected. Shirts, pants, dresses, skirts… I can mix every option multiple ways 😮‍💨

Something that I wish folks understood about eldest daughters: When I ask for help, PLEASE BELIEVE that I’ve exhausted EVERY option before I got here. I’ve considered & TRIED EVERY FEASIBLE THING under the sun to PREVENT me from asking you for ANYTHING.

Without fail, when I see therapists posting wildly insensitive comments in these social media groups, a QUICK browse of their profile tells me all I need to know. A few shared videos, a few posted memes, a profile pic with a “patriotic” background… it’s always *that* thing. #TherapistSky

I still don’t know how I was presenting at so many conferences in grad school with nothing but peanuts in my pocket. I barely have pretzels now & I’m still trying to be on the move 😭🙃🤷🏾‍♀️ #AcademicSky

I’m still trying to get my conference cadence together. I’ve added the Law & Ethics in Counseling Conference to this year’s rotation thanks to NBCC 🙏🏾 Other interests: Assoc for Assessment & Research, Assoc of Creativity in Counseling, & the Psych of Black Womanhood 👀 #TherapistSky #CounselorEd

Any of my counselor friends ever been to the Psychology of Black Womanhood Conference?! 👀 #TherapistSky #BlackWomen

I’ll never be too good for a bowl of cereal as a midnight snack 👌🏾

Freedom is my favorite Beyoncé song. That’s the only part of 2016 I can relive without disdain 🙃

I’m grateful to not need spring clothes this week ☺️🧣

Reliving 2016 doesn’t sound fun to me. That’s the year we were first tormented with the monster we know now in the White House…

I recently discovered Dominique Morgan on IG & sis has me rolling 🤣

I’m glad Ludacris came to his senses about performing at M*GAFEST 2026; AND, the damage is already done. We’ve loved Luda DOWN since forever & we’ve always appreciated that he stayed CLEAR of the mess & went home. That was a slap in the face to HIS people. We won’t forget & that sucks for him 🤷🏾‍♀️

I hope all of my sisters had a PRETTY phenomenal Founders’ Day!! 😘💕💚 I spent my day in faculty meetings & in group supervision with several future counselors who are also 💕💚🥹 #AcademicSky #CounselorEd #AKA1908

I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I empathize. Please know your work not only matters, but is *needed.* It's unfair and intentional, but do not be deterred. Made worse when those same venues are upheld as the ones valued by APT committees. So many of us see and are holding space for you.

Hearing that my Black girl-centered research is “just advocacy” and not “rigorous scholarship” is so disappointing. I don’t believe that; and, that’s what the “premiere” journals in my field (#CounselorEd) are saying in all of my manuscript reviews. It’s hard not to feel defeated. #AcademicSky

Releasing SARC registration AND a Boule teaser in the same day is too rich for me!! I cannot wait to be a retired, salt & pepper-haired GOLDEN 💕💚 with a never-ending sorority budget 😭

Fingers are still crossed that #Sinners will get more celebration in the remaining awards season. It really was a dynamic film with a beautiful cast and writing AND acting 🙏🏾

Mary J touring in Vegas this summer without those terrible men so I can give her my coins >>> Because Mario & Ne-Yo won’t get any NEW coins from ME if I can help it. IDC IDC IDC.

I hope Ryan & the entire cast knows how much WE loved #Sinners. I hate that their work isn’t getting what it deserves tonight.

All of the “we aren’t angry enough” posts are actually engraging. Black folks have BEEN mad! And when we express it, y’all have called us aggressive, irrational, etc. We’ve BEEN yelling & screaming about this mess. BEEN.

Me feeling affirmed knowing Yolanda Adams has ALWAYS been my favorite gospel artist and she’s NOT a bigot under the guise of religion >>>

We love you, Mikey 💜

WHERE IS THE COLD FRONT?! It’s early January and I’m about to pull out spring clothes. It’s too hot!!

Tim Walz deciding not to run again is the tip of the iceberg. We’re going to see qualified candidates with common sense & a heart for the people doing the same thing, because risking your safety & the safety of your loved ones shouldn’t be part of THAT job.

Y’all think Jill Scott will be back at Essence Fest this year with her new album coming out?! I’ve never seen auntie perform & I want to be in the number!!

Malcolm Jamal Warner LOVED Black people, especially Black women. I still cannot believe we lost him 😭

Next time, Georgia! ❤️🐶🖤

Another year of coaching my #Dawgs from my living room and knowing they’re getting cussed out all the way back home 😭

Cuss them for me too, Kirby!

I know Kirby is cussing real bad 🙈

Me: “I’m not about to let my #Dawgs stress me in 2026!” Also me: *screams at the tv at 10:30pm at night*

Happy New Year and happy last day of #Kwanzaa! Habari gani? (What’s the word?) IMANI (Faith): to believe with all our hearts in our people and the righteousness and victory of our struggle. ❤️🖤💚

Happy New Year, friends! 🎉

My friends are being loved out loud all over the place and I am CHEESING so hard for them. Everybody deserves to be loved in ways that makes them feel seen, safe, and heard. Whew. Happy last day of 2025 to the lovebirds 🥹😭🙌🏾💜

I know Kirk Franklin is arranging thee NASTIEST tribute for Richard Smallwood 😭😭😭 Get auntie LaLa on the phone TODAY. I know my girl is tore up (and ready to sing us all to Glory 🙌🏾)

The best thing that I’ve done for future me is not waiting until Jan. 1st. My “fresh start” is now. Today. This year is still here and so am I. Thank God for therapy 😭 🙌🏾

I’ve been delivering orders for #UberEats during the entire winter break because *gestures wildly*. I have been worried that I’ll deliver to a student or colleague & it’ll be awkward. And, I didn’t have other options (I applied for other temp work & nothing came of it). So… 🤷🏾‍♀️ #AcademicSky

I really enjoy my academic job and I think I’m pretty good at what I do. And, I wish that one check was enough to support me without stressing about making it “stretch” until the end of every month. December is a LONG month, man. Geesh. #AcademicSky

My last university “obligation” for the fall semester was December 15th. I’ve been working part-time the whole “break” because academia pays me in pennies. This week is basically syllabus prep week because classes resume on January 5th 🙃🙃🙃 #AcademicSky