Cruising (we’re not talking ships) refers to searching for a sexual partner for an anonymous encounter, often a one-off. Cruising areas or sites include streets, parks, road lay-bys, (nudist) beaches or sand dunes and other public areas. More: buff.ly/miWJP6K

Kissing another man is a powerful expression of our sexuality and identity. A kiss can signal a beginning or an end, a need or a desire. It can persuade, reassure, tantalise or hurl us into a pit of uncertainty as we wait for the little bugger to call. menrus.co.uk/sex/about-se...

Here is a list of 42 films for your viewing pleasure, in no particular order. It’s not THE list or the BEST list, or the best gay films EVER list. And for every film listed here, there’s probably another list with none of the ones we’ve chosen. buff.ly/wfJ0pYk

The thing about labels is that you cut them out and replace them with your own. What you call yourself is up to you. The important thing is that you choose what feels comfortable for you. buff.ly/yIQrAY6

LGBT+ people may not necessarily have family or next of kin with whom they would want ED staff to contact. The most significant relationships and support systems for LGBT+ people are often close friends and chosen family who are often excluded. buff.ly/eTMj7bi

Cum stains are usually grey, light yellow, or off-white with a crusty feel. The protein is the toughest bit to clean. Treat it as a protein stain. This is why enzyme detergents work, they break the protein down into smaller, soluble fragments, allowing it to be washed out. buff.ly/Kb1zkhM

We lurve rimming and arse play but, if present, shigella spreads efficiently through sex, often without us realising. Drug-resistant Shigella is increasing among gay men in the UK/ across Europe with some strains now resistant to multiple antibiotics making it harder to treat. More buff.ly/IeMhloH

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A simple, direct conversation with your dealer, or whoever is supplying your chems, about how they handle, weigh, package and store drugs, can reduce the risk of cross contamination, raise awareness and keep the issue relevant. More: buff.ly/ehqCTLI

For many of us, kissing another man is a powerful expression of our sexuality and identity. A kiss can signal a beginning or an end, a need or a desire. buff.ly/BEapdwb

Relationships are as individual as you and your partner, and it’s up to you to find the type of relationship that meets your needs. Underpinning the emotional stuff are practical things we can do to give the relationship the best climate to grow. More: buff.ly/gjFqrhr

The delicious irony about Crisco is that while mums and grandmas use it to make cakes and biscuits, gay men have been using it for sex for decades. buff.ly/8m6rskP

Washing your dick and balls daily, as part of your shower or bath routine, is sufficient for good hygiene. It’s a myth that “clean” means scrubbing hard. You’re not cleaning the dog or the oven. Being gentle but thorough is what matters. More buff.ly/YuPZ8oE

Conversion therapy is any form of so-called treatment which attempts to change sexual orientation or reduce attraction to others of the same sex. No one should be told their identity is something that can be changed or cured. More: buff.ly/41b7oyV

Our guide to sex and consent: buff.ly/0Oabhz8

We lurve rimming and arse play but, if present, shigella spreads efficiently through sex, often without us realising. Drug-resistant Shigella is increasing among gay men in the UK/ across Europe with some strains now resistant to multiple antibiotics making it harder to treat. More buff.ly/IeMhloH

Perhaps we are stating the obvious by defining dating, but in a 24/7 smörgåsbord sex culture some guys seem to think the ‘boundaries’ and ‘formalities’ of dating don’t matter. They do and here's our guide: buff.ly/bI9edKr

Coming out to yourself: From the day boys are born, society still assumes (though this is changing) they will be heterosexual, have children with a girlfriend or wife, and follow gender-orientated work and career paths. More: buff.ly/EBI5Dn5

The origins of SILENCE = DEATH. The design featured the pink triangle used to identify homosexuals in Holocaust concentration camps during World War II (1938-1945). The triangle was inverted and the pink was change to fuchsia colour (the brightest pink-purple). More: buff.ly/3OyubNB

In the early 1980s, gay men were given a lifetime ban from blood donation in the UK. Since then there have been several incremental changes and in 2021 changes moved to individualised risk assessments for all donors. More: buff.ly/4a7KbjC

Most of us know something which turns us on and excites us, but which is not necessarily sexual in itself - an object, a texture, a shape, or part of the body for example. We may be private about it or we may be open. The word to describe this is a fetish or fetishism. buff.ly/2RWv9oM

Our guide to sex and consent: buff.ly/2EJC9Qb

When it comes to sex, many of us are aware of our anatomy but we over-simplify what goes on beneath the surface of our bodies. Some of us still talk about things ‘down below’ and while there’s a certain quaintness about using such terms, they are inaccurate and misleading. More: buff.ly/Aq8Vj7L

For many of us, kissing another man is a powerful expression of our sexuality and identity. A kiss can signal a beginning or an end, a need or a desire. buff.ly/BEapdwb

A ‘side’ describes someone who doesn’t practice anal sex, a term coined for gay men to have the language to express this preference. buff.ly/KgKt8Wi

A blast from our past but still in use today, hanky codes or ‘flagging’ was established in the early 1970s as a way of letting other gay men know your sexual interests, practices and preferences; eg: a coloured bandana or hanky worn in a back jeans pocket. More: buff.ly/BXPx3S1

Coming out in the Gypsy Roma Traveller communities: buff.ly/3MQUCP1

Some gay men use types to describe, identify and communicate themselves. Who hasn't heard someone say “he’s my type" or been asked if a guy is yours? There is always some disagreement around the terms we use and whether we should use them at all. More: buff.ly/423I51U

The history of camp is as fascinating as it is complicated as it is controversial. More here: buff.ly/3CWNBsS

Check out our mental health support directory: buff.ly/kloO1I1

Finding a solicitor can be hard; maybe we can point you in the right direction. More: bit.ly/3RJS0mA bit.ly/3REgi1r

The key to chatting up a guy is patience but, since we’re usually thinking with our dicks and driven by an uncontrollable urge to shift our load by morning, we can move very fast: More: buff.ly/3Eqtd4f

Cruising (we’re not talking ships) refers to searching for a sexual partner for an anonymous encounter, often a one-off. Cruising areas or sites include streets, parks, road lay-bys, (nudist) beaches or sand dunes and other public areas. More: buff.ly/miWJP6K

Suicide is a subject many are afraid to talk about or even acknowledge but … type “suicide” into Google and we found 368 million results and 650 million video results. Clearly, some of us are talking about it and this. More: bit.ly/3Mnydar

Bisexual men and women have often been forgotten or seen as an after-thought within the LGBT+ community. This is strange, given it’s the third letter in LGBT! More: buff.ly/41aIL3R

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The meaning of ‘queer’ has changed over time, from a slur to being reclaimed by some LGBT+ people, while being rejected by others. The short answer is that ‘queer’ means different things to different people. buff.ly/2naj159

Check out our A-Z LGBT+ glossary of words and terms. You maybe surprised: bit.ly/3TIGHO4

When you come out to someone or say you are questioning your sexuality, people can come out with some rubbish. Check out our top 20 in no particular order: buff.ly/4hEmpOO

Relationships are as individual as you and your partner, and it’s up to you to find the type of relationship that meets your needs. Underpinning the emotional stuff are practical things we can do to give the relationship the best climate to grow. More: buff.ly/gjFqrhr

Conversion therapy is any form of so-called treatment which attempts to change sexual orientation or reduce attraction to others of the same sex. No one should be told their identity is something that can be changed or cured. More: buff.ly/41b7oyV

If you ever thought that you were the first or only person to have had a sexually transmitted infection (STI) – think again; they have been around for thousands of years. More: buff.ly/41628fh

The delicious irony about Crisco is that while mums and grandmas use it to make cakes and biscuits, gay men have been using it for sex for decades. buff.ly/8m6rskP

In so far as gay men are more likely to have heard about ‘safer sex’ and ‘safer drug use’, ‘harm reduction’ is the term most used in drugs services and the harm reduction field. For all intents and proposes, the terms are interchangeable. More: buff.ly/PWsJKD9

Often underrated and misunderstood, hugs (especially big hugs) and cuddles are two of the most natural ways to express our friendship, and show closeness and affection. More: buff.ly/5iuCsFv

Cruising (we’re not talking ships) refers to searching for a sexual partner for an anonymous encounter, often a one-off. Cruising areas or sites include streets, parks, road lay-bys, (nudist) beaches or sand dunes and other public areas. More: buff.ly/miWJP6K

The delicious irony about Crisco is that while mums and grandmas use it to make cakes and biscuits, gay men have been using it for sex for decades. buff.ly/8m6rskP

Our guide to sex and consent: buff.ly/2EJC9Qb

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Seemingly wedded to our apps today it’s easy to forget that only a few decades ago Polari was used widely as a safe means of communication for the gay community. buff.ly/2FGcEQg