why do men feel the need to be weird and unpleasant on social media?

the right people won't be intimidated by your standards because they're mutual expectations

working on a class around ethical negotiation informed by behavioral psychology. aiming to start teaching in 2026!

What's the difference between a conservative Christian man and a lesbian? One of them actually likes women ❤️🤍🩷

Refusing an intimacy coordinator is not a flex. It should be looked at like refusing a stunt coordinator for action scenes: it is reckless, uninformed, and disrespectful of the wellbeing and safety of your entire film crew. You're part of a team, its not an individual's decision.

Happy Fuck Jacob Frey to all who are celebrating 🪅🍾

- Why do people stay in situations where they're being harmed? - Why do more than 65% of abuse victims return to their abuser? - How can a victim leave for good? These are topics we're digging into in my Coercive Control workshop on Nov 16th: www.opendoorcoaching.org/classes/p/co...

racism is not a mental illness. it is a choice. racism is not a mental illness. it is a choice. racism is not a mental illness. it is a choice.

my mother's sister = my Aunt my mother's cousin who is my godmother = my Aunt my mother's two best friends who helped raise me = my Aunties Americans desperately need cultural competence. Most Indigenous cultures use versions of Aunt & Uncle to show respect for our caregivers...

check your date (and your political candidates) for nazi tattoos....

Use today to connect with indigenous people online. Follow us, amplify our voices, share our posts, purchase from our shops or donate to our fundraisers and community projects. Not just today but every day, uplift the people of Turtle Island.

tea, a candle, & Over The Garden Wall 🍂🫖🐸

this recent flare-up has been especially bad, but I'm celebrating today's small victories: I managed to go for a walk, got a really nice spiced apple chai from my local place, and made an egg sandwich (plus a fried egg for my service dog)

my sighted partner alerted me that the doctor I saw earlier this week was incredibly inaccurate, making up data in his notes. if my partner hadn't checked I would not have known, and be denied the referral I need. jfc doctors frequently abuse their power & their patients.

packing house and moving during a Lupus flare-up + reactivation of EBV is awful, 0/10, do not try this at home

if the funeral has a merch table, that's not a memorial its propaganda

one of the most harmful things our culture encourages is controlling other people. make them serve us, make them change themselves, make them do what we want. control has no place in healthy relationships. this rise in violence and fascism is rooted in desire for control.

Talked with my partner this morning about the murder of Celeste Rivas. After multiple horrified silences & breath work we started brainstorming ways to protect kids' online privacy, to teach them young to defend themselves against predation and inappropriate pressure from adults.

Let's make friends (and lose followers I don't want)! Trans rights are human rights. Abortion is healthcare. There are zero ethical billionaires. UBI would improve the mental health and quality of life of most people on Earth. Donald Trump is a liar, cheater, pedophile & rapist.

I'm just a trauma therapist, standing in front of the entire internet, begging you to be allies to the Disabled community by removing ableist slurs (in$ane, cr4zy) from your vocabulary and stop misusing mental health terminology (psychotic, sociopath) when talking about fascism.

a morning news host advocates ending the lives of homeless people and then there's two mass shootings at encampments with 12 injured. a country singer releases a lynching anthem and Trey Reed's beaten body is found hanging. these are not isolated events. its Stochastic Terrorism

Tomorrow evening (and on Sunday the 21st) I'm teaching an online workshop on relationship conflict resolution, building healthy productive communication with our loved ones. Queer, polyamory & disability inclusive! We still have spots available: www.opendoorcoaching.org/classes/p/na...

there's no way to help people who don't want help. don't pour your energy into people who are committed to staying in ignorance.

Having people who love you show up and help you really is life-changing. I just powered through a couple of frustrating phone calls back-to-back while my partner groomed the dog and washed our dishes. I would've put all of that off for days otherwise!

took the Wookie to brunch

marginalized people are expressing relief that one of our many, many oppressors can't harm us anymore. we're going to express our emotions however we feel them; tone-policing victims or calling for empathy for the oppressor's family is bootlicking which you can unlearn.

took a nap, woke up to Charlie Kirk assassinated. you reap what you sow.

are you being "lazy?" or are you respecting your body's limits and pacing yourself accordingly?

RIP to the legend Giorgio Armani, 91

moots who ignore/hide when someone unexpectedly knocks on your door: do you do this because of your culture, as a trauma response, or a secret third reason? I'm definitely all three 😓

"freedom of speech" does not equal freedom from consequences and accountability. when you spread misinformation or incite violence, you're going to get checked by the society you live in and the people your words harm.

I cannot be the only one finding this press conference utterly incoherent 🤨

I urge you to remember who else attacked journalists' credibility and the free press...

disabled people are far better scientists than many doctors. we take our time reading studies in order to fully comprehend them. we conduct our own N-of-1 research, or find others with our condition who will experiment with us. we have a pressing interest in finding solutions!

apparently we will do everything BUT protect vulnerable people from violence

Please stop using generative Ai, especially for mental health support! You deserve the support of a living, trained human being who will respond appropriately to your needs and can be held accountable if they cause you harm.

it is vital for your wellbeing and personal growth that you socialize with people who are different than you. different ages, cultures, genders, backgrounds, all of it. your life will be richer for hearing their perspectives.

my service dog doesn't care about other dogs so tonight he has a playdate with three cats

a student in my conflict resolution & communication workshop yesterday: "This class should be a prerequisite for anybody to date me."

I'm teaching this afternoon. Its a small but impactful thing to pass on knowledge and help others build relationships (and boundaries) that actually work for them.

Supremely fucked up to get a legitimate email from Medicare about benefits with a picture of snake oil salesman Dr Oz in the header. American healthcare is beyond cooked, we're boiled and broiled to a crisp.

people who repeatedly misgender you aren't doing it because you're clocky, they do it because they're mean. nothing you do will alter their mean spirit, so live your life and starve them of the attention they crave.

what in the deep-fried-cheese-on-a-stick is happening in the DFL?!?

children truly are a marginalized class, everyone wants to talk over them without involving them...

"Slut" is misogyny, attacking a woman for saying yes. "Friend Zone" is misogyny, attacking her for saying no. "Bitch" is misogyny, attacking her for nonconformity or being unpleasant. "Ho" is misogyny, attacking her for charging for her time.

Columbia eliminated child marriage by raising the age to consent to marriage to 18. Are children legally protected from abuse via marriage where you live?

Phones are a distraction to kids in the classroom. - AND - Phones are a vital tool for kids to document abuse, contact their trusted adults, and keep themselves safe. Because kids need to be safe first in order to learn, they must continue to have their phones in school.

Grief is horrendous. Aubrey Plaza won't hear your bad takes about her grieving process but the people in your life will, and your shitty opinion will make them trust you less.

spent 2.5 hours booking additional home-services I need because my chronic condition is flaring up, please clap

Dear BDSM Newbies, Kink without informed consent and an aftercare plan is abuse. You're entitled to a play partner who respects your boundaries and communicates with you before and after a scene. Anything less is an abusive person using kink to find victims. Be Safe, Have Fun💋