Share a great female villain.

With 2026 firmly on the horizon, Etiquetteer suggests what's In and Out for Perfect Propriety: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners

And have you, in fact, started your thank-you notes yet?

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #nationalthankyounoteday. If you haven't already, it is absolutely time to sit down and express handwritten #thanks for gifts received. You can do it! #etiquette #manners #correspondence #christmas #boxingday

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Christmas Day.

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a PerfectlyProper #nationaleggnogday. The Old Family Recipe is in this column from Volume 19: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2020... #etiquette #manners #eggnog #christmas #christmascheer #homemade #eggnogday

The friend of a reader has just asked to be referred to as “Doctor,” though their degree isn’t medical. Is this Perfectly Proper? Etiquetteer recommends kindness, and also brings up such disparate characters as Jill Biden, Aletta Jacobs, and the Duchess of Kent. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025...

Etiquetteer took umbrage at the suggestion of a Respected Etiquette Mentor that “Nobody cares” about your holiday newsletter. So Etiquetteer puts forward today a few Perfectly Proper guidelines for this Joyous Ritual that a lot of people do, in fact, care about. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025...

Table manners, financial gifts at a baby shower . . . and what to do when you've slept through a holiday party. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners

In the words of the late Mrs. Honeychurch, "Must he sneer and spoil everyone's pleasure?" #etiquette #manners

#Thanksgiving is well and truly done, and Etiquetteer sweeps up a few of the leftovers to share today, including cranberry sauce, sweet potato casserole, Actual Leftovers, Billie Holliday, and Mariah Carey. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #cranberrysauce

Well . . . did anyone have to say "Quiet, Piggie" at #Thanksgiving yesterday? How did it go? #etiquette #manners

And another thing: the ladle on the gravy boat is not for pouring, but the place to rest the ladle. This is especially true if the gravy boat's underplate is attached. Otherwise, you end up with a mess. #thanksgiving

I do believe it was Mrs. Beeton who said "When pastry comes out, meat may go in." Awfully important when one considers the cooking order for #thanksgiving and the other Great Feasts.

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Thanksgiving Day.

Today Etiquetteer tossed together a few little bits, such as “to the manor/manner born,” the formality of peas, and what to do with that soup spoon. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #thanksgiving

Just how DO you place your silver when the meal is done? www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #tablemanners #louisxiv

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Princess Day with this commentary on What We Expect of a Princess from Volume 19. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2020... #etiquette #manners #prettyprettyprincess #nationalprincessday

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #WorldKindnessDay. Etiquette has changed a lot in the last 50 years, to be used less as a tool for exclusion and more as a way to include as many people as possible in pleasant community. We can all of us do better. When in doubt, #bekind.

Have you been a Holiday Orphan? Etiquetteer has a few tips for how to get through a Great Feast with someone else's family. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #thanksgiving

Now that #Halloween has passed, Etiquetteer meditates on the seasons of seasonal decorations, Christmas Creep, and when it's #PerfectlyProper to start listening to Mariah Carey. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #decorativegourdseason

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Hallowe'en.

Today Etiquetteer takes a look at Clarissa: Muse to Power, the new biography of Clarissa Eden by Hugo Vickers: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #bookreview #greatbritain #politicallife

For #FlashbackFriday, and considering the demolition of the East Wing, let's go back in time to #2015 and Etiquetteer's tour of the #WhiteHouse: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2015... #etiquette #manners #obamaadministration

Today Etiquetteer sympathizes with a reader who believes a meal should be shared — even if that means waiting to start until everyone has been served: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #tablemanners #patience

A reader has HAD IT with people who say "Bless you!" after someone sneezes. Etiquetteer shares wisdom from Dear Mother, and more. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #achoo #sneezing #patience

when you tie a tie, try to put in a dimple, like so

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Dessert Day with some Rhapsodic Wax from Volume 19: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2020... #etiquette #manners #mignardise

If it's October 10, then it must be time for Etiquetteer to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Handbag Day with the traditional posting of Dame Edith Evans as Lady Bracknell. www.youtube.com/watch?v=oVQI... #etiquette #manners #handbag #handbagday #theimportanceofbeingearnest #linereading

Have you been trapped by someone eager to show you every single photo on their phone? Etiquetteer recommends a weapon in the Etiquette Arsenal to help extricate yourself. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #kindness

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Orange Wine Day. No, it's not made from oranges, silly! In winemaking, when the grape skins are not removed from white wine grapes, the resulting color is this delicate orange or amber. Serve as you would other white wines. #delicious

Is it rude to ask someone about their scent? Etiquetteer offers an opinion, and of course has to drag in Charlotte Vale and Nancy Mitford: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #perfume #cologne #mystery #discretion

Etiquetteer is just in a dire mood today considering the Current State of things. This column is little more than a daydream of old etiquette books, current examples of heckling, and the need for all of us to represent the behavior we most want to see. #manners www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025...

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalcoffeeday. The problem with a #coffee mug is, where do you put the spoon if there's no saucer? It's bad manners to put used silverware directly onto the table. Maybe it's time to Bring Back the Saucer? #etiquette #manners #tablemanners

Today Etiquetteer offers a checklist of invitation basics before you start sending out your holiday party invitations. It’s never to early to consider the details. www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025...

Quite possibly one of the most disgusting things one can see or hear on #publictransportation is someone clipping their fingernails. Faugh! For the sake of Perfect Propriety, don’t leave home until your grooming is complete. #etiquette #manners #decency #courtesy

"My husband lets me play" is the new "My wife doesn't understand me." 🙄 #etiquette #manners #adultery

Blocking Nazis, trolls, and fascists doesn’t make it an “echo chamber.” People need to stop gaslighting us into thinking we have to listen to Nazis and debate trolls in order to be informed.

A reader's query about steering discussion away from politics at big family celebrations inevitably includes a lot of dialogue from Jezebel (1938): www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #holidays #braceyourselfmillicent #politics

As the Not Nice Babysitter used to say, "Do it NOW!" Today Etiquetteer advises on holiday preparation you can start in September and October, to make November and December that much smoother: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #etiquette #manners #christmas #thanksgiving

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #felthatday. Now it's time to bed down our straw hats for the winter and brush up our favorite felts. (I don't make the rules, it's the National Day Calendar.) Read Etiquetteer's history of the tradition here: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2015...

For those of you who might be wanting to express an opinion to the Supreme Court, here's how to do so with Perfect Propriety: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2024... #etiquette #manners #scotus

If you're the sort to get out the good china and silver for a dinner date at home, he'd better be the sort who wants to help you clean up after dinner. #etiquette #manners #usethegoodstuff #niceyoungmenwhosellantiquesdoit

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper birthday of Elizabeth I (1533), whose Rainbow Portrait I saw at Hatfield House this summer. Elizabeth's abhorred scented leather. Gentlemen who wd appear before her wearing scented leather gloves would basically be sent to the end of the line.

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalreadabookday. And what could be more Perfectly Proper than to return to the Pure Milk of the Word, Emily Post's 1922 edition of Etiquette? What are YOU reading? #manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #LaborDay.

This is your seasonal reminder that seersucker does not need to be put away after Labor Day depending on local temperatures. Read why here: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2020... #etiquette #manners #menswear #laborday #seersuckersuit

How can we band Best Society together in this National Moment? www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #wtaf #whatfreshhellisthis #bestsociety

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #NationalDogDay with this gentle reminder to #curbyourdog. Signs like this shouldn't have to be so explicit. But then, as good dog owners will hasten to point out, there are no bad dogs, only bad dog owners. #etiquette #manners #petiquette

A reader is suffering from a glut of spam, all of it from men, and wants to know a) how to stop it, and b) if spamming really is unique to men. Etiquetteer of course has to include a passing reference to Edith Wharton: www.etiquetteer.com/columns/2025... #netiquette #manners #etiquette